My boyfriend does side work as a painter but telling me to hire someone to paint my house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe him. I didn't ask him to paint my whole house. Every weekend he does projects for other people. He's paid, obviously. When he said that, I asked if he was serious. I then told him to stop showing me all the work he does for other people. Other people who don't have sex with him. If I had a ton of money, it might be different, but I am a social worker.

Ho-mygoodness, you make it sound like you will pay him with sex for painting your house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My parents are doctors and you are like the people who keep asking them for a free diagnosis.

Your parents wouldn’t give a free diagnosis to each other?

Of course not, they could diagnose themselves.

And OP is not married to this guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't believe him. I didn't ask him to paint my whole house. Every weekend he does projects for other people. He's paid, obviously. When he said that, I asked if he was serious. I then told him to stop showing me all the work he does for other people. Other people who don't have sex with him. If I had a ton of money, it might be different, but I am a social worker.

Ho-mygoodness, you make it sound like you will pay him with sex for painting your house.

Single guy here... I'm available Sunday to paint rooms for sex...

[Anonymous]

don't date a chef- you will be very disappointed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So much drama, OP! So dump him. Sounds like he’d be better off.

Op here. Done. I already did—a 40-year-old bald divorced guy who won't marry outside his culture. I don't think he will be better off, but you never know. I am open to dating outside my culture, but his parents dictate everything for him. His dating pool is very, very small. I am 10 years younger and attractive. This was about more than the painting, but this was def the last straw.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much drama, OP! So dump him. Sounds like he’d be better off.

Op here. Done. I already did—a 40-year-old bald divorced guy who won't marry outside his culture. I don't think he will be better off, but you never know. I am open to dating outside my culture, but his parents dictate everything for him. His dating pool is very, very small. I am 10 years younger and attractive. This was about more than the painting, but this was def the last straw.

He is definitely better off without a trashy mercenary shrew like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just had our house painted and it was about $12k. If he’s pulling another job out of his scedule to paint your house its probably costing him a lot of money plus all of the wear and cleanup required after your job.

This.
Having sex with you isn’t worth it for him, I am sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much drama, OP! So dump him. Sounds like he’d be better off.

Op here. Done. I already did—a 40-year-old bald divorced guy who won't marry outside his culture. I don't think he will be better off, but you never know. I am open to dating outside my culture, but his parents dictate everything for him. His dating pool is very, very small. I am 10 years younger and attractive. This was about more than the painting, but this was def the last straw.

Good. Now go paint your own house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much drama, OP! So dump him. Sounds like he’d be better off.

Op here. Done. I already did—a 40-year-old bald divorced guy who won't marry outside his culture. I don't think he will be better off, but you never know. I am open to dating outside my culture, but his parents dictate everything for him. His dating pool is very, very small. I am 10 years younger and attractive. This was about more than the painting, but this was def the last straw.

Too much culture in all of this!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:don't date a chef- you will be very disappointed.

Ha! My friend is dating one - he works at a corporate cafeteria now so better work life balance but he used to work at restaurants so not the case of “not a real chef”. He does cook for them a lot!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much drama, OP! So dump him. Sounds like he’d be better off.

Op here. Done. I already did—a 40-year-old bald divorced guy who won't marry outside his culture. I don't think he will be better off, but you never know. I am open to dating outside my culture, but his parents dictate everything for him. His dating pool is very, very small. I am 10 years younger and attractive. This was about more than the painting, but this was def the last straw.

He is definitely better off without a trashy mercenary shrew like you.

She knows her worth. Plenty of people have indicated it means he's not into her. I agree. He's also work-obsessed. Those two together would be a huge turn-off. If she wanted him to paint the outside of her house, it would be different. She said it was interior, and she has a townhouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much drama, OP! So dump him. Sounds like he’d be better off.

Op here. Done. I already did—a 40-year-old bald divorced guy who won't marry outside his culture. I don't think he will be better off, but you never know. I am open to dating outside my culture, but his parents dictate everything for him. His dating pool is very, very small. I am 10 years younger and attractive. This was about more than the painting, but this was def the last straw.

An attractive 30-year-old who owns a house and is employed. She is in a good spot. Not to many 30 year olds would consider a bald guy 10 years older who works 7 days a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So much drama, OP! So dump him. Sounds like he’d be better off.

Op here. Done. I already did—a 40-year-old bald divorced guy who won't marry outside his culture. I don't think he will be better off, but you never know. I am open to dating outside my culture, but his parents dictate everything for him. His dating pool is very, very small. I am 10 years younger and attractive. This was about more than the painting, but this was def the last straw.

An attractive 30-year-old who owns a house and is employed. She is in a good spot. Not to many 30 year olds would consider a bald guy 10 years older who works 7 days a week.

This. She was already over it because he works so much even though he has a good day job. I can see why she got fed up. He has no time for her, even to hang out if he's working during the day 7 days a week. They probably spend a great deal of time talking about all his projects. These job apps have made people to work-obsessed. A side tussle shouldn't be a thing. There's no time to relax if you're working or emailing clients about jobs in your downtime.

[Anonymous]

Never mix friends and business! He sounds smart, and you seem really entitled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never mix friends and business! He sounds smart, and you seem really entitled.

I don't think that's fair. OP said he has mentioned wanting to do work on her house and he's also not a friend. I think how he delivered it was probably what went wrong.