Is it becoming trendy for young (rich) kids to marry right after college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a great trend, if true. Once our kids graduate college, their chances of meeting someone organically go down, and it becomes a dating app world.

I think there might be a lot of truth to the dating app comment. I have friends who use them, and it doesn’t seem fun at all, there is a lot of pressure for sex early on, etc. I can imagine for young men and women witnessing this as they come into adulthood, how it would be completely unappealing.

+1

[Anonymous]

I got married right out of college back in 2004 and it was definitely a thing back then, so its not new.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I've observed getting married right after college is a trend for the wealthy or people attending higher rated universities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just like it was a trend to marry late, new trend is to marry young. Earlier trend originated from watching people marry young and having problems, this one originated from watching people marry old and having problems. Its like skinny jeans and wide leg jeans.

This made me laugh, so true!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’ll be the first to get divorced, too. This has been my experience with everyone I know who married right after college.

I've seen the EXACT OPPOSITE. I'm 52 and everyone I know that married young is still going strong. The ones that 'settled' in their 30s and immediately popped out kids with almost no time as married couple first--imploded midlife.

Love marriages vs "My time is running out, this one will do'.

DP here. I agree more with the first PP, but I guess everyone has different social circles.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got married right out of college back in 2004 and it was definitely a thing back then, so its not new.

I graduated in 2000, but no one married right after college. Some people married their college sweetheart, but usually 3 to 6 years after we graduated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’ll be the first to get divorced, too. This has been my experience with everyone I know who married right after college.

Yup-- starter marriage. Nothing new OP.

[Anonymous]

A lot of people who marry late in life, do it because either they don't find a partner or don't have financial resources to be a good partner. Its not always a choice, just lack of options.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just like it was a trend to marry late, new trend is to marry young. Earlier trend originated from watching people marry young and having problems, this one originated from watching people marry old and having problems. Its like skinny jeans and wide leg jeans.

Completely true!

[Anonymous]

I got married at 27 and had kids at 30 and 33.5 and felt it was late, should've done earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’ll be the first to get divorced, too. This has been my experience with everyone I know who married right after college.

Yup-- starter marriage. Nothing new OP.

Actually, the wealthier and better educated tend not to divorce.

[Anonymous]

My four nieces (from my side and DH's) are 29-34, pretty girls, well educated and well settled but still skeptic about committing to marriage for the sake of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I've observed getting married right after college is a trend for the wealthy or people attending higher rated universities.

I think it comes down the $. What other 22 year old kids have the money to buy a $20,000 ring and fly your college girlfriend to Paris or Italy to propose? Then a quick lavish wedding. The same rich families who can afford ritzy private school and exclusive private colleges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I've observed getting married right after college is a trend for the wealthy or people attending higher rated universities.

I think it comes down the $. What other 22 year old kids have the money to buy a $20,000 ring and fly your college girlfriend to Paris or Italy to propose? Then a quick lavish wedding. The same rich families who can afford ritzy private school and exclusive private colleges.

We married right out of college. DH was not rich but did have a family ring (definitely worth nowhere close to $20k.) He proposed on campus and then we went out to a fancy restaurant in town. We probably had $1k between the two of us. My parents paid for our ($15k) wedding and his parents paid for our honeymoon. Then we started our life together as a broke married couple. 18 years later we are still happily together and no longer broke. It can be done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just like it was a trend to marry late, new trend is to marry young. Earlier trend originated from watching people marry young and having problems, this one originated from watching people marry old and having problems. Its like skinny jeans and wide leg jeans.

Glorified by Hollywood.