Mom Remarried- New Guy And Shoes

[Anonymous]

I get that you feel like he's an intruder or interloper in your family home, but you should respect the households rules. If that is now shoefree, then bring some slippers.

It will not go well if you try and disregard this, you'll be asked to remove them or he will have a case to not invite you back because you were so rude.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

LOL, yes it is. Who are you to say otherwise? Not a single friend of mine would ever say their childhood home is more their steparents than theirs. Is this whole forum full of greedy steparents?

I feel ya, OP, I hate when my dad's wife makes changes to the home-- which btw she does not own, which was her choice on purpose, because she doesn't want the hassle of dealing with it if my father dies before her. But she lives there and she has the right to, and I have to accept it. Especially over something as minor as shoes.

Can't you just bring some slippers? Why does this bother you so much? For all you know your mom has been yearning for a no-shoes house all her life and now has the chance to have it!

Honestly, possible.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the issue is not the socks but that this new guy is establishing rules for what is the kids' house as much as anyone's. If you grow up in a house, it's your house forever. I think your mom should tell her new husband to leave it alone for one day and let her kids come home and return to their comfortable patterns they grew up with.

lol. No it’s not your forever house once you are an adult.

OP how old are you? Unless she is a child, calling her “kid” is ridiculous.

LOL, yes it is. Who are you to say otherwise? Not a single friend of mine would ever say their childhood home is more their steparents than theirs. Is this whole forum full of greedy steparents?

I feel ya, OP, I hate when my dad's wife makes changes to the home-- which btw she does not own, which was her choice on purpose, because she doesn't want the hassle of dealing with it if my father dies before her. But she lives there and she has the right to, and I have to accept it. Especially over something as minor as shoes.

Can't you just bring some slippers? Why does this bother you so much? For all you know your mom has been yearning for a no-shoes house all her life and now has the chance to have it!

She has the right to? Why? I own my my mom's home before her husband does. My dad's will says so.

Because she lives there and I don't. And because my dad, who owns the house, backs her up. I do not own the house at all. It would be part of the estate if he owned it at his death, which he might or might not, and I would then own 1/3 of it. I don't own it. I have a partial testamentary interest.

[Anonymous]

He gave you advanced notice. Bring slippers. Why is it important to you to track outside germs and dirt into the house?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

Why is shoes the line you're choosing to draw, though?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

You are definitely TAH, OP.

[Anonymous]

It isn't your house. Take off your darned shoes. Geez. Why actively disrespect him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

Curious on why you want to dis your mom today? You didn’t answer my question on how old you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

What? You are all going to do this because he wanted shoes off in the house? What on earth is wrong with you people?

I call troll -- no one is going to be doing a full Thanksgiving at their house this last minute; turkeys take days to thaw.

[Anonymous]

F him and his no shoes rule. Wear them and tell him to pound sand if he opens his mouth.

[Anonymous]

I have a lot of foot and toe injuries so going shoeless is a problem for me. I hate it when people think I should go against medical advice and go shoeless just because they are too lazy to clean their floors after a party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

Great decision. Isn’t rude, you all get to see mom and carry on. He in his old age may have health issues or allergies that get aggravated with extra dirt or dust. Enjoy the holiday Op!

[Anonymous]

If you'd gotten that info from your mom would you respect it? If so, then respect it from him. Don't be an ass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

Wow, didn't expect these responses. I guess I should just know the audience.

Anyway, my siblings and I have decided we will stop by for a shoe free drink but we will then go to my house where thanksgiving will be held.

What? You are all going to do this because he wanted shoes off in the house? What on earth is wrong with you people?

I call troll -- no one is going to be doing a full Thanksgiving at their house this last minute; turkeys take days to thaw.

They have fresh turkeys you know.