Mom Remarried- New Guy And Shoes

[Anonymous]

Definitely a troll. OP doesn't want to bring up the shoeless thing with mom but is fine breaking her heart by staging a sibling walk out on Thanksgiving over shoes.

Nice try, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

What? You are all going to do this because he wanted shoes off in the house? What on earth is wrong with you people?

I call troll -- no one is going to be doing a full Thanksgiving at their house this last minute; turkeys take days to thaw.

They have fresh turkeys you know.

Yeah, sure. Lots of those available the day before Thanksgiving. Just mosey on into the grocery store and pick one out.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am still cooking so can't wade through every response, but what are you hoping to accomplish by deliberately instigating conflict on a holiday where you are kindly being hosted to a family meal? Do you hate your mom and want to humiliate her? Need endless attention from the extended family and negative will do? Do you have a PDA diagnosis or do your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of foot and toe injuries so going shoeless is a problem for me. I hate it when people think I should go against medical advice and go shoeless just because they are too lazy to clean their floors after a party

I have psoriatic arthitis and use various creams on my heels. No, I don't feel like advertsing this, espcially in a house I presumably ran round in shoes in for years. How inconsiderate of your 'stepdad'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

What? You are all going to do this because he wanted shoes off in the house? What on earth is wrong with you people?

I call troll -- no one is going to be doing a full Thanksgiving at their house this last minute; turkeys take days to thaw.

They have fresh turkeys you know.

+1. I'm going to my inlaws and I'm bringing a Turkey Roulade I made this morning along with roasted brussels. MY BIL is brining cranberry sauce and pie. Pretty much only need mashed potates and stuffing at that point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a lot of foot and toe injuries so going shoeless is a problem for me. I hate it when people think I should go against medical advice and go shoeless just because they are too lazy to clean their floors after a party

I have psoriatic arthitis and use various creams on my heels. No, I don't feel like advertsing this, espcially in a house I presumably ran round in shoes in for years. How inconsiderate of your 'stepdad'

SHE WAS GIVEN ADVANCE NOTICE! They can wear slippers/socks/indoor only shoes that they can bring. This is most possibly the stupidest hill to die on and alienate their mother

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

What impact do you expect that to have on your mom? What do you expect your relationship with her will be going forward? She is cooking a meal and your have invited her guest list for a meal without telling her?

Did you get sent to a wilderness camp as a teen, OP? If not, perhaps that was a missed opportunity. Happy cooking!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely a troll. OP doesn't want to bring up the shoeless thing with mom but is fine breaking her heart by staging a sibling walk out on Thanksgiving over shoes.

Nice try, OP.

And humiliating her in front of other guests. Hope you are a troll, OP, but, DMV seems to have a lot of people like you, so, hard to say for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely a troll. OP doesn't want to bring up the shoeless thing with mom but is fine breaking her heart by staging a sibling walk out on Thanksgiving over shoes.

Nice try, OP.

And humiliating her in front of other guests. Hope you are a troll, OP, but, DMV seems to have a lot of people like you, so, hard to say for sure.

You mean her barefoot guests?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

Shenanigans like this will lead to her leaving the house to your stepfather rather than you sorry excuses for children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely a troll. OP doesn't want to bring up the shoeless thing with mom but is fine breaking her heart by staging a sibling walk out on Thanksgiving over shoes.

Nice try, OP.

And humiliating her in front of other guests. Hope you are a troll, OP, but, DMV seems to have a lot of people like you, so, hard to say for sure.

You mean her barefoot guests?

Is this supposed to be some kind of insult?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

So the group reaction to losing one parent is to shut out the remaining one because you don't agree with her life choices. Very mature OP. You and your siblings deserve each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

So the group reaction to losing one parent is to shut out the remaining one because you don't agree with her life choices. Very mature OP. You and your siblings deserve each other.

You are right, we do.

My mom's hsband's reaction to us texting HER was to send a nasty, cursing text to my brother telling him not to come.

So, now, none of us are going. They can enjo their day in their socks all by themselves. The other 16 people will be at mu house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No, you can't ignore it. It's his house (and hers too now)-- but it's not yours and that's the key point. If it bothers you, bring slippers.

When your parent marries, you have to make compromises and accept changes. Welcome to being an adult stepchild!

What? No, you do not have to accept changes. He can accept that people wear shoes in the house that they have been wearing shoes in for the last 4 decades!

I disagree. There maybe be an immune suppression issue or they just might find it difficult at their age to clean.

Unless he’s twisting OP’s mom’s arm to make it a shoeless house, it’s okay to have changes when you marry. Part of successful se one marriages is compromise and change.

[Anonymous]

Thank god your mom married someone who appreciates cleanliness.