Wife behaves like a child during arguments and throws things. Call the cops?

[Anonymous]

Leave her, I left my ex girlfriend over much less (who lived w/ me too). Personally I have zero tolerance for any kind of physical destruction in a fight, it’s only one step away from her getting violent towards you

[Anonymous]

I used to throw things occasionally when I got in a fight with my DH. It was something I witnessed a lot growing up and when I got married I did it a couple times. The last time I did it I was pregnant and my DH said he was leaving and that when we had the kid if I ever threw anything again he would take the kid and leave. I was so upset but I sat in it and knew he was right and vowed to never throw anything again. That was 8 years ago.

You need to set a boundary and follow through. Whether she stops or not is out of your control but it is entirely unacceptable. It is abuse and she is getting nothing out of it either.

[Anonymous]

My ex-wife would do that and she tried to turn it around on me during the divorce.

Her: "We had a fight and he stole my grandmother's bracelet!!"

Me: "She was yelling at me and threw things at me including her grandmother's bracelet, which ended up under the couch."

[Anonymous]

Cool. Good memory

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes call them!!

Don't assume the police will help. The police witnessed my wife (now ex) assaulting me and they didn't do anything.

[Anonymous]

you don't have to wait for a next time. just move out and get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

I think her behavior is problematic…but I am not sure it is illegal.

You also sound dysfunctional in wanting to teach your wife a lesson by spending a night in jail.

That us not the purpose of 911 or the justice system.

Get marriage counseling stat,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Document it with video. Install cameras around your home?

This is the right answer. And don't call the police after you have the first instance recorded. Record several. You're right about needing airtight evidence that you are the victim.

If I were a police officer I don’t think I’d be really impressed that someone— make or female— wasted my time and resources calling me in an “emergency” that they had carefully prepared a video presentation for. The police are an emergency service. Just leave.

[Anonymous]

In this case: Why does one have to prove one’s right
or that one is the victim? Will this make you feel like you have won your ongoing argument?

I am not sure I want my taxes to settle your dispute once and for all. btw, This is also why county judges issue bizarre rulings with families. They have real problems to address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Scared to death they’ll try to arrest me when I’m the real victim. They’ll almost always go after the man automatically. But it’s getting kind of ridiculous. We cannot have any disagreements whatsoever without my wife turning into a screaming 8 year old toddler who throws things both at walls and at me. Isn’t this unacceptable? Really thinking about calling the cops next time she has a toddler tantrum. I do t think she’d last a single night in jail and it’d set her straight. How risky is this for a man to protect himself using the law?

I'd talk to a lawyer if I were you.

[Anonymous]

Call Camille Crandall. She can help you and is wonderful with men and women

[Anonymous]

Anyone from the firm would be happy to talk to you. Search Hicks Crandall Juhl, P.C. They specialize in high conflicts like this one and high asset complicated matters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Scared to death they’ll try to arrest me when I’m the real victim. They’ll almost always go after the man automatically. But it’s getting kind of ridiculous. We cannot have any disagreements whatsoever without my wife turning into a screaming 8 year old toddler who throws things both at walls and at me. Isn’t this unacceptable? Really thinking about calling the cops next time she has a toddler tantrum. I do t think she’d last a single night in jail and it’d set her straight. How risky is this for a man to protect himself using the law?

Why on earth is your solution “send her to jail for the night” and not “file for divorce”?

Stop thinking about how to punish or change her, and start thinking about getting out and restarting your life.

[Anonymous]

The question he asks is about risk.
There is a chance that events may not happen as he expects them to happen. If he video tapes than at least he can show it to a lawyer, who can help him prove his case. There are a number of family lawyers who can help with this.

[Anonymous]

Please google before you spend money.
You may tape and video tape all you want but it may not get in front of the judge. But if will help with property negotiations if she is crazy.