Will I cause an eating disorder?

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

You've just got it all figured out. Check back in a few years and let us know how it's going.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. I don’t know why people say
“ real life happens”. Yes some days are harder but my husband and I both work and find the time to interact with our kids. I think sticking your kids in front of devices for hours on end or all day is lazy parenting regardless of how busy you are. It’s not that difficult to get down on the floor and play with your kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. I don’t know why people say
“ real life happens”. Yes some days are harder but my husband and I both work and find the time to interact with our kids. I think sticking your kids in front of devices for hours on end or all day is lazy parenting regardless of how busy you are. It’s not that difficult to get down on the floor and play with your kids.

Mkay but nobody here has said they stick their kids in front of devices all day. My kids are a few years older than yours. They are busy at school, come home do some quick homework, go to activities, dinner, more HW, then bed. You're in peak playing on the floor days. Parenting changes drastically in a few years. You have no idea what you don't even know but you're acting so preachy about your parenting philosophy. My 13 and 10 yr olds doesn't want to wrestle on the ground.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. I don’t know why people say
“ real life happens”. Yes some days are harder but my husband and I both work and find the time to interact with our kids. I think sticking your kids in front of devices for hours on end or all day is lazy parenting regardless of how busy you are. It’s not that difficult to get down on the floor and play with your kids.

Mkay but nobody here has said they stick their kids in front of devices all day. My kids are a few years older than yours. They are busy at school, come home do some quick homework, go to activities, dinner, more HW, then bed. You're in peak playing on the floor days. Parenting changes drastically in a few years. You have no idea what you don't even know but you're acting so preachy about your parenting philosophy. My 13 and 10 yr olds doesn't want to wrestle on the ground.

OP here. I have an old school mentality. My kids play outside as much as possible and will continue to do so. We aren’t going to have them stuck inside on devices or video games and refuse to go outside. My cousins and my sister parent this way ( older kids) with little issue. I don’t understand why people think it’s an issue to not have your kids addicted to devices.

Most kids are addicted to their phones. Most teens are addicted to their phones and social media. Most don’t ever go outside to play and stay inside playing video games or on their phones all day. I have family and friends who have young kids that all have tablets and iPads and phones. I go to the park and you have young kids preschool and kindergarten age sitting on benches playing on phones at the park. It seems most parents don’t actually enjoy spending time with their kids and just give them devises to shut them up. I see so many families with parents just as stuck to their devices and ignoring their kids. It’s sad to watch.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. I don’t know why people say
“ real life happens”. Yes some days are harder but my husband and I both work and find the time to interact with our kids. I think sticking your kids in front of devices for hours on end or all day is lazy parenting regardless of how busy you are. It’s not that difficult to get down on the floor and play with your kids.

Mkay but nobody here has said they stick their kids in front of devices all day. My kids are a few years older than yours. They are busy at school, come home do some quick homework, go to activities, dinner, more HW, then bed. You're in peak playing on the floor days. Parenting changes drastically in a few years. You have no idea what you don't even know but you're acting so preachy about your parenting philosophy. My 13 and 10 yr olds doesn't want to wrestle on the ground.

OP here. I have an old school mentality. My kids play outside as much as possible and will continue to do so. We aren’t going to have them stuck inside on devices or video games and refuse to go outside. My cousins and my sister parent this way ( older kids) with little issue. I don’t understand why people think it’s an issue to not have your kids addicted to devices.

Most kids are addicted to their phones. Most teens are addicted to their phones and social media. Most don’t ever go outside to play and stay inside playing video games or on their phones all day. I have family and friends who have young kids that all have tablets and iPads and phones. I go to the park and you have young kids preschool and kindergarten age sitting on benches playing on phones at the park. It seems most parents don’t actually enjoy spending time with their kids and just give them devises to shut them up. I see so many families with parents just as stuck to their devices and ignoring their kids. It’s sad to watch.

You don't have teens or anything close to it. Come back in 10 years and tell us how you've managed to parent teens who don't have phones. Nobody cares about parenting advice for teens from a parent of preschoolers.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. I don’t know why people say
“ real life happens”. Yes some days are harder but my husband and I both work and find the time to interact with our kids. I think sticking your kids in front of devices for hours on end or all day is lazy parenting regardless of how busy you are. It’s not that difficult to get down on the floor and play with your kids.

Mkay but nobody here has said they stick their kids in front of devices all day. My kids are a few years older than yours. They are busy at school, come home do some quick homework, go to activities, dinner, more HW, then bed. You're in peak playing on the floor days. Parenting changes drastically in a few years. You have no idea what you don't even know but you're acting so preachy about your parenting philosophy. My 13 and 10 yr olds doesn't want to wrestle on the ground.

OP here. I have an old school mentality. My kids play outside as much as possible and will continue to do so. We aren’t going to have them stuck inside on devices or video games and refuse to go outside. My cousins and my sister parent this way ( older kids) with little issue. I don’t understand why people think it’s an issue to not have your kids addicted to devices.

