My boyfriend does side work as a painter but telling me to hire someone to paint my house

[Anonymous]

I can't believe him. I didn't ask him to paint my whole house. Every weekend he does projects for other people. He's paid, obviously. When he said that, I asked if he was serious. I then told him to stop showing me all the work he does for other people. Other people who don't have sex with him. If I had a ton of money, it might be different, but I am a social worker.

[Anonymous]

It’s a thing… carpenters, painters, plumbers, etc… don’t do their own work.

Electricians do.

[Anonymous]

Don’t you mean exboyfriend?

[Anonymous]

We just had our house painted and it was about $12k. If he’s pulling another job out of his scedule to paint your house its probably costing him a lot of money plus all of the wear and cleanup required after your job.

[Anonymous]

Ouch. Sorry, op. I’d be kinda annoyed at that. It’s a bit like the line about the cobbler’s children having no shoes.

[Anonymous]

Why can’t you paint? Is it outdoors? Double story?

[Anonymous]

It's extremely annoying when someone close to you presumes that you'd be willing to do your professional work for free, just based on your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you mean exboyfriend?

Op here. Hahaha right! To clarify, it's my living and dining room—an open-concept townhouse.

[Anonymous]

Dump him and paint yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a thing… carpenters, painters, plumbers, etc… don’t do their own work.

Electricians do.

That is not the case for him. He has done so much stuff to his house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We just had our house painted and it was about $12k. If he’s pulling another job out of his scedule to paint your house its probably costing him a lot of money plus all of the wear and cleanup required after your job.

+1

If he has a side hustle as a painter he probably also does not have much money. You are asking for a huge gift in terms of lost wages. He might have had a different response if you had said "I'm going to paint my house, do you think you could help me?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It's extremely annoying when someone close to you presumes that you'd be willing to do your professional work for free, just based on your relationship.

It's his girlfriend. Not some random friend. Not even his wife yet! Dude is dumb; it sounds like.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We just had our house painted and it was about $12k. If he’s pulling another job out of his scedule to paint your house its probably costing him a lot of money plus all of the wear and cleanup required after your job.

+1

If he has a side hustle as a painter he probably also does not have much money. You are asking for a huge gift in terms of lost wages. He might have had a different response if you had said "I'm going to paint my house, do you think you could help me?"

It's a side job. He works in IT and has a 6-figure salary.

[Anonymous]

Knowing how long it takes, that’s a huge ask. He’s a boyfriend, not a co owner of your house.

[Anonymous]

Ha! I know exactly why he would not want you as a customer based solely on you running to DCUM with your drama. Do him a favor and dump him.