Mom can't get over that DH doesn't participate in weekly FaceTime calls
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Anonymous
This is how we deal w/my introvert husband interacting with my awful mother. |
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OP it sounds like your parents are pushy and nosy not just extroverted. Your husband probably can’t stand them trying to squeeze something out of him. I’m not an introvert, actually I’m quite introverted but I can not stand adults that constantly demand attention.
Tell your mom to stop being pushy and intrusive. |
Anonymous
Pretty much the only answer here. Your mom isn't in charge of your dh and he owes them nothing. |
Anonymous
That’s funny, I was thinking her mom needs to work on her poor social skills and ability to understand social cues. She should stop nagging about how what she is getting isn’t enough, because that often makes people give less instead of more. It’s also extremely poor form to criticize someone’s spouse to their partner, as though they’re responsible for their partner’s social interactions. Having adult children means you let go of managing their etiquette and social calendar (and that of your children’s family), and MIL needs to be able to do that. |
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+1 |
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+3 |
Anonymous
Re: anything Unimportant |
Anonymous
How is he being a brat? Who wants to commit to a weekly command performance like that? Sometimes Ed he pops in and sometimes he does not. It’s a wonder the two yr old participates. I have one , her interest in a phone or FT call has about a 5-15 min lifespan. Your parents expect a lot. Talk to who shows up and get over it. |
Anonymous
| Your mom sounds like a control freak. Her repeated insistence is very rude. |
Anonymous
She doesn’t need a reason. He is not required to FT every week with his in-laws. Done. |
Anonymous
You sound crazy, this man does not need to be forced to FaceTime every week. |
Anonymous
Do this. |
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You should tell off your mother, OP. She's WAY out of bounds.
My mother comes from a family where people "visited" each other and one was supposed to sit politely in the drawing room, balancing a cup of tea and slice of cake, making conversation. How my introverted father endured it, I don't know. ***Times are different now***. My husband (whom my parents did not like at first!) has a good relationship with my parents, but only because they're NOT pushy, and let him weave in and out of the conversation. No one expects him to sit and show his face and make small talk. Likewise, it would be torture for me to do that with his mother. We get along great, but I still wouldn't stay for an entire call or Facetime! I occasionally chime in when my husband calls her, and she's perfectly fine with that. Your mother has to drag herself into the 21st century and accept that mores have changed. |
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I really just do not understand pushy people. If someone doesn’t want to chat with you why do you think forcing it will yield an enjoyable experience? It’s the same as relatives trying to invite themselves to things. Why would you want to force yourself into an event where you weren’t invited.
We have a few relatives like this and the more they push, the more everyone avoids them. Regardless, your mom pushing and pushing, is her problem. Not yours and not your husbands. She doesn’t get to dictate that your husband will chat with her weekly. You don’t need to explain or justify. Just say no and move on and don’t let her put her monkey on your back. |