Thoughts on the “other woman”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was OW, I didn't feel like I was harming the DW because I had no intention of breaking up her family. And when you think about it, I gotta give Sumner credit -- she could've dimed him out ages ago, but she didn't. She kept her mouth shut, she was discreet, no harm came to Behati. It wasn't until Sumner's friend tried to sell the story that Sumner herself came forward.

But honestly though, if Behati had an expectation of monogamy, she's a fool.

Yeah right. He never would have married you. It wasn’t even a consideration for him. Lol

Nor for me. We were both clear upfront that we weren't leaving our marriages.

What you did to another woman was AWFUL. You actually are going to argue that it was okay to f@ck another woman’s husband because you were just a f@ck buddy? You don’t think that would harm a wife? Are you really that completely dense?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was OW, I didn't feel like I was harming the DW because I had no intention of breaking up her family. And when you think about it, I gotta give Sumner credit -- she could've dimed him out ages ago, but she didn't. She kept her mouth shut, she was discreet, no harm came to Behati. It wasn't until Sumner's friend tried to sell the story that Sumner herself came forward.

But honestly though, if Behati had an expectation of monogamy, she's a fool.

Yeah right. He never would have married you. It wasn’t even a consideration for him. Lol

Nor for me. We were both clear upfront that we weren't leaving our marriages.

I’ve seen that before. Then the woman starts putting the pressure on and changing the circumstances and wanting more. Such a load of crap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was OW, I didn't feel like I was harming the DW because I had no intention of breaking up her family. And when you think about it, I gotta give Sumner credit -- she could've dimed him out ages ago, but she didn't. She kept her mouth shut, she was discreet, no harm came to Behati. It wasn't until Sumner's friend tried to sell the story that Sumner herself came forward.

But honestly though, if Behati had an expectation of monogamy, she's a fool.

Yeah right. He never would have married you. It wasn’t even a consideration for him. Lol

Nor for me. We were both clear upfront that we weren't leaving our marriages.

You are an awful person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was OW, I didn't feel like I was harming the DW because I had no intention of breaking up her family. And when you think about it, I gotta give Sumner credit -- she could've dimed him out ages ago, but she didn't. She kept her mouth shut, she was discreet, no harm came to Behati. It wasn't until Sumner's friend tried to sell the story that Sumner herself came forward.

But honestly though, if Behati had an expectation of monogamy, she's a fool.

Yeah right. He never would have married you. It wasn’t even a consideration for him. Lol

Nor for me. We were both clear upfront that we weren't leaving our marriages.

You are an awful person.

I wish I knew her husband so I could call him and let him know his wife is a whore screwing other men behind his back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was OW, I didn't feel like I was harming the DW because I had no intention of breaking up her family. And when you think about it, I gotta give Sumner credit -- she could've dimed him out ages ago, but she didn't. She kept her mouth shut, she was discreet, no harm came to Behati. It wasn't until Sumner's friend tried to sell the story that Sumner herself came forward.

But honestly though, if Behati had an expectation of monogamy, she's a fool.

Yeah right. He never would have married you. It wasn’t even a consideration for him. Lol

Nor for me. We were both clear upfront that we weren't leaving our marriages.

Just find a single guy to f@ck. There are millions of them out there. Don’t go screwing around in another woman’s family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t blame the other woman. She is irrelevant. Men or spouses aren’t property. They have a brain and their own free will. It is up to them alone (and with their spouse) to keep their marriage intact

You sound dumb. It's takes two to have a relationship so how is she irrelevant when she's the other party in the relationship w/a married man? Does she become relevant if she gives the husband an STD? Is she relevant is she gets pregnant and suddenly your children have a new sibling? Or when he decides he wants to leave his wife and then your children are spending half their time at this woman's place with their dad? Clearly the husband is at fault, clearly he made the commitment, but too many women are willing to entangle themselves and ultimately have a hand in wrecking lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t blame the other woman. She is irrelevant. Men or spouses aren’t property. They have a brain and their own free will. It is up to them alone (and with their spouse) to keep their marriage intact

You sound dumb. It's takes two to have a relationship so how is she irrelevant when she's the other party in the relationship w/a married man? Does she become relevant if she gives the husband an STD? Is she relevant is she gets pregnant and suddenly your children have a new sibling? Or when he decides he wants to leave his wife and then your children are spending half their time at this woman's place with their dad? Clearly the husband is at fault, clearly he made the commitment, but too many women are willing to entangle themselves and ultimately have a hand in wrecking lives.

