Feeling terrible for not bringing a gift to a no gifts party when others did

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make a card. Bring a lollipop or a candy bar. A cookie from a bakery. Don’t bring a gift.

I asked for no gifts and someone brought a make your own boba tea kit. It was nice. Edible gift if you have to. No stuff that can become junk or trash in my house.

See the problem? You said "No gifts" but you wanted a gift.

If you want edible/consumable gifts only, say that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Make a card. Bring a lollipop or a candy bar. A cookie from a bakery. Don’t bring a gift.

I asked for no gifts and someone brought a make your own boba tea kit. It was nice. Edible gift if you have to. No stuff that can become junk or trash in my house.

See the problem? You said "No gifts" but you wanted a gift.

If you want edible/consumable gifts only, say that.

Yeah. I think some of the no gifts people don't want to deal with junk, but would appreciate something personal. It's rude to ask people to bring something particular so they just say no gifts.

It's all too complicated. I bring a gift either way. Lol

[Anonymous]

I asked for no gifts and got tons and I GREATLY APPRECIATE the people who didn’t bring!!

[Anonymous]

We bring a card. Once we made a donation and noted it in the card since we knew the family cared a lot about that cause and the parents fundraiser for said charity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We bring a card. Once we made a donation and noted it in the card since we knew the family cared a lot about that cause and the parents fundraiser for said charity.

Great idea!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I asked for no gifts and got tons and I GREATLY APPRECIATE the people who didn’t bring!!

+1

Usually the gifts brought to "no gift" parties are random crap because people feel like they can cheap out on the gift ("they said no gifts") while also fulfilling their perceived social obligation.

Next time, bring a card, OP, and be proud that you're able to follow instructions. Most of the gifts people have given when I've specified none go into the trash or are donated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked for no gifts and got tons and I GREATLY APPRECIATE the people who didn’t bring!!

+1

Usually the gifts brought to "no gift" parties are random crap because people feel like they can cheap out on the gift ("they said no gifts") while also fulfilling their perceived social obligation.

Next time, bring a card, OP, and be proud that you're able to follow instructions. Most of the gifts people have given when I've specified none go into the trash or are donated.

Also there’s usually a reason for no gifts. In my case my daughter has a huge family party and all of her aunts and cousins want to give her toys. Having that *as well* as a friends party is honestly just too much— too much for me and too much for her!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people saying to bring a gift bc it can be donated….NO! I told you not to bring a gift, you don’t get to then assign me a chore. If you can’t follow directions, don’t come.

The fact that you'd rather children not show up to celebrate with your kid than deal with donating gifts from their parents says all we need to know about you.

Spell this out in your invite: " No gifts please. If you can't come empty- handed, don't come."

Some other " no gifts" parents are fine putting the gifts in the trash or donating them, just like some of us do with most of the party favors. We don't want to mix up your type with these parents. Make it clear.

Good—put on your invites that you are self cetered and wasteful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The people saying to bring a gift bc it can be donated….NO! I told you not to bring a gift, you don’t get to then assign me a chore. If you can’t follow directions, don’t come.

The fact that you'd rather children not show up to celebrate with your kid than deal with donating gifts from their parents says all we need to know about you.

Spell this out in your invite: " No gifts please. If you can't come empty- handed, don't come."

Some other " no gifts" parents are fine putting the gifts in the trash or donating them, just like some of us do with most of the party favors. We don't want to mix up your type with these parents. Make it clear.

Good—put on your invites that you are self cetered and wasteful.

Ever heard of donations?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked for no gifts and got tons and I GREATLY APPRECIATE the people who didn’t bring!!

+1

Usually the gifts brought to "no gift" parties are random crap because people feel like they can cheap out on the gift ("they said no gifts") while also fulfilling their perceived social obligation.

Next time, bring a card, OP, and be proud that you're able to follow instructions. Most of the gifts people have given when I've specified none go into the trash or are donated.

