Is it becoming trendy for young (rich) kids to marry right after college?

[Anonymous]

Both Tiffany Trump and Naomi Biden's husbands are 25 and probably met and engaged much earlier. Brides are 29ish?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both Tiffany Trump and Naomi Biden's husbands are 25 and probably met and engaged much earlier. Brides are 29ish?

Tiffany only got engaged last year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:getting engaged in the couple years after college to your college sweetheart, getting married, and then enjoying life as a DINK couple for almost a decade and traveling and maybe getting a mba or something before having kids in your 30s seems to be pretty common in my circle. There is a big gap between wedding and kids.

Not unusual for a 8-10 year gap between marriage and kids in my circle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's cyclical. Many don't want to start families as older parents like their own.

When I got married in my late 20s, many of my friends were in their 30s. Most of us had kids in mid-late 30s. There is now a trend (which I'm seeing with my nephews) of kids settling down younger. My oldest nephew married 1-2 years out of college and his wife was just starting med school. A lot of their friends were getting married at the same time (this was 2 years ago).

Also, the workplace has become much different. There is WAH and much more flexibility. I worked in the Office 10 years before my agency went to WAH. My firstborn was a baby when they added full-time telework. This enabled me to continue full-time work and have someone come in the home to watch him so I was around when he was a baby. I could see him during the day. Many of my co-workers that both WAH staggered schedules so they needed little if no childcare.

It was very much a 9-5pm world (and longer hours) 20 years ago with little flexibility for parents, zero paternity leave and limited maternity leave. It's still not great, but much better than it was.

I’m younger than you. My friends got married/engaged/attached young to college or grad school sweethearts (Ivy league school) and then they didn’t start families for a while. Instead they enjoyed traveling, building wealth, etc together. Then they had kids in their mid 30s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter is in medical school and her social circle is pretty much all K-MD (so early-mid 20s). She always seems to be at a wedding or celebrating an engagement.

My husband went to med school at Hopkins. Most of his class was married by graduation, some long before graduation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had few classmates who were into sampling, in recent years we all connected in alumni group, most ended up settling in late 30's and most divorced within 5-7 years. Sampling makes it difficult to become monogamous, marrying late makes it difficult to be flexible to make space for spouse and children.

+1. There is zero benefit to waiting and dating around, especially a smart woman with only X of years to reproduce naturally. It’s quite literally a waste of life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had few classmates who were into sampling, in recent years we all connected in alumni group, most ended up settling in late 30's and most divorced within 5-7 years. Sampling makes it difficult to become monogamous, marrying late makes it difficult to be flexible to make space for spouse and children.

+1. There is zero benefit to waiting and dating around, especially a smart woman with only X of years to reproduce naturally. It’s quite literally a waste of life.

What a load of nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Its fine for women who are ambitious and want freedom, a waste if they want to simultaneously do both, which is tough and can get really complicated but its fine if that's what they want.

If i had a chance to redo life, i may opt to freeze some eggs, build a career and then start serious dating at 30 to marry before 35.

[Anonymous]

Only issue is that life's timeline is sometimes different than our timeline.

[Anonymous]

Another flurry of engagements this week. Affluent 22 and 23 year olds.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had few classmates who were into sampling, in recent years we all connected in alumni group, most ended up settling in late 30's and most divorced within 5-7 years. Sampling makes it difficult to become monogamous, marrying late makes it difficult to be flexible to make space for spouse and children.

+1. There is zero benefit to waiting and dating around, especially a smart woman with only X of years to reproduce naturally. It’s quite literally a waste of life.

It would have been a disaster if I married one of the guys I dated in my early 20’s. I’m so glad I didn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another flurry of engagements this week. Affluent 22 and 23 year olds.

If you are affluent and find a good partner then its fine to get engaged after college, its not like these are high school drop out teens.

[Anonymous]

In addition to why waste your fertility, why wait to buy a house together. Blowing your 20s renting two apartments is such a waste of money. Get your degree, get married and buy a place together as soon as possible. Babies are not a career setback, especially with telework and online courses for advanced degrees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In addition to why waste your fertility, why wait to buy a house together. Blowing your 20s renting two apartments is such a waste of money. Get your degree, get married and buy a place together as soon as possible. Babies are not a career setback, especially with telework and online courses for advanced degrees.

Actually, a lot of young couples are cohabiting in the same apartment due to cost of living concerns. That just causes additional issues as you can read about in the length of time of relationship before marriage thread.

[Anonymous]

My husband's kid did this and rushed into having a kid as wife wanted to be a SAHM. Heavy into debt as they both went to graduate school/didn't work and it didn't end well. She cheated, separated now with other partners.