I can tell you this, the betrayed wife will never forget the OW. She has created mental trauma in another woman—and often her kids. You think it doesn’t matter. Sure- it wasn’t a big deal. The wife will remember everything about the OW and her image will be seared on her brain, not in a good way. The rest of the OW’s life she has invited all kinds of negative energy her way. It is so crazy to have the mindset that contributing to an innocent person’s anguish and trauma is not partly on you. Mental gymnastics are big on the cheating game for both parties.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I noticed with the Adam Levine controversy that the super feminist take among younger millennials and Gen Z is to victimize the “other woman” and make the husband the sole perpetrator, including situations where the husband is famous and known to be married with kids. The husband IS most responsible for cheating on his wife, I agree with that. He’s the one who made promises he broke. But do women really not owe anything to other women anymore? It’s totally fine to be a side chick now , even when it’s publicly known that the wife has little kids at home?

I feel like I’m taking crazy pills watching all these young women fall all over themselves to defend that TikToker who had the affair with Adam Levine. I don’t care what lies he fed her, she knew he was married and she was an adult when their affair started. It’s interesting to me that it’s considered “unfeminist” to call her out for being a homewrecker or to tell her t9 shut her legs to married men. Why can’t two things be true at once? Adam Levine is a trash husband and I hope his wife leaves with half his fortune. But knowingly sleeping with married men is trash behavior too.

So is your thesis “we are not being adequately cruel as a society to a woman who exposed a man for cheating on his wife”? Are you afraid that the scarlet letter she embroidered for herself was too beautiful?

She wasn’t even apologetic though. I only watched 2 of her videos so idk, maybe she talks about being sorry somewhere else. But in the first two videos she released she makes herself out to be the victim when really the victim is the wife and kids. She knew he was married! What did she expect? The least she can do now is say she is sorry and regrets it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t blame the other woman. She is irrelevant. Men or spouses aren’t property. They have a brain and their own free will. It is up to them alone (and with their spouse) to keep their marriage intact

I’m the OP. I actually agree with this. If my DH cheated, I’d be furious at him first and foremost.

But I do think it’s gross that this Sumner Strohl woman is making herself out to be the victim and is not even apologetic for cheating with a married man. She revealed her true character here which is low and lacking integrity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was OW, I didn't feel like I was harming the DW because I had no intention of breaking up her family. And when you think about it, I gotta give Sumner credit -- she could've dimed him out ages ago, but she didn't. She kept her mouth shut, she was discreet, no harm came to Behati. It wasn't until Sumner's friend tried to sell the story that Sumner herself came forward.

But honestly though, if Behati had an expectation of monogamy, she's a fool.

Yeah right. He never would have married you. It wasn’t even a consideration for him. Lol

Nor for me. We were both clear upfront that we weren't leaving our marriages.

I’ve seen that before. Then the woman starts putting the pressure on and changing the circumstances and wanting more. Such a load of crap.

The OW in my world also was married and claimed at the get-go it would be no-strings. As time went on she started the pressure, started bringing up leaving her spouse and hinting for ex to do the same. I found that she monitored everything about me and my kids. When we were getting a new puppy she tried to talk my husband out of doing it because she saw that meant he was invested in the marriage still. If he had a family obligation she would try to belittle it which cause many fights at the end. She openly stated she was jealous of the wife. All from someone that claimed it would just be about sex. Yeah right. This Sumner woman saw Adams wife was pregnant again and the writing was on the wall that she wasn’t going to get him to leave the wife so she went scorched earth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thoughts: poor character, dishonest, untrustworthy, zero empathy, classless, selfish, low self-esteem and can’t find a single man. Trash person that deserves all harm she invites in her life by doing this to another woman.

