Will I cause an eating disorder?

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

Lol okay wait. That’s really not a particularly impressive or notable limit - an hour a day is a LOT at their age. I now think you posted fishing for compliments bc you’re insecure about your parenting

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

Lol okay wait. That’s really not a particularly impressive or notable limit - an hour a day is a LOT at their age. I now think you posted fishing for compliments bc you’re insecure about your parenting

OP here. That’s the limit. Most days they never watch tv. We will do a family movie bight or show on the weekends but that’s about it. Maybe once a week they watch a little tv after dinner. Most days we are playing with them when we get home, do dinner, and then bath and just hanging out and reading books before bed.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

Lol okay wait. That’s really not a particularly impressive or notable limit - an hour a day is a LOT at their age. I now think you posted fishing for compliments bc you’re insecure about your parenting

OP here. That’s the limit. Most days they never watch tv. We will do a family movie bight or show on the weekends but that’s about it. Maybe once a week they watch a little tv after dinner. Most days we are playing with them when we get home, do dinner, and then bath and just hanging out and reading books before bed.

This is what most people do with kids that age. What’s special about this?

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

They’re young enough that it’s OK right now to really limit those things. You may need to loosen the reins a bit (a bit - you don’t have to allow unlimited amounts!) when they get a bit older.

My son has special needs, and one thing our therapist says that I really like is “work before play, and play before screens” to encourage other types of play and fun than video games and the internet. It’s about balance.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t buy pop tarts either, OP, but it my kids asked me why I’d say it’s because I don’t like how they taste (which is true — I didn’t grow up eating them and think they taste like cardboard). My kids get dessert every night though: homemade pie or cake, fresh or dried fruit, homemade biscuits with honey, maple sugar candy, etc. You don’t have to compromise on whole food ingredients and minimal processing to have treats and goodies around.

Why do you feel like your kid needs dessert every night?

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This has to be a troll trying to be the most insufferable parent. You don’t go from “I totally limit refined sugar” to “I let kids eat homemade pop tarts on the regular” in one post.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t buy pop tarts either, OP, but it my kids asked me why I’d say it’s because I don’t like how they taste (which is true — I didn’t grow up eating them and think they taste like cardboard). My kids get dessert every night though: homemade pie or cake, fresh or dried fruit, homemade biscuits with honey, maple sugar candy, etc. You don’t have to compromise on whole food ingredients and minimal processing to have treats and goodies around.

Why do you feel like your kid needs dessert every night?

PP who does dessert every night. We don’t need it but we like it. Dessert is delicious! OP doesn’t have to do dessert if she doesn’t want to, I was just making a counterpoint to everyone telling OP she had to give her kids pop tarts so they didn’t binge sugar on play dates. However based on later posts it appears OP is not interested in changing anything and made this post to tell us how superior her parenting is so my point was probably irrelevant.

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Anonymous wrote:Within a few years their eating will be mostly out of your control. I think you are fine to focus on healthy foods and your joy of cooking now. Teach them about growing strong. But don't be so rigid that you make negative comments when they attend a party or something like that. Be happy they have a strong base and be willing to let it slide as they age.

You are at the end of almost full parent control. It is fine to keep your house exactly the way you want it. If you find yourself sending special food for playdates or telling your kid he may not have the store bought cupcake at a party...you have gone too far. We keep our house pretty junk free but my kids still have lots of it. The bus driver gives lollypops some days. Halloween end of season soccer party birthday parties visiting grandparents...there is always something.

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Yes you will cause an eating disorder. Your obsession with food insane.

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Anonymous wrote:Hard to get past the humble brag here but I did it.

How young are your kids? At some point you’re going to lose control of what they’re eating everyday. They’ll go to school and there will be holidays and birthday parties - candy, cake, ice cream. Let them eat it. Don’t make them throw away their Halloween candy. They’ll be fine.

OP here. They are 3 and 4.5. This isn’t a humble brag. I’m definitely worried I’m causing harm and I might be too restrictive. While I don’t think pop tarts are healthy or nutritious and won’t allow them, they get treats on occasion and do enjoy Halloween candy in moderation.

I know I will have little control and slam it no control as they get older, but I feel it’s important to nourish their bodies with healthy foods and teach them healthy eating is good for them.

I'd worry about your OCD as well. Not only will you cause them an eating disorder, you will create kids who are fearful of you as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Hard to get past the humble brag here but I did it.

How young are your kids? At some point you’re going to lose control of what they’re eating everyday. They’ll go to school and there will be holidays and birthday parties - candy, cake, ice cream. Let them eat it. Don’t make them throw away their Halloween candy. They’ll be fine.

OP here. They are 3 and 4.5. This isn’t a humble brag. I’m definitely worried I’m causing harm and I might be too restrictive. While I don’t think pop tarts are healthy or nutritious and won’t allow them, they get treats on occasion and do enjoy Halloween candy in moderation.

I know I will have little control and slam it no control as they get older, but I feel it’s important to nourish their bodies with healthy foods and teach them healthy eating is good for them.

Yea, I thought similar except they were eating fast food and all as well. DD ended up with a severe eating disorder.

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Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll trying to be the most insufferable parent. You don’t go from “I totally limit refined sugar” to “I let kids eat homemade pop tarts on the regular” in one post.

I missed that part. Totally a troll then.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

Lol okay wait. That’s really not a particularly impressive or notable limit - an hour a day is a LOT at their age. I now think you posted fishing for compliments bc you’re insecure about your parenting

OP here. That’s the limit. Most days they never watch tv. We will do a family movie bight or show on the weekends but that’s about it. Maybe once a week they watch a little tv after dinner. Most days we are playing with them when we get home, do dinner, and then bath and just hanging out and reading books before bed.

This is what most people do with kids that age. What’s special about this?

+1 it’s weird how much you’re patting yourself on the back over this, that sounds completely standard/unremarkable and describes how most parents of 3 and 4 year olds do things. Seriously, set down the trophy…this isn’t unique

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

You've just got it all figured out. Check back in a few years and let us know how it's going.

Yeah OP went from “a little nutty but if she backs off in the food she’ll be fine” to “what an obnoxious a$$hole” in this one post.

She’s got it all figured out - not sure why she even needed to post in the first place.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

Lol okay wait. That’s really not a particularly impressive or notable limit - an hour a day is a LOT at their age. I now think you posted fishing for compliments bc you’re insecure about your parenting

OP here. That’s the limit. Most days they never watch tv. We will do a family movie bight or show on the weekends but that’s about it. Maybe once a week they watch a little tv after dinner. Most days we are playing with them when we get home, do dinner, and then bath and just hanging out and reading books before bed.

This is what most people do with kids that age. What’s special about this?

OP here. Most people I know with kids these ages all have kids who watch tv all day or have devices they’re on for periods throughout the day. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t let their kids not watch tv everyday like I do.