Will I cause an eating disorder?

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Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll trying to be the most insufferable parent. You don’t go from “I totally limit refined sugar” to “I let kids eat homemade pop tarts on the regular” in one post.

OP here. I’ve never said they eat homemade pop tarts on the regular. That’s a lie. I said I’ve made homemade pop tarts and pastries but it’s not a regular occurrence. They only eat dessert 1-2 times a week.

You do understand that you can make homemade baked goods without refined sugar, right?

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Anonymous wrote:Hard to get past the humble brag here but I did it.

How young are your kids? At some point you’re going to lose control of what they’re eating everyday. They’ll go to school and there will be holidays and birthday parties - candy, cake, ice cream. Let them eat it. Don’t make them throw away their Halloween candy. They’ll be fine.

OP here. They are 3 and 4.5. This isn’t a humble brag. I’m definitely worried I’m causing harm and I might be too restrictive. While I don’t think pop tarts are healthy or nutritious and won’t allow them, they get treats on occasion and do enjoy Halloween candy in moderation.

I know I will have little control and slam it no control as they get older, but I feel it’s important to nourish their bodies with healthy foods and teach them healthy eating is good for them.

I'd worry about your OCD as well. Not only will you cause them an eating disorder, you will create kids who are fearful of you as well.

OP here. I don’t have OCD. Why would you say that? Way too many wannabe doctors out here diagnosing strangers on the Internet.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

You've just got it all figured out. Check back in a few years and let us know how it's going.

Yeah OP went from “a little nutty but if she backs off in the food she’ll be fine” to “what an obnoxious a$$hole” in this one post.

She’s got it all figured out - not sure why she even needed to post in the first place.

OP here. I don’t have it all figured out but I was raising kids before I’ve had my own.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

You've just got it all figured out. Check back in a few years and let us know how it's going.

Yeah OP went from “a little nutty but if she backs off in the food she’ll be fine” to “what an obnoxious a$$hole” in this one post.

She’s got it all figured out - not sure why she even needed to post in the first place.

OP here. I don’t have it all figured out but I was raising kids before I’ve had my own.

Then you should know if you're going to give kids an eating disorder by being obsessed with what they put in their mouths. You seem to be here more to lecture others than to figure out if you're permanently messing up your own kids. You've raised them before, right? Your nanny experience must have told you what's best.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

Lol okay wait. That’s really not a particularly impressive or notable limit - an hour a day is a LOT at their age. I now think you posted fishing for compliments bc you’re insecure about your parenting

OP here. That’s the limit. Most days they never watch tv. We will do a family movie bight or show on the weekends but that’s about it. Maybe once a week they watch a little tv after dinner. Most days we are playing with them when we get home, do dinner, and then bath and just hanging out and reading books before bed.

This is what most people do with kids that age. What’s special about this?

OP here. Most people I know with kids these ages all have kids who watch tv all day or have devices they’re on for periods throughout the day. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t let their kids not watch tv everyday like I do.

You know a bunch of losers. Maybe expend your social circle? Because this isn't the norm everywhere. It's the people you know, that's it.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

You've just got it all figured out. Check back in a few years and let us know how it's going.

Yeah OP went from “a little nutty but if she backs off in the food she’ll be fine” to “what an obnoxious a$$hole” in this one post.

She’s got it all figured out - not sure why she even needed to post in the first place.

OP here. I don’t have it all figured out but I was raising kids before I’ve had my own.

Then you should know if you're going to give kids an eating disorder by being obsessed with what they put in their mouths. You seem to be here more to lecture others than to figure out if you're permanently messing up your own kids. You've raised them before, right? Your nanny experience must have told you what's best.

OP here. It wasn’t nanny experience. I helped raised my niece and nephew. I didn’t have control over their diets or what they ate. It was more so keeping them active and being involved.

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

Lol okay wait. That’s really not a particularly impressive or notable limit - an hour a day is a LOT at their age. I now think you posted fishing for compliments bc you’re insecure about your parenting

OP here. That’s the limit. Most days they never watch tv. We will do a family movie bight or show on the weekends but that’s about it. Maybe once a week they watch a little tv after dinner. Most days we are playing with them when we get home, do dinner, and then bath and just hanging out and reading books before bed.

This is what most people do with kids that age. What’s special about this?

OP here. Most people I know with kids these ages all have kids who watch tv all day or have devices they’re on for periods throughout the day. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t let their kids not watch tv everyday like I do.

You know a bunch of losers. Maybe expend your social circle? Because this isn't the norm everywhere. It's the people you know, that's it.

OP here. I’m talking about the ones on social media and the people I see all over the city in the parks. All their kids are glued to devices.

