Is it becoming trendy for young (rich) kids to marry right after college?

[Anonymous]

Marrying after finishing college isn't that young.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is comical. Of course healthy, well adjusted and wealthy young adults want to marry at 25 as opposed to 35. Barring some huge personality flaw or poor life choices where you have no money, marrying at 35 is ludicrous. Why do you want to marry with dried up eggs? What do you offer your spouse after that?

While I've no issue with people marrying of early once they are done with college, i find your comment beyond ludicrous. Good partners have lot to offer each other than just eggs and sperms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are not rich but our children are in some affluent social circles due to private high school and selective colleges. So many of their 22 to 24 year old peers are getting married and engaged. Ivy Leaguers, even kids in law school and medical school, several private high school kids engaged to classmates! It seems like a half dozen just got engaged in the last week or two - kids who just graduated from college in the spring! Young love is beautiful to see but I’m not sure if I’m seeing it just because our kids are this age or if it is actually a broader trend bucking the whole wait until you’re around 30 to settle down young professional thing?

Its not uncommon but not common either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are not rich but our children are in some affluent social circles due to private high school and selective colleges. So many of their 22 to 24 year old peers are getting married and engaged. Ivy Leaguers, even kids in law school and medical school, several private high school kids engaged to classmates! It seems like a half dozen just got engaged in the last week or two - kids who just graduated from college in the spring! Young love is beautiful to see but I’m not sure if I’m seeing it just because our kids are this age or if it is actually a broader trend bucking the whole wait until you’re around 30 to settle down young professional thing?

If they've college degree and job (or professional school) and some income, they are in good position to marry because instead of student debt, they've potential inheritance.

[Anonymous]

I don’t live in DC anymore so the culture is different but. The richest family I know has a daughter who is a senior in college and already married and the college sophomore daughter is getting married over the summer. They aren’t super religious IMO but they do go to church. I support young people getting married but dang, that’s early! Lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t live in DC anymore so the culture is different but. The richest family I know has a daughter who is a senior in college and already married and the college sophomore daughter is getting married over the summer. They aren’t super religious IMO but they do go to church. I support young people getting married but dang, that’s early! Lol.

No wealthy person i know married before college. Many got engaged in college and married right after but ZERO undergrad married during college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t live in DC anymore so the culture is different but. The richest family I know has a daughter who is a senior in college and already married and the college sophomore daughter is getting married over the summer. They aren’t super religious IMO but they do go to church. I support young people getting married but dang, that’s early! Lol.

I think this must be trending on social media or something? Many are getting engaged their senior year to set up a quick wedding. Rep. Sean Duffy and Rachel Duffy's daughter was engaged during college and married right after. I think she's only 21 because she graduated from UChicago in three years instead of four.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t live in DC anymore so the culture is different but. The richest family I know has a daughter who is a senior in college and already married and the college sophomore daughter is getting married over the summer. They aren’t super religious IMO but they do go to church. I support young people getting married but dang, that’s early! Lol.

No wealthy person i know married before college. Many got engaged in college and married right after but ZERO undergrad married during college.

These daughters were born in the 2000s. The wealthy people you know were not, surely it’s a different world now!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They’ll be the first to get divorced, too. This has been my experience with everyone I know who married right after college.

I've seen the EXACT OPPOSITE. I'm 52 and everyone I know that married young is still going strong. The ones that 'settled' in their 30s and immediately popped out kids with almost no time as married couple first--imploded midlife.

Love marriages vs "My time is running out, this one will do'.

This^.

+2. My sorority sister who married right after college and popped out three kids quickly, 20 years later she looks like one of those hot successful happily married moms you see on instagram with over a million followers. Gorgeous family, big house, new luxury SUVs, and her and husband both have great careers.

[Anonymous]

The first wave of weddings is right after college. Then there's another wave about 5 years later for people who met their spouse in grad school or when first working. Once you hit 30 then its more sporadic and you start to hit a few second weddings. Wedding right after college seems early to me but more importantly I would encourage them to wait to have kids so they can develop their careers.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t live in DC anymore so the culture is different but. The richest family I know has a daughter who is a senior in college and already married and the college sophomore daughter is getting married over the summer. They aren’t super religious IMO but they do go to church. I support young people getting married but dang, that’s early! Lol.

No wealthy person i know married before college. Many got engaged in college and married right after but ZERO undergrad married during college.

I think things have changed a bit and that’s what OP is referencing. For a while it seemed like women were almost pressured to stay single and get married later to enjoy their 20s but I think there’s a little bit of a swing in the other direction where younger people now are looking to get married earlier. Especially those that are from wealthy families that can support their lifestyle. I’m not saying this is true in all or even most cases but it’s definitely something that pops up on social media and I think influences young people‘s view on marrying and having kids early and that being a positive thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t live in DC anymore so the culture is different but. The richest family I know has a daughter who is a senior in college and already married and the college sophomore daughter is getting married over the summer. They aren’t super religious IMO but they do go to church. I support young people getting married but dang, that’s early! Lol.

No wealthy person i know married before college. Many got engaged in college and married right after but ZERO undergrad married during college.

I think things have changed a bit and that’s what OP is referencing. For a while it seemed like women were almost pressured to stay single and get married later to enjoy their 20s but I think there’s a little bit of a swing in the other direction where younger people now are looking to get married earlier. Especially those that are from wealthy families that can support their lifestyle. I’m not saying this is true in all or even most cases but it’s definitely something that pops up on social media and I think influences young people‘s view on marrying and having kids early and that being a positive thing.

There’s something about the aesthetic of having the handsome husband and cute kids all in your 20s and early 30s. That combined with the pretty house, the nice vacations, etc communicates success and happiness. I think this is shown more often than it was in the past as an aspirational ideal. A lot of this is, of course, social media driven but it’s also not something I disagree with… I take no issue with marrying in your mid 20s.

[Anonymous]

Good. Get engaged in college and married after graduate school. Sounds perfect. Keep up the trend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a great trend, if true. Once our kids graduate college, their chances of meeting someone organically go down, and it becomes a dating app world.

I think there might be a lot of truth to the dating app comment. I have friends who use them, and it doesn’t seem fun at all, there is a lot of pressure for sex early on, etc. I can imagine for young men and women witnessing this as they come into adulthood, how it would be completely unappealing.

[Anonymous]

Just like it was a trend to marry late, new trend is to marry young. Earlier trend originated from watching people marry young and having problems, this one originated from watching people marry old and having problems. Its like skinny jeans and wide leg jeans.