Will I cause an eating disorder?

[Anonymous]

Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 6th grade daughter brought a donut to school as a treat, and her so called friends said ew, arent you worried you’ll get fat? By the way, she is tiny. She has been facing bullying at school so the donut was a surprise to cheer her up.

OP here. This is so sad. I’m sorry your daughter had that experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

[Anonymous]

My mother cooked clean because she really didn’t know how to cook. She would roast chickens plain. Anything else she broils, again no sauces. Plain sandwiches no condiments, Plain vegetables, pasta with marinara, no cheese. Nothing fried because she never had anny fried food based on where she lived. Only what was necessary no extras.

But we had our junk deserts, cookies, brownies, ice cream.

The OP admits to boasting about her healthy cooking and probably is coming off a little superior. No need for that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mother cooked clean because she really didn’t know how to cook. She would roast chickens plain. Anything else she broils, again no sauces. Plain sandwiches no condiments, Plain vegetables, pasta with marinara, no cheese. Nothing fried because she never had anny fried food based on where she lived. Only what was necessary no extras.

But we had our junk deserts, cookies, brownies, ice cream.

The OP admits to boasting about her healthy cooking and probably is coming off a little superior. No need for that.

OP here. I’m not boasting or think my way of feeding my children is superior. I’m just trying to do what I feel is best. In a world where obesity is an epidemic and we had bounds of junk and processed foods, I’m trying to teach my kids that healthy eating is better for you. I have several overweight family members with chronic health issues due to poor diets. I want to teach my children that poor eating habits equal bad consequences and vice versa.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My mother cooked clean because she really didn’t know how to cook. She would roast chickens plain. Anything else she broils, again no sauces. Plain sandwiches no condiments, Plain vegetables, pasta with marinara, no cheese. Nothing fried because she never had anny fried food based on where she lived. Only what was necessary no extras.

But we had our junk deserts, cookies, brownies, ice cream.

The OP admits to boasting about her healthy cooking and probably is coming off a little superior. No need for that.

OP here. I’m not boasting or think my way of feeding my children is superior. I’m just trying to do what I feel is best. In a world where obesity is an epidemic and we had bounds of junk and processed foods, I’m trying to teach my kids that healthy eating is better for you. I have several overweight family members with chronic health issues due to poor diets. I want to teach my children that poor eating habits equal bad consequences and vice versa.

OP here. I’m talking obese and morbidly obese with things like diabetes, high blood pressure, stomach issues, etc. I’m not fat phobic but I also do not want my kids to go
down that path because we already have diabetes and heart disease in my family genetics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not ever moralize food. No food is ‘bad’ or ‘good.’ So you seriously tell your kids foods are bad and prohibit them?? Don’t do that!! So next year when your oldest is in K and a friend brings Cheetos for lunch, your kid is going to ask him why he is eating food that is bad for him.

I think your homemade meals seem great, but you really need to loosen the reins starting now. If your kid has never had a pop tart ever and is first exposed to them, what do you think he is going to do? Eat the whole box!!

My mom was like you - very restrictive with sweets and generally all food was always homemade. We had wheat pasta way back in the day. No juice ever, the whole 9 years. Both my sister and I developed very bad relationships with food. I got to college and totally pigged out. All the junk food, all the time. I eventually got it out of my system but it took therapy to deal with my controlling mother. My sister went the other way and became extremely controlling over her food. She will only eat healthy food - at restaurants, she asks to hold the potato’s and only steamed veggies and no oil, no salad dressing etc. Way worse than our mother ever was, but she really internalized the idea of some foods being bad. It has really hampered her social life even as an adult in her 40s. No significant other and few friends, who wants to hang out with the food police?

You should check out KidsEatInColor on Instagram. She has a pretty balanced approach about food, and says to never call food bad or good and never judge other people’s food.

Yeah no, some consumable products are terrible for you and should come with a warning label, I would not even call them foods.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do not ever moralize food. No food is ‘bad’ or ‘good.’ So you seriously tell your kids foods are bad and prohibit them?? Don’t do that!! So next year when your oldest is in K and a friend brings Cheetos for lunch, your kid is going to ask him why he is eating food that is bad for him.

I think your homemade meals seem great, but you really need to loosen the reins starting now. If your kid has never had a pop tart ever and is first exposed to them, what do you think he is going to do? Eat the whole box!!

