Is it becoming trendy for young (rich) kids to marry right after college?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone can get married. Literally. It’s very easy. Getting married is not a life achievement, maybe for some women on this board it is.

Getting married isn't an accomplishment but getting married to a compatible, loving and successful partner, sharing children, building a life together, staying happily married through thick and thin and growing old together? That sure is a life achievement because it adds so much value to your life and lives of your loved ones.

A marriage that never ends is not a successful marriage.

Plenty of women are trapped in marriages because they fear being alone, are financially dependent and/or have low self esteem.

A lot of women put up with cheating because they deathly afraid of being alone.

If its conscious decision and works for a woman then its okay, as long as they are trapped by choice not by force. Divorcé isn't as much fun as divorced people try to pretend it is, specially when kids are involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Highest divorce rates are among people in their third marriages, even that is 73%, it's surprising >75% of your colleagues got divorce. Which college is it?

I doubt people on their third divorces are in their 20's.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Divorce rates among college educated couples are low, your college sounds like an anomaly.

Yes? and??
Divorce rates don’t indicate anything.

Does low divorce rate mean successful and happy marriages? Absolutely not.

I really wish college educated people can stop spouting that statistic.

Does being single or divorced means happy and successful?

[Anonymous]

Life isn't black and white.

[Anonymous]

Imho people should live carefree and single until they find someone they like enough to share their life with. It doesn't matter if it happens at 22, 32 or 52. Fair of divorce means you are not ready to marry. As far as unnecessarily rushing into a marriage, it happens more in later years because clock starts ticking and social pressure is felt and fear of loneliness kicks in. Divorce is far more complicated in late 30's and 40's than in 20's because of more assets and responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Imho people should live carefree and single until they find someone they like enough to share their life with. It doesn't matter if it happens at 22, 32 or 52. Fair of divorce means you are not ready to marry. As far as unnecessarily rushing into a marriage, it happens more in later years because clock starts ticking and social pressure is felt and fear of loneliness kicks in. Divorce is far more complicated in late 30's and 40's than in 20's because of more assets and responsibilities.

I do agree with this. I was fine being single and wouldn’t have considered marrying somebody unless my life was better and happier with a partner than alone, and not every potential partner offers that. You can say I was lucky but it very well could have turned out the other way: I’d just be a thriving single woman at age 40.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I got engaged the year after college, and married at age 24/26.

I just turned 40 and our marriage is solid. We graduated from an Ivy, and, yes I have some family money so I suppose that was never a concern I had. But more than that, women who graduate from Ivies are less likely to have ever married by age 45, and I have several friends who struggled to date in their late 20s because the guy who went to UVA didn’t want to date someone who went to Princeton (and feel “less” smart when he could date someone else and be the smart one in the relationship).

The women who locked in a relationship in college or early graduate school married well, and all seem very happy (like myself).

And to be clear in college I considered myself an independent feminist and was not at all looking for a husband - I just happened to fall in love and built a solid relationship.

You made that statement without providing any data to back that up. Is that what they taught at Ivy league schools?

Any guy who is afraid of marrying a woman who is smarter than he is shouldn't get married in the first place. I work in software sales with a degree in Business Information Technology from Virginia Tech and I am married to an oral surgeon. She is a surgeon with a degree from Stanford but I make much more money than she does. Where you attended school is irrelevant.

I guess I assumed anyone reading was capable of googling? No?

This was one of the first that came up but there were others in the New York Times and more, exploring the issue that, yes, women who go to Ivy league schools have been less likely to marry.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2018/12/14/elite-colleges-boosted-womens-earnings-mainly-by-denting-their-chances-marriage/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Divorce rates among college educated couples are low, your college sounds like an anomaly.

Yes? and??
Divorce rates don’t indicate anything.

Does low divorce rate mean successful and happy marriages? Absolutely not.

I really wish college educated people can stop spouting that statistic.

Does being single or divorced means happy and successful?

For women? Absolutely.

And if you're a woman you should know this. Men more often than not are dead weight!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I got engaged the year after college, and married at age 24/26.

I just turned 40 and our marriage is solid. We graduated from an Ivy, and, yes I have some family money so I suppose that was never a concern I had. But more than that, women who graduate from Ivies are less likely to have ever married by age 45, and I have several friends who struggled to date in their late 20s because the guy who went to UVA didn’t want to date someone who went to Princeton (and feel “less” smart when he could date someone else and be the smart one in the relationship).

The women who locked in a relationship in college or early graduate school married well, and all seem very happy (like myself).

And to be clear in college I considered myself an independent feminist and was not at all looking for a husband - I just happened to fall in love and built a solid relationship.

You made that statement without providing any data to back that up. Is that what they taught at Ivy league schools?

Any guy who is afraid of marrying a woman who is smarter than he is shouldn't get married in the first place. I work in software sales with a degree in Business Information Technology from Virginia Tech and I am married to an oral surgeon. She is a surgeon with a degree from Stanford but I make much more money than she does. Where you attended school is irrelevant.

I guess I assumed anyone reading was capable of googling? No?

This was one of the first that came up but there were others in the New York Times and more, exploring the issue that, yes, women who go to Ivy league schools have been less likely to marry.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/business/2018/12/14/elite-colleges-boosted-womens-earnings-mainly-by-denting-their-chances-marriage/

"according to a working paper by economists Suqin Ge of Virginia Tech, Elliott Isaac of Tulane University and Amalia Miller of the University of Virginia that built on an earlier analysis of women entering college in 1976"

Gerald Ford Was US president then, people marrying now weren't even born then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Divorce rates among college educated couples are low, your college sounds like an anomaly.

Yes? and??
Divorce rates don’t indicate anything.

Does low divorce rate mean successful and happy marriages? Absolutely not.

I really wish college educated people can stop spouting that statistic.

Does being single or divorced means happy and successful?

Seriously? Women can be happy in a relationship as well. Not all men are dead weight.
For women? Absolutely.

And if you're a woman you should know this. Men more often than not are dead weight!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I remember some college sweethearts getting engaged not long after graduation and then married. I think like 75% of them were divorced by 30 before any kids came into the picture.

Divorce rates among college educated couples are low, your college sounds like an anomaly.

Yes? and??
Divorce rates don’t indicate anything.

Does low divorce rate mean successful and happy marriages? Absolutely not.

I really wish college educated people can stop spouting that statistic.

Does being single or divorced means happy and successful?

For women? Absolutely.

And if you're a woman you should know this. Men more often than not are dead weight!

Seriously? Women can't be happy in a relationship? Not all men are dead weight.
For women?

[Anonymous]

Can't imagine myself getting married after college.  I have not sample enough women to determine the one that I will spend the rest of my life with.

[Anonymous]

I had few classmates who were into sampling, in recent years we all connected in alumni group, most ended up settling in late 30's and most divorced within 5-7 years. Sampling makes it difficult to become monogamous, marrying late makes it difficult to be flexible to make space for spouse and children.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who's been sampling since puberty to near midlife(40 is midlife for most as not many live after 80) is unlikely to not cheat or want to divorce so they can be free.

[Anonymous]

getting engaged in the couple years after college to your college sweetheart, getting married, and then enjoying life as a DINK couple for almost a decade and traveling and maybe getting a mba or something before having kids in your 30s seems to be pretty common in my circle. There is a big gap between wedding and kids.