What do you make of it when adults refer to their mom or dad as just “Mom” or “Dad”

[Anonymous]

I've met a few people who do this and it's so awkward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is saying 'I'm at work' or 'I'm going home' also narcisstic, juvenile, stunted and self-centered? Or is it understood that people are talking about their workplace and their home?
Who else, other than their own mother, would they call 'Mom', FFS.

This thread is truly baffling.

Don’t be dumb. It’s about the listeners relationship with the parent. Which one leaves you unsure of who we are talking about. Spoiler, it’s the only one where one adult talks to another adult without using ‘my’

Father to son: ‘mom has been drinking, let’s take her home’

Father to son: ‘my mom had been drinking, let’s take her home’

Father to friend: ‘mom has been drinking, let’s take her home’

Father is to friend: ‘my mom has been drinking, let’s take her home’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Instead of saying “my mom” or “my dad” when they are talking to non-related other adults? I have two friends who do this, and I find it very peculiar. They are women in their 40s and 50s, and then they talk about their dads to me or in a group of friends, they just refer to him as “Dad.” Like, “Dad was late to pick up the kids from school so Steve had to scramble to go get them because I was in a meeting.” Or “Dad fell again and is in the hospital.”

Np Well you know it isn't YOUR dad so why can't they just say Dad? My siblings used to say "my mom" and I was like she's my Mom too. Ultimately I think it is no big deal and you sound annoying

[Anonymous]

Don’t be dumb. It’s about the listeners relationship with the parent. Which one leaves you unsure of who we are talking about.

No, it isn't.
If you are chatting with a friend, and she says: 'Mom has really been into gardening lately', you would actually think she's talking about your mom?

[Anonymous]

I hate when people do this. Only know two people who do this: one from Boston and one from Georgia.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t be dumb. It’s about the listeners relationship with the parent. Which one leaves you unsure of who we are talking about.

No, it isn't.
If you are chatting with a friend, and she says: 'Mom has really been into gardening lately', you would actually think she's talking about your mom?

I don’t have friends that do annoying things like this. We don’t share a mother, so yes, you specify that your mother has been really into gardening lately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t be dumb. It’s about the listeners relationship with the parent. Which one leaves you unsure of who we are talking about.

No, it isn't.
If you are chatting with a friend, and she says: 'Mom has really been into gardening lately', you would actually think she's talking about your mom?

No, but it just sounds odd to use a term that denotes a close family relationship with someone who is not a relative. “Mom” is not an actual name in this context; it’s a term used to address someone who is your female parent, not a name that someone who is not the person's progeny would ordinarily use.

If you had a few friends named Larla, you might say to another friend, “My sister Larla has been really into gardening lately,” so they would know which Larla you are speaking of. Same with “Mom.” There are a lot of people who are called Mom, so it makes sense to indicate which one you are talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t be dumb. It’s about the listeners relationship with the parent. Which one leaves you unsure of who we are talking about.

No, it isn't.
If you are chatting with a friend, and she says: 'Mom has really been into gardening lately', you would actually think she's talking about your mom?

No, but it just sounds odd to use a term that denotes a close family relationship with someone who is not a relative. “Mom” is not an actual name in this context; it’s a term used to address someone who is your female parent, not a name that someone who is not the person's progeny would ordinarily use.

If you had a few friends named Larla, you might say to another friend, “My sister Larla has been really into gardening lately,” so they would know which Larla you are speaking of. Same with “Mom.” There are a lot of people who are called Mom, so it makes sense to indicate which one you are talking about.

But people don’t just refer to Mom out of the blue; there’s virtually always context. You friend asks how was your visit to your hometown and you tell her that it was awesome because Mom and Dad watched the kids in the mornings so you could sleep in. No one would have trouble figuring out who you were talking about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is saying 'I'm at work' or 'I'm going home' also narcisstic, juvenile, stunted and self-centered? Or is it understood that people are talking about their workplace and their home?
Who else, other than their own mother, would they call 'Mom', FFS.

This thread is truly baffling.

Don’t be dumb. It’s about the listeners relationship with the parent. Which one leaves you unsure of who we are talking about. Spoiler, it’s the only one where one adult talks to another adult without using ‘my’

Father to son: ‘mom has been drinking, let’s take her home’

Father to son: ‘my mom had been drinking, let’s take her home’

Father to friend: ‘mom has been drinking, let’s take her home’

Father is to friend: ‘my mom has been drinking, let’s take her home’

You’ve got Main Character Syndrome if you think that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is saying 'I'm at work' or 'I'm going home' also narcisstic, juvenile, stunted and self-centered? Or is it understood that people are talking about their workplace and their home?
Who else, other than their own mother, would they call 'Mom', FFS.

This thread is truly baffling.

Don’t be dumb. It’s about the listeners relationship with the parent. Which one leaves you unsure of who we are talking about. Spoiler, it’s the only one where one adult talks to another adult without using ‘my’

Father to son: ‘mom has been drinking, let’s take her home’

Father to son: ‘my mom had been drinking, let’s take her home’

Father to friend: ‘mom has been drinking, let’s take her home’

Father is to friend: ‘my mom has been drinking, let’s take her home’

You’ve got Main Character Syndrome if you think that.

I don’t think that means what you think it means. Anyways, next time someone tell me, ‘Dad was on the hospital this weekend’ I’ll replay with, ‘I was just with Dad at the rodeo with Mom’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Don’t be dumb. It’s about the listeners relationship with the parent. Which one leaves you unsure of who we are talking about.

No, it isn't.
If you are chatting with a friend, and she says: 'Mom has really been into gardening lately', you would actually think she's talking about your mom?

No, but it just sounds odd to use a term that denotes a close family relationship with someone who is not a relative. “Mom” is not an actual name in this context; it’s a term used to address someone who is your female parent, not a name that someone who is not the person's progeny would ordinarily use.

If you had a few friends named Larla, you might say to another friend, “My sister Larla has been really into gardening lately,” so they would know which Larla you are speaking of. Same with “Mom.” There are a lot of people who are called Mom, so it makes sense to indicate which one you are talking about.

But people don’t just refer to Mom out of the blue; there’s virtually always context. You friend asks how was your visit to your hometown and you tell her that it was awesome because Mom and Dad watched the kids in the mornings so you could sleep in. No one would have trouble figuring out who you were talking about.

I’ve know people who just talk about Mom as though it’s her first name without any context at all. It’s off-putting.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't bother me because we both know it's their mom and not mine. It's shorthand for "my Mom" or "my Dad".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Instead of saying “my mom” or “my dad” when they are talking to non-related other adults? I have two friends who do this, and I find it very peculiar. They are women in their 40s and 50s, and then they talk about their dads to me or in a group of friends, they just refer to him as “Dad.” Like, “Dad was late to pick up the kids from school so Steve had to scramble to go get them because I was in a meeting.” Or “Dad fell again and is in the hospital.”

This is one of my pet peeves. It's so weird.

[Anonymous]

The problem isn’t that it’s confusing. The problem is that it’s strange. “Mom” and “Dad” aren’t these people’s names. They are terms of endearment or titles.

The people I know who do this are not Southern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The problem isn’t that it’s confusing. The problem is that it’s strange. “Mom” and “Dad” aren’t these people’s names. They are terms of endearment or titles.

The people I know who do this are not Southern.

It’s really not a problem and such a tiny thing to be annoyed about.