My mom was like you - very restrictive with sweets and generally all food was always homemade. We had wheat pasta way back in the day. No juice ever, the whole 9 years. Both my sister and I developed very bad relationships with food. I got to college and totally pigged out. All the junk food, all the time. I eventually got it out of my system but it took therapy to deal with my controlling mother. My sister went the other way and became extremely controlling over her food. She will only eat healthy food - at restaurants, she asks to hold the potato’s and only steamed veggies and no oil, no salad dressing etc. Way worse than our mother ever was, but she really internalized the idea of some foods being bad. It has really hampered her social life even as an adult in her 40s. No significant other and few friends, who wants to hang out with the food police?

You should check out KidsEatInColor on Instagram. She has a pretty balanced approach about food, and says to never call food bad or good and never judge other people’s food.

Yeah no, some consumable products are terrible for you and should come with a warning label, I would not even call them foods.

+1. There are so many products that are now deemed cancer causing or can cause bodily issues. We have so many food ingredients that are banned in countries, including China. We are one of the wealthiest nations but have some of the crappiest foods.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My mother cooked clean because she really didn’t know how to cook. She would roast chickens plain. Anything else she broils, again no sauces. Plain sandwiches no condiments, Plain vegetables, pasta with marinara, no cheese. Nothing fried because she never had anny fried food based on where she lived. Only what was necessary no extras.

But we had our junk deserts, cookies, brownies, ice cream.

The OP admits to boasting about her healthy cooking and probably is coming off a little superior. No need for that.

OP here. I’m not boasting or think my way of feeding my children is superior. I’m just trying to do what I feel is best. In a world where obesity is an epidemic and we had bounds of junk and processed foods, I’m trying to teach my kids that healthy eating is better for you. I have several overweight family members with chronic health issues due to poor diets. I want to teach my children that poor eating habits equal bad consequences and vice versa.

You are giving your kids a gift, you are training their palette for life. In a couple of years it will get really difficult though so try to focus on educating them about nutrition.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 6th grade daughter brought a donut to school as a treat, and her so called friends said ew, arent you worried you’ll get fat? By the way, she is tiny. She has been facing bullying at school so the donut was a surprise to cheer her up.

That reminds me of a time I was at my kid's gymnastic lesson and there was a poster on the wall for a featured gymnast. She was maybe 9 or 10. They had some questions that each gymnast answered (favorite color, favorite TV show, etc.). When asked what her favorite food was, it was "salad." I felt kind of bad for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 6th grade daughter brought a donut to school as a treat, and her so called friends said ew, arent you worried you’ll get fat? By the way, she is tiny. She has been facing bullying at school so the donut was a surprise to cheer her up.

That reminds me of a time I was at my kid's gymnastic lesson and there was a poster on the wall for a featured gymnast. She was maybe 9 or 10. They had some questions that each gymnast answered (favorite color, favorite TV show, etc.). When asked what her favorite food was, it was "salad." I felt kind of bad for her.

My daughter is a gymnast and would totally put that down on paper. But it's not really true, she just thinks that's what she's supposed to say. She does like salad though, but it consists of a piece of ice berg lettuce drenched in dressing.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Every kid I know with super restrictive parents like this, eats like 5 bags of chips at a party or playdate instead of one bag like everyone else. Same goes with sugar options; they consume way more than others when exposed to it outside their house. This was me with cable tv when I was young. My parents refused to get cable and barely let me watch any tv, so instead all I wanted to do at other peoples houses was watch cable tv. OP, I think you need to lighten up a little. Balance is key.

OP here. We also don’t allow much tv and they don’t have regular access to tablets. We believe screens and tv just aren’t good for them.

OP here. My mom also let us watch ridiculous amounts of tv and we all had access to the internet at a young age. I think it’s sort of lazy parenting and young kids shouldn’t be given those devices.

I hope you're planning to home school because as soon as the kids hit kindergarten those devices are in their hands at school. But it's so adorable all these rules and "I nevers" you're planning for you 3 and 4 yr olds. I remember people like you when mine were a little younger. They are no longer like that because real life happened.

OP here. No. They will be going to a private catholic school.

I’m fine with devices at school but not really at home. We limit tv to 30-60 minutes a day . We prefer to interact with our kids instead of stick them in front of the tv so we can get our devices or ignore them. I feel it’s just lazy parenting.