
Op here. I am not fat at all! My boyfriend wasn't bald when I met him, and bald guys can be cute. He doesn't look 40. My job requires a master's degree. It's not a fancy career, but I can pay my bills, and I do own a house. Not all men are obsessed with income. |
She cared while they were together. I can see her point. Guy has three jobs. That is unattractive to most unless they are only in it for money. She probably doesn't want to remarry because she will get less money for the child she has with her high earner ex-husband. |
Lots of husbands in sexless marriages on this board who’d paint that house inside and out. They’d even buy the materials! |
I remember when my DH was courting me, he would do anything for me OP. Anything. Oh the oil changes, custom carpentry, helping me move, on and on....
The guy is just not that into you. You have your answer, move on. |
It's not about whether they would do it. I'm the one with an IT manager BF. He would do it if I asked. But I think it's a pretty big imposition, and quite frankly a matter of respect of his time so I don't ask for things like this. He doesn't ask things of me either. We DO however enjoy each others company a lot and just have fun. Pretty shitty to bring all these expectations into a relationship if you don't live together. |
Who cares? Are you also from a culture where people as their SO to do things in return for sex? Quid pro quo, or, as I call it, prostitution. |
Why did this turn into "he's going bald?" so quickly? TROLL. Men can't help if they lose their hair. You aren't super likable or believable OP. |
Your EX boyfriend. keep up with your storyline. |
As a divorced man, I will say you do sound very attractive. Thin, enjoy sex, have a kid but is not a single mom. As long as you aren't narrowing down your search for single never, married guys, you will be fine. |
I'm not sure what your point is besides bragging about your IT manager's boyfriend. OP can't have fun if the guy is off painting everyone else's house on the weekends and weeknights. |
You do know what my point is as I stated it pretty clearly. You don't agree with it, which is fine. I don't impose on my boyfriend's time the way OP thought she could but learned otherwise. If she wanted to spend more quality time with him, that's one thing. Organize a fun date. My idea of a fun date is not spending the weekend working for free. |
This. Many people say she shouldn't have asked, but then you have people like this. FYI, I don't think it's trashy to ask and I do believe her boyfriend is the crazy one if he has three jobs. |
Uh-huh, enjoy your IT manager boyfriend, PP. I'm sure he doesn't work every day like OP's boyfriend. |
+1 while it's kind of tacky to ask, it's a red flag that he's not at least pretending to be thrilled to offer. I'm currently dating a guy and he would do quite literally anything I asked for me within his power. I borrowed his sunglasses on a date and said I really liked them and he gave the frames to me and completely handled getting new lenses with my prescription put in them. And that was before we'd even kissed! If a guy isn't busting his balls and bending over backward for you while he's courting you he's just not that into you--and I've dated men for too long who were just not that into me before I realized this. |
No, he doesn't. If he did I wouldn't be with him. But that's a different thread. |