+1 pretty much sums up my thoughts on the matter too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t blame the other woman. She is irrelevant. Men or spouses aren’t property. They have a brain and their own free will. It is up to them alone (and with their spouse) to keep their marriage intact

You sound dumb. It's takes two to have a relationship so how is she irrelevant when she's the other party in the relationship w/a married man? Does she become relevant if she gives the husband an STD? Is she relevant is she gets pregnant and suddenly your children have a new sibling? Or when he decides he wants to leave his wife and then your children are spending half their time at this woman's place with their dad? Clearly the husband is at fault, clearly he made the commitment, but too many women are willing to entangle themselves and ultimately have a hand in wrecking lives.

I can tell you this, the betrayed wife will never forget the OW. She has created mental trauma in another woman—and often her kids. You think it doesn’t matter. Sure- it wasn’t a big deal. The wife will remember everything about the OW and her image will be seared on her brain, not in a good way. The rest of the OW’s life she has invited all kinds of negative energy her way. It is so crazy to have the mindset that contributing to an innocent person’s anguish and trauma is not partly on you. Mental gymnastics are big on the cheating game for both parties.

I do believe if you keep putting bad out in the universe and knowingly harming other people, being dishonest, lacking integrity, it eventually catches up with you. Not necessarily karma per se, but going through life participating in things you know will cause great anguish in someone else will eventually bite you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t blame the other woman. She is irrelevant. Men or spouses aren’t property. They have a brain and their own free will. It is up to them alone (and with their spouse) to keep their marriage intact

You sound dumb. It's takes two to have a relationship so how is she irrelevant when she's the other party in the relationship w/a married man? Does she become relevant if she gives the husband an STD? Is she relevant is she gets pregnant and suddenly your children have a new sibling? Or when he decides he wants to leave his wife and then your children are spending half their time at this woman's place with their dad? Clearly the husband is at fault, clearly he made the commitment, but too many women are willing to entangle themselves and ultimately have a hand in wrecking lives.

I can tell you this, the betrayed wife will never forget the OW. She has created mental trauma in another woman—and often her kids. You think it doesn’t matter. Sure- it wasn’t a big deal. The wife will remember everything about the OW and her image will be seared on her brain, not in a good way. The rest of the OW’s life she has invited all kinds of negative energy her way. It is so crazy to have the mindset that contributing to an innocent person’s anguish and trauma is not partly on you. Mental gymnastics are big on the cheating game for both parties.

I do believe if you keep putting bad out in the universe and knowingly harming other people, being dishonest, lacking integrity, it eventually catches up with you. Not necessarily karma per se, but going through life participating in things you know will cause great anguish in someone else will eventually bite you.

This is something people who perceive themselves as noble victims tell themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was OW, I didn't feel like I was harming the DW because I had no intention of breaking up her family. And when you think about it, I gotta give Sumner credit -- she could've dimed him out ages ago, but she didn't. She kept her mouth shut, she was discreet, no harm came to Behati. It wasn't until Sumner's friend tried to sell the story that Sumner herself came forward.

But honestly though, if Behati had an expectation of monogamy, she's a fool.

Yeah right. He never would have married you. It wasn’t even a consideration for him. Lol

Nor for me. We were both clear upfront that we weren't leaving our marriages.

You are an awful person.

I wish I knew her husband so I could call him and let him know his wife is a whore screwing other men behind his back.

Why the misogyny? Can’t you come up with a non-gendered word for two spouses engaged in the same behavior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When I was OW, I didn't feel like I was harming the DW because I had no intention of breaking up her family. And when you think about it, I gotta give Sumner credit -- she could've dimed him out ages ago, but she didn't. She kept her mouth shut, she was discreet, no harm came to Behati. It wasn't until Sumner's friend tried to sell the story that Sumner herself came forward.

But honestly though, if Behati had an expectation of monogamy, she's a fool.

Yeah right. He never would have married you. It wasn’t even a consideration for him. Lol

Nor for me. We were both clear upfront that we weren't leaving our marriages.

You are an awful person.

I wish I knew her husband so I could call him and let him know his wife is a whore screwing other men behind his back.

Why the misogyny? Can’t you come up with a non-gendered word for two spouses engaged in the same behavior?

Scumbag. Does that work?