What do you make of it when adults refer to their mom or dad as just “Mom” or “Dad”

[Anonymous]

^ odd response

[Anonymous]

Ugh this is really a pet peeve of mine too!

[Anonymous]

This post is funny. When I moved to this area, I noticed people said Mom or Dad whether or not they added a modifier. I grew up saying “my mother” or “my father” when talking to anyone outside my nuclear family. And the adults and kids would say the same, where’s your mother? Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, teachers, etc. But when I moved here, I wasn’t annoyed by what anyone called their parents though, and definitely didn’t bring it up to anyone saying it’s strange. Live and let live.

[Anonymous]

"Mom" reflects a tighter bond than saying "My mom".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Mom" reflects a tighter bond than saying "My mom".

No. It reflects a self-absorbed person that thinks it's their world, and other people are just living in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Instead of saying “my mom” or “my dad” when they are talking to non-related other adults? I have two friends who do this, and I find it very peculiar. They are women in their 40s and 50s, and then they talk about their dads to me or in a group of friends, they just refer to him as “Dad.” Like, “Dad was late to pick up the kids from school so Steve had to scramble to go get them because I was in a meeting.” Or “Dad fell again and is in the hospital.”

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Mom" reflects a tighter bond than saying "My mom".

I agree. My best friend does this and it makes me realize she grew up with a much different relationship than me with my abusive family. I would never say mom, I feel so detached from my own mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Mom" reflects a tighter bond than saying "My mom".

I agree. My best friend does this and it makes me realize she grew up with a much different relationship than me with my abusive family. I would never say mom, I feel so detached from my own mother.

No. It's baby talk. Children do this, adults should not. It suggests arrested development.

[Anonymous]

I would think you, OP, have too much time on your hands to think about it.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think anything of it, but that’s because I generally don’t split hairs over the small stuff that isn’t important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Instead of saying “my mom” or “my dad” when they are talking to non-related other adults? I have two friends who do this, and I find it very peculiar. They are women in their 40s and 50s, and then they talk about their dads to me or in a group of friends, they just refer to him as “Dad.” Like, “Dad was late to pick up the kids from school so Steve had to scramble to go get them because I was in a meeting.” Or “Dad fell again and is in the hospital.”

You are weird

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I wonder how people get through the day. If such trivial stuff bothers you, you need help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a few people who do this. They're people with the types of families who are close knit and also treat everyone else like family. For example one friend whose parents live near by , they invite us to their family gatherings a couple times a year and always say "the more the merrier."

+1, this is the exact same experience I have. The people I know who are closest with their parents refer to them this way. It has never bothered me, how odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It bothers me too haha. I wouldnt say anything, but yeah, it sounds like a child talking.

+1
I also would not say a thing, but I do notice this and view the person as a little less polished

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Mom" reflects a tighter bond than saying "My mom".

No. It reflects a self-absorbed person that thinks it's their world, and other people are just living in it.

YES - this! Thank you PP for articulating this so well. To me, saying "Mom" or "Dad" without a modifier reflects self absorption.