My boyfriend does side work as a painter but telling me to hire someone to paint my house

[Anonymous]

My parents are doctors and you are like the people who keep asking them for a free diagnosis.

[Anonymous]

OP, you seem very transactional. If you want to stop performing certain acts on him, do so. But the fact that you do these things in no way compels him to paint your house.

[Anonymous]

Here comes the nag part of the relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here comes the nag part of the relationship

Op here. The relationship is over. This was the last straw. If this makes me needy, I don't care. My boyfriend is losing his hair. He's 40. Let him go out and find a replacement.

[Anonymous]

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It's extremely annoying when someone close to you presumes that you'd be willing to do your professional work for free, just based on your relationship.

It's his girlfriend. Not some random friend. Not even his wife yet! Dude is dumb; it sounds like.

Yes, the girlfriend sounds dumb for assuming he'd say yes. Confirmation: she runs to DCUM to whine.

[Anonymous]

Why did you expect him to say yes. I would have never asked. He would have noticed and offered to paint it. Since he didn't ever notice and offer, why even ask. He has his reason's not to offer to paint.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Here comes the nag part of the relationship

Op here. The relationship is over. This was the last straw. If this makes me needy, I don't care. My boyfriend is losing his hair. He's 40. Let him go out and find a replacement.

Yeah, it really sounds like you love him.

[Anonymous]

You're actually writing down that sexual acts should be parlayed into painting your townhouse?

You're so vulgar and gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It's extremely annoying when someone close to you presumes that you'd be willing to do your professional work for free, just based on your relationship.

This

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We just had our house painted and it was about $12k. If he’s pulling another job out of his scedule to paint your house its probably costing him a lot of money plus all of the wear and cleanup required after your job.

+1

If he has a side hustle as a painter he probably also does not have much money. You are asking for a huge gift in terms of lost wages. He might have had a different response if you had said "I'm going to paint my house, do you think you could help me?"

It's a side job. He works in IT and has a 6-figure salary.

I’m in the minority here but it was tacky of you to ask him to paint for free. He’s obviously only doing it to make extra money and it’s not his profession, he may not even like it that much.

[Anonymous]

You know, your snatch isn't that special.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I would take this as a pretty big indication of how he felt about the relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just had our house painted and it was about $12k. If he’s pulling another job out of his scedule to paint your house its probably costing him a lot of money plus all of the wear and cleanup required after your job.

+1

If he has a side hustle as a painter he probably also does not have much money. You are asking for a huge gift in terms of lost wages. He might have had a different response if you had said "I'm going to paint my house, do you think you could help me?"

It's a side job. He works in IT and has a 6-figure salary.

I’m in the minority here but it was tacky of you to ask him to paint for free. He’s obviously only doing it to make extra money and it’s not his profession, he may not even like it that much.

And the editing she does for him? Doing his laundry? Is that tacky as well? She said he does this because he likes it and doesn't need the money.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you need a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just had our house painted and it was about $12k. If he’s pulling another job out of his scedule to paint your house its probably costing him a lot of money plus all of the wear and cleanup required after your job.

+1

If he has a side hustle as a painter he probably also does not have much money. You are asking for a huge gift in terms of lost wages. He might have had a different response if you had said "I'm going to paint my house, do you think you could help me?"

It's a side job. He works in IT and has a 6-figure salary.

I’m in the minority here but it was tacky of you to ask him to paint for free. He’s obviously only doing it to make extra money and it’s not his profession, he may not even like it that much.

And the editing she does for him? Doing his laundry? Is that tacky as well? She said he does this because he likes it and doesn't need the money.

He’s obviously a guy who is about maximizing opportunities.