Current college freshmen - how many of them are super happy?

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Anonymous wrote:How many of the posters whose kids are having adjustment problems sent their kids to small, expensive private high schools? I’ll bet it’s the majority.

Doubt it, Private school kids have the advantage of not spending a year home in remote learning.

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Anonymous wrote:How many of the posters whose kids are having adjustment problems sent their kids to small, expensive private high schools? I’ll bet it’s the majority.

It is the opposite because the kids from large public schools are suddenly thrust into a place with far less grade inflation. It is a gigantic shock to go from a school where 1/2 of the kids have above a 4.0 to one where As are comparatively rare.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How many of the posters whose kids are having adjustment problems sent their kids to small, expensive private high schools? I’ll bet it’s the majority.

It is the opposite because the kids from large public schools are suddenly thrust into a place with far less grade inflation. It is a gigantic shock to go from a school where 1/2 of the kids have above a 4.0 to one where As are comparatively rare.

No one is talking about academics. We’re talking about adjusting socially. You might want to actually read the discussion going on in this thread.

[Anonymous]

PP here. I’ll also add that As in college these days are not “relatively rare.” The average GPA at most colleges is well over a 3.0.

Nice try.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid was burnt out from the pressures of a W high school, so she chose a lower ranked school to get out of the pressure cooker . Being a big fish in a small pond helped her blossom. I am proud that she could make that choice.

Lol she “chose” it. It wasn’t chosen for her. Sure. Ok.

Yeah, she turned down six more highly ranked schools. You can’t picture that I know.

No, she didn’t. You’re full of it. There’s not a college student in America who chose their 7th ranked choice. Name the schools she turned down and the one she selected.

NP. Your imaginary world is so weird. What a strange person you are, untethered to any reality. Of course that is what OPs kid did. It’s very common. Ask any admissions counselor. I worked in admissions and saw kids routinely choose much lower-ranked schools, often over a list of higher ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not sure about super happy, but happy and not regretting her choice. She'd make the same choice again. Has made 2 friends, as a quiet introvert she moves slower, which is all she feels she needs currently. Participates in clubs in which she feels comfy with friendly members.
Academically happy, as she figured out after 1. midterm how to adjust note taking and how to learn for classes effectively. likes all her classes and Professors and easy office hours. Got a job on campus that works out great.

Tere are so many adjustments they all go thru in the first semester.

This is our DD minus the job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. I’ll also add that As in college these days are not “relatively rare.” The average GPA at most colleges is well over a 3.0.

Nice try.

That is a far cry from large public high schools where 600+ kids have over a 4.0, my defensive friend.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid was burnt out from the pressures of a W high school, so she chose a lower ranked school to get out of the pressure cooker . Being a big fish in a small pond helped her blossom. I am proud that she could make that choice.

Lol she “chose” it. It wasn’t chosen for her. Sure. Ok.

Yeah, she turned down six more highly ranked schools. You can’t picture that I know.

Good for her!! My own kid seriously considered their "safety" school (ranked above 60) over two between 30 and 45. Only removed the safety school from consideration for reasons of fit---the safety does 4 quarters/7 weeks each during a normal year so the pace is intense (less classes) and my smart bu procrastinator kid decided that might not be the best for them (and I think they are correct ) . If that school had been a normal semester school it could easily be where they are attending college as a freshman

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Anonymous wrote:My kid was burnt out from the pressures of a W high school, so she chose a lower ranked school to get out of the pressure cooker . Being a big fish in a small pond helped her blossom. I am proud that she could make that choice.

Lol she “chose” it. It wasn’t chosen for her. Sure. Ok.

Yeah, she turned down six more highly ranked schools. You can’t picture that I know.

No, she didn’t. You’re full of it. There’s not a college student in America who chose their 7th ranked choice. Name the schools she turned down and the one she selected.

