Is it becoming trendy for young (rich) kids to marry right after college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a great trend, if true. Once our kids graduate college, their chances of meeting someone organically go down, and it becomes a dating app world.

Young people don't even know who they are before 30. How could you make an intelligent commitment like marriage at that age? If it works it's luck, because 20's are for being free and mindfully single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s funny to me you are shocked that 22-24 year olds are getting engaged and married. It’s normal! The average age of first marriage for college educated women is 27 —so half of them are younger than that.

That’s not what average means. Median is the mid-point.

Then it's more than half, since there's a long right tail, but no one is getting married at 10. (But probably it is actually referring to the median.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, it is. When I was young no young hot celebs were getting married and having kids young unless they were a train wreck (Britney Spears). Young rich celebs no longer think they’ll stop getting casted just for becoming moms and it’s changing the culture.

Reese Witherspoon

[Anonymous]

Handy thought about this, but when I list people from my single days, my friends in the 2000s/early 2010 all married in order of richness. The richest people got married the earliest. I think having a background of wealth makes it easier to settle down because you can afford certain things earlier and don’t have as much pressure to establish your career as people with less.

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*edit: hadn’t

[Anonymous]

Pretty sure we just had this tread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a great trend, if true. Once our kids graduate college, their chances of meeting someone organically go down, and it becomes a dating app world.

Young people don't even know who they are before 30. How could you make an intelligent commitment like marriage at that age? If it works it's luck, because 20's are for being free and mindfully single.

Dumb statement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty sure we just had this thread

https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1050547.page

[Anonymous]

If they get engaged during the year after graduation, they're likely 23. With a 1.5 year engagement to save up for wedding costs, that has them getting married around age 25. That's on the younger side, but not super young.

The only kids I know who got married *right* out of college had super strict, religious parents and the kids were getting married to avoid moving home with the strict parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think this is a great trend, if true. Once our kids graduate college, their chances of meeting someone organically go down, and it becomes a dating app world.

Young people don't even know who they are before 30. How could you make an intelligent commitment like marriage at that age? If it works it's luck, because 20's are for being free and mindfully single.

It’s always luck to some extent. But as someone who married young, I also think there is huge value in growing up together and starting your marriage while you are still both flexible and not set in your ways and while your expectations for life are simpler. I don’t think I would have picked better at 30–my friends who married in their late 30s don’t seem any happier than we are. They were richer when they had their first kid, but that just brings different stressors.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they get engaged during the year after graduation, they're likely 23. With a 1.5 year engagement to save up for wedding costs, that has them getting married around age 25. That's on the younger side, but not super young.

The only kids I know who got married *right* out of college had super strict, religious parents and the kids were getting married to avoid moving home with the strict parents.

My daughter was in a wedding this summer with a 23 year old Ivy League boy and a 22 year old UVA girl. Nothing strict or deeply religious but both sides of the wedding party seemed very ambitious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they get engaged during the year after graduation, they're likely 23. With a 1.5 year engagement to save up for wedding costs, that has them getting married around age 25. That's on the younger side, but not super young.

The only kids I know who got married *right* out of college had super strict, religious parents and the kids were getting married to avoid moving home with the strict parents.

I’ve seen engagement photos on campus or on a trip soon after graduation. It seems ambitious rich kids are eager to check the marriage box and “playing the field” in their 20s seems increasingly gross, immature and pointless to them. Hookup culture is passé.

[Anonymous]

My cousin was at law school at Yale while his wife was in medical school there. They got married before graduating had a kid right after because they knew they were heading into biglaw and residency.

[Anonymous]

My cousin was at law school at Yale while his wife was in medical school there. They got married before graduating had a kid right after because they knew they were heading into biglaw and residency.

[Anonymous]

PP here. Also, my cousin's mother was still young and available for childcare for their child.