Most kids are addicted to their phones. Most teens are addicted to their phones and social media. Most don’t ever go outside to play and stay inside playing video games or on their phones all day. I have family and friends who have young kids that all have tablets and iPads and phones. I go to the park and you have young kids preschool and kindergarten age sitting on benches playing on phones at the park. It seems most parents don’t actually enjoy spending time with their kids and just give them devises to shut them up. I see so many families with parents just as stuck to their devices and ignoring their kids. It’s sad to watch.

For someone who feels this way about screens, you sure are spending a lot of time writing long messages and responding in lots of detail to pretty much every poster.

Honestly, OP, how you’ve described you are feeding your kids sounds fine, and great work they don’t sound picky. But the details that are coming out in your posts make me think you are controlling and judgmental generally. I get it, I like to be in control too. It’s easier when they are younger, and tougher once they hit elementary and beyond. You also want to foster independence and promote good choices. This requires respect, flexibility, and trust. It can be a tough needle to thread.

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Nothing wrong with controlling everything that goes into their months at that young age. Just accept you won't always be able to. Some day, they will come home and announce they ate a Twinkie at a friend's house and it was AWESOME. You will drop them off at a friend's birthday party and they will eat candy from the goody bag before you pick them up. A friend will offer to trade their Cheetos for your son's homemade vegan breadsticks.

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with controlling everything that goes into their months at that young age. Just accept you won't always be able to. Some day, they will come home and announce they ate a Twinkie at a friend's house and it was AWESOME. You will drop them off at a friend's birthday party and they will eat candy from the goody bag before you pick them up. A friend will offer to trade their Cheetos for your son's homemade vegan breadsticks.

OP isn’t vegan. They eat meat and diary.

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing wrong with controlling everything that goes into their months at that young age. Just accept you won't always be able to. Some day, they will come home and announce they ate a Twinkie at a friend's house and it was AWESOME. You will drop them off at a friend's birthday party and they will eat candy from the goody bag before you pick them up. A friend will offer to trade their Cheetos for your son's homemade vegan breadsticks.

OP isn’t vegan. They eat meat and diary.

* dairy

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Anonymous wrote:My mother cooked clean because she really didn’t know how to cook. She would roast chickens plain. Anything else she broils, again no sauces. Plain sandwiches no condiments, Plain vegetables, pasta with marinara, no cheese. Nothing fried because she never had anny fried food based on where she lived. Only what was necessary no extras.

But we had our junk deserts, cookies, brownies, ice cream.

The OP admits to boasting about her healthy cooking and probably is coming off a little superior. No need for that.

OP here. I’m not boasting or think my way of feeding my children is superior. I’m just trying to do what I feel is best. In a world where obesity is an epidemic and we had bounds of junk and processed foods, I’m trying to teach my kids that healthy eating is better for you. I have several overweight family members with chronic health issues due to poor diets. I want to teach my children that poor eating habits equal bad consequences and vice versa.

You are doing a good job cooking but there’s no need to talk about it or call food bad or good. Just cook your food like everyone else does and your kids will be fine.

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This OP is very obnoxious. If you have to ask will I give my kid an ED, you are aware of some behaviors that will lead to it. Let go of the control.

[Anonymous]

I kept things pretty tight until age 5-6, then I loosened up gradually until teens, then I just aimed for balance - if we had a movie night with a few bags of junky candy, we also had a healthier version of potato chips & a big variety of cut up veggies. By then they know already that they do feel better when they eat overall nutriously. But nobody has a complex.

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Anonymous wrote:The label of “clean” eating introduces a morally hierarchy to food. You seem to feel a level of superiority based on your diet, but you seem to realize that. The thing that jumps out at me is not “allowing” certain foods bc they aren’t “clean”. Do you go to ice cream as a family? Try that cool new donut place? Can they order what they want when you’re out to eat? Can they eat everything offered at birthday parties? Of course instilling a love of nutritious foods is good, it completely depends on what the messaging is around the foods you deem unhealthy.

OP here. I don’t feel superior based on eating. I just had no nutritional education as a child and I’m passionate about teaching my children about cooking and nutrition. I have several family members who have had bad health issues due to bad eating habits and I really don’t want that for my kids. They already get it through genetics and I want to minimize it as much as I can control.

We do go for ice cream 1-2 times a month. They can order whatever they want when we go out. We don’t restrict junk food at family parties or outings unless they only eat junk. Then we tell them they have to eat something more substantial with their chips, cookies, candy, etc.

Then why did you write that you “boast about healthy foods often”?

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

This, exactly

It’s fine (good, even) to mostly cook and eat at home. Stick to doing that and lose the preachiness about it

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

Fwiw, I obviously agree with you about 3/4 year olds…but also just have to say it’s pretty clear you have only ever parented young kids