NP. Your imaginary world is so weird. What a strange person you are, untethered to any reality. Of course that is what OPs kid did. It’s very common. Ask any admissions counselor. I worked in admissions and saw kids routinely choose much lower-ranked schools, often over a list of higher ones.

Agree. My DD chose a lower ranked school as well. I went to a LAC myself with a fair number of graduates of highly ranked privates, including boarding schools, who chose lower pressure colleges because they were burnt out.

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Anonymous wrote:How many of the posters whose kids are having adjustment problems sent their kids to small, expensive private high schools? I’ll bet it’s the majority.

It is the opposite because the kids from large public schools are suddenly thrust into a place with far less grade inflation. It is a gigantic shock to go from a school where 1/2 of the kids have above a 4.0 to one where As are comparatively rare.

No one is talking about academics. We’re talking about adjusting socially. You might want to actually read the discussion going on in this thread.

Right, so in your world a kid who is used to getting an artificially earned 4.8 is going to be SUPER HAPPY when suddenly faced with the reality of a challenging academic environment. Sure.

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Anonymous wrote:PP here. I’ll also add that As in college these days are not “relatively rare.” The average GPA at most colleges is well over a 3.0.

Nice try.

That is a far cry from large public high schools where 600+ kids have over a 4.0, my defensive friend.

As in top colleges are handed out like candy. You have no idea what you’re talking about.

[Anonymous]

A note to other posters. Yes, I know that many students turn down a higher ranked school for a lower ranked one. Mine did, turning down a top 5-7 school for a top 15 for a large merit aid package. What I’m questioning is a student who turned down six schools ranked higher than the one selected. If this really happened, it’s only because the other six weren’t particularly highly ranked - so it made no difference. Once you hit second tier, whatever.

That’s my point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A note to other posters. Yes, I know that many students turn down a higher ranked school for a lower ranked one. Mine did, turning down a top 5-7 school for a top 15 for a large merit aid package. What I’m questioning is a student who turned down six schools ranked higher than the one selected. If this really happened, it’s only because the other six weren’t particularly highly ranked - so it made no difference. Once you hit second tier, whatever.

That’s my point.

That definitely is possible. I have no idea why you think otherwise. You clearly have very, very little real-world admissions experience.

Also FYI kids do not turn down higher ranked schools only for big merit age packages. It’s common to have merit aid not factor into the decision at all or very little, actually.

- former admissions officer.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid was burnt out from the pressures of a W high school, so she chose a lower ranked school to get out of the pressure cooker . Being a big fish in a small pond helped her blossom. I am proud that she could make that choice.

Lol she “chose” it. It wasn’t chosen for her. Sure. Ok.

Yeah, she turned down six more highly ranked schools. You can’t picture that I know.

No, she didn’t. You’re full of it. There’s not a college student in America who chose their 7th ranked choice. Name the schools she turned down and the one she selected.

Why would I lie to a stranger on the internet? My kid's list is not important (nor would I consider providing "proof" to win your confidence in the truth of my post.)

You need to seriously consider why you cannot compute the FACT that a family might have different priorities than you/yours.

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Anonymous wrote:My kid was burnt out from the pressures of a W high school, so she chose a lower ranked school to get out of the pressure cooker . Being a big fish in a small pond helped her blossom. I am proud that she could make that choice.

Lol she “chose” it. It wasn’t chosen for her. Sure. Ok.

Yeah, she turned down six more highly ranked schools. You can’t picture that I know.

No, she didn’t. You’re full of it. There’s not a college student in America who chose their 7th ranked choice. Name the schools she turned down and the one she selected.

Why would I lie to a stranger on the internet? My kid's list is not important (nor would I consider providing "proof" to win your confidence in the truth of my post.)

You need to seriously consider why you cannot compute the FACT that a family might have different priorities than you/yours.

Well said. I feel for this poster’s kids with this attitude. My child was accepted at private high schools that were more rigorous than the one she chose as well. This area is a vacuum, there are so many strivers that they can’t imagine people have different values than them.