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Anonymous wrote:This has to be a troll trying to be the most insufferable parent. You don’t go from “I totally limit refined sugar” to “I let kids eat homemade pop tarts on the regular” in one post.

OP here. I’ve never said they eat homemade pop tarts on the regular. That’s a lie. I said I’ve made homemade pop tarts and pastries but it’s not a regular occurrence. They only eat dessert 1-2 times a week.

You do understand that you can make homemade baked goods without refined sugar, right?

Of course I know this, but I still call troll. You continue to be insufferable. Yes, you are the most perfect parent to ever parent.

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I think a lot of overweight people make themselves feel better by insisting that as soon as kids get to college, they’ll gorge on all the things their parents didn’t buy on a regular basis.

I disagree. The habits you grow up with tend to become your default when you get older.

For example, someone who never had soda at home might buy it a few times out of curiosity when they’re older, true. However, when they’re rushing to get groceries and thinking about their upcoming interview, they default to the habits that they don’t have to think about. If broccoli stir fry with rice is their “fast” easy to make meal, that’s what they’ll default to. If they’re used to a cup of tea to decompress, that’s what they’ll go back to.

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TBH the difficulty you are having accepting the feedback that the way you are talking about food *here* is moralizing gives me more concern than anything else. You asked for input, people are giving it to you, and you are rejecting it. Why?

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Anonymous wrote:TBH the difficulty you are having accepting the feedback that the way you are talking about food *here* is moralizing gives me more concern than anything else. You asked for input, people are giving it to you, and you are rejecting it. Why?

Food doesn’t have feelings. Stop saying people are moralizing food. We all objectively know there is healthy and unhealthy foods. You have bigger problems if you’re an adult and you don’t know this.

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Anonymous wrote:TBH the difficulty you are having accepting the feedback that the way you are talking about food *here* is moralizing gives me more concern than anything else. You asked for input, people are giving it to you, and you are rejecting it. Why?

+1 If the "I never say anything bad about food, I just cook dinner and make sure it's fairly healthy" line was true, OP would be fine. But the combative way she's My Way Or The Highway-ing every single reply, and the fact that she boasts about her foods and has decided every other kid in the DMV is existing on Cheetos and addicted to screens, gives the lie to her attempted framing.

OP I have a 4.5 year old. She does zero screentime on school days (Wowweeee! Gold medal can be mailed to my office!) but eats goldfish and animal crackers and had ice cream cake basically at bedtime last night for Granny's birthday. She's not better than your kid or worse. You're not the World Champion Parent of infants, toddlers, and teens that you've appointed yourself. The only self-aware thing you've shown in this *entire thread* was hearing your friend's comment about restrictive eating leading to problems and thinking, wait, could that apply to me? But instead of following the thread and loosening up, you've decided to argue with everyone on DCUM who says "yeah you could stand to relax" with I AM RELAXED! AND ANYWAY YOUR KIDS ARE FAT AND NEGLECTED AND ON TABLETS!

Godspeed, you weirdo. Good luck to your kids.

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I teach my kids there are foods that are unhealthy and not good for you. It’s my job as a parent to educate them. I tell them what will happen if they eat an abundance of those foods. Obesity is a serious epidemic. I don’t believe in body positivity and fat acceptance and teach my kids the same thing. We Americans lack accountability and seem to find excuses for bad behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:My 6th grade daughter brought a donut to school as a treat, and her so called friends said ew, arent you worried you’ll get fat? By the way, she is tiny. She has been facing bullying at school so the donut was a surprise to cheer her up.

np I think you have to be careful with this. Should food really be used to "cheer" people up?

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.

Lol okay wait. That’s really not a particularly impressive or notable limit - an hour a day is a LOT at their age. I now think you posted fishing for compliments bc you’re insecure about your parenting

OP here. That’s the limit. Most days they never watch tv. We will do a family movie bight or show on the weekends but that’s about it. Maybe once a week they watch a little tv after dinner. Most days we are playing with them when we get home, do dinner, and then bath and just hanging out and reading books before bed.

This is what most people do with kids that age. What’s special about this?

OP here. Most people I know with kids these ages all have kids who watch tv all day or have devices they’re on for periods throughout the day. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t let their kids not watch tv everyday like I do.

You know a bunch of losers. Maybe expend your social circle? Because this isn't the norm everywhere. It's the people you know, that's it.

OP here. I’m talking about the ones on social media and the people I see all over the city in the parks. All their kids are glued to devices.

So you have no social circle, friends or family? Do you even have 2 kids? This all sounds like an elaborate fantasy. And babysitting your niece and nephew doesn't mean you have any experience raising kids.