Also there’s usually a reason for no gifts. In my case my daughter has a huge family party and all of her aunts and cousins want to give her toys. Having that *as well* as a friends party is honestly just too much— too much for me and too much for her!

Donate them!

Why don't you ask her family members not to give her anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked for no gifts and got tons and I GREATLY APPRECIATE the people who didn’t bring!!

+1

Usually the gifts brought to "no gift" parties are random crap because people feel like they can cheap out on the gift ("they said no gifts") while also fulfilling their perceived social obligation.

Next time, bring a card, OP, and be proud that you're able to follow instructions. Most of the gifts people have given when I've specified none go into the trash or are donated.

So you'd take expensive quality gifts then. You just don't like the cheap ones. 😕

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just do a card. No gifts means parents don’t want gifts. I think the people who bring them are rude.

The kids want the gifts. They attend friends parties where friends get gifts. They talk with friends about birthday gifts.

Just stop with your virtue signaling and allow young kids to experience the joy of childhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked for no gifts and got tons and I GREATLY APPRECIATE the people who didn’t bring!!

+1

Usually the gifts brought to "no gift" parties are random crap because people feel like they can cheap out on the gift ("they said no gifts") while also fulfilling their perceived social obligation.

Next time, bring a card, OP, and be proud that you're able to follow instructions. Most of the gifts people have given when I've specified none go into the trash or are donated.

So you'd take expensive quality gifts then. You just don't like the cheap ones. 😕

No. When I said, "no gifts," I meant no gifts. Cost is irrelevant.

My point was that I think many of the people who insist on bringing gifts, after explicitly being asked not to, satisfy their lack of impulse control by unloading whatever crap they have lying around. So that's doubly annoying. I'm not donating crap, nor should I have to be the one to toss it. I don't understand why it's so hard for people to just... not bring gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked for no gifts and got tons and I GREATLY APPRECIATE the people who didn’t bring!!

+1

Usually the gifts brought to "no gift" parties are random crap because people feel like they can cheap out on the gift ("they said no gifts") while also fulfilling their perceived social obligation.

Next time, bring a card, OP, and be proud that you're able to follow instructions. Most of the gifts people have given when I've specified none go into the trash or are donated.

So you'd take expensive quality gifts then. You just don't like the cheap ones. 😕

No. When I said, "no gifts," I meant no gifts. Cost is irrelevant.

My point was that I think many of the people who insist on bringing gifts, after explicitly being asked not to, satisfy their lack of impulse control by unloading whatever crap they have lying around. So that's doubly annoying. I'm not donating crap, nor should I have to be the one to toss it. I don't understand why it's so hard for people to just... not bring gifts.

You live in a society where cultural norms exist, dummy! What's there not to understand?

Do you lack empathy and awareness in all other aspects of your life?

It's one thing to argue that these things are wasteful ( solid argument). It's another to be so foolish that you fail to see how other people might feel uncomfortable showing up without gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I asked for no gifts and got tons and I GREATLY APPRECIATE the people who didn’t bring!!

+1

Usually the gifts brought to "no gift" parties are random crap because people feel like they can cheap out on the gift ("they said no gifts") while also fulfilling their perceived social obligation.

Next time, bring a card, OP, and be proud that you're able to follow instructions. Most of the gifts people have given when I've specified none go into the trash or are donated.

So you'd take expensive quality gifts then. You just don't like the cheap ones. 😕

No. When I said, "no gifts," I meant no gifts. Cost is irrelevant.

My point was that I think many of the people who insist on bringing gifts, after explicitly being asked not to, satisfy their lack of impulse control by unloading whatever crap they have lying around. So that's doubly annoying. I'm not donating crap, nor should I have to be the one to toss it. I don't understand why it's so hard for people to just... not bring gifts.

DP. Because your kid told my kid exactly what kind of gifts he wants and he is so excited for his birthday. And my kid is very excited to go to the toy store and get the thing his classmate likes.

Do you people ever consult your children? It’s THEIR birthday.