Verbally abusive mother at the park - what would you do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that “everybody” screams at their kid or curses. Every parent reaches a breaking point, sometimes. How you deal with that varies. I would not yell or curse, but I might burst into tears or grip an arm too hard (not like injury hard).

Basically though OP what you witnessed is sad and horrible but there’s nothing appropriate to do about it. It doesn’t rise to the level of reporting.

I would say gripping an arm too hard is worse than yelling or cursing!! Way worse in my book.

Much worse

In fact that's something people who interact with kids are trained to look for as signs of abuse -- bruising on arms that were gripped tightly.

[Anonymous]

This isn’t snapping. This is a trashy parent behaving like trash

[Anonymous]

This... isn't unusual. Unfortunate, sure. Not pleasant to witness. But not something that would leave me "shaken." You witnessed a bit more of the real world that you are used to.

[Anonymous]

The threat of violence is terrible, yes, but I am also disturbed by a mother calling their kid stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This... isn't unusual. Unfortunate, sure. Not pleasant to witness. But not something that would leave me "shaken." You witnessed a bit more of the real world that you are used to.

You have a high tolerance for inappropriate behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This... isn't unusual. Unfortunate, sure. Not pleasant to witness. But not something that would leave me "shaken." You witnessed a bit more of the real world that you are used to.

You have a high tolerance for inappropriate behavior.

You don’t leave your UMC bubble much. This is a how many parents behave all the time

[Anonymous]

For those that would call the police/CPS, what would your end goal be? Would you want this child taken away from his mother and put in the foster care system?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I yell and curse ( at foreign language) a few time when I lose temper at kids. Just like today, I have to display 10 shirts for my beloved dd to pick one to get out of door. And, then she complains about the sock pattern. She drives me insane sometimes.

Your fault. I would give her a choice between two outfits and this includes underwear, socks, shoes. She has three minutes times, and then I make choice. Tough if she doesn't like my choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never cussed at, threatened, hit or even yelled at my kids ever. I know many of you do and think nothing of it. I was the child who was treated that way by my mother. It was abuse. Try to think long term when interacting with your child. I have a very distant relationship with my mom and feel no guilt or regret. She was a terrible parent and, if you do these things to your kids, you are too.

Your kid(s) are brats because you never say no and give into their every whim. This is as bad as screaming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This... isn't unusual. Unfortunate, sure. Not pleasant to witness. But not something that would leave me "shaken." You witnessed a bit more of the real world that you are used to.

You have a high tolerance for inappropriate behavior.

You don’t leave your UMC bubble much. This is a how many parents behave all the time

My umc mother treated me that way. I knew it was wrong then and, as a mother myself, I know it is wrong now. I have no tolerance for bad treatment of children. Just because people do it doesn't make it normal. I do live in a bubble because I want no part of that sh1t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This... isn't unusual. Unfortunate, sure. Not pleasant to witness. But not something that would leave me "shaken." You witnessed a bit more of the real world that you are used to.

You have a high tolerance for inappropriate behavior.

You don’t leave your UMC bubble much. This is a how many parents behave all the time

My umc mother treated me that way. I knew it was wrong then and, as a mother myself, I know it is wrong now. I have no tolerance for bad treatment of children. Just because people do it doesn't make it normal. I do live in a bubble because I want no part of that sh1t.

+1

I hope I never normalize emotional (or physical) abuse of children or anyone else. Rather live in a bubble than a world where this is normal parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those that would call the police/CPS, what would your end goal be? Would you want this child taken away from his mother and put in the foster care system?

I was a poster who said I would, if I saw a second instance, make a video and report to CPS. There is no chance of a child being removed from their parent *solely* based on a video of them swearing, but it might trigger a home check and so if the child was genuinely in danger, that child might be saved. I know it would be a huge hassle and stress on the parent, but weighed against the possibility of another child dying of abuse and neglect I would consider that a reasonable risk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This... isn't unusual. Unfortunate, sure. Not pleasant to witness. But not something that would leave me "shaken." You witnessed a bit more of the real world that you are used to.

You have a high tolerance for inappropriate behavior.

You don’t leave your UMC bubble much. This is a how many parents behave all the time

My umc mother treated me that way. I knew it was wrong then and, as a mother myself, I know it is wrong now. I have no tolerance for bad treatment of children. Just because people do it doesn't make it normal. I do live in a bubble because I want no part of that sh1t.

Awe certainly don’t live in an umc neighborhood. I don’t see parents treat their children that way. Sure, they are a little more “no-nonsense,” but not at all what op described.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This... isn't unusual. Unfortunate, sure. Not pleasant to witness. But not something that would leave me "shaken." You witnessed a bit more of the real world that you are used to.

You have a high tolerance for inappropriate behavior.

You don’t leave your UMC bubble much. This is a how many parents behave all the time

My umc mother treated me that way. I knew it was wrong then and, as a mother myself, I know it is wrong now. I have no tolerance for bad treatment of children. Just because people do it doesn't make it normal. I do live in a bubble because I want no part of that sh1t.

+1

I hope I never normalize emotional (or physical) abuse of children or anyone else. Rather live in a bubble than a world where this is normal parenting.

What planet are you moving to?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those that would call the police/CPS, what would your end goal be? Would you want this child taken away from his mother and put in the foster care system?

I was a poster who said I would, if I saw a second instance, make a video and report to CPS. There is no chance of a child being removed from their parent *solely* based on a video of them swearing, but it might trigger a home check and so if the child was genuinely in danger, that child might be saved. I know it would be a huge hassle and stress on the parent, but weighed against the possibility of another child dying of abuse and neglect I would consider that a reasonable risk.

PP that asked here

I have been considering looking into being a foster parent and have been doing some research online, including reading various social media groups for foster parents. Something I've seen come up a lot is the horrible conditions that many of these foster children face. There are not enough foster homes/beds. Children are forced to sleep in offices, and in cars without proper bedding/blankets. These children are not in a better place than they were with their parents.

The horrific conditions in foster homes is a huge part of what lead to the shooting death of foster child Ma'Khia Bryant last year in Columbus Ohio.

Is that what you really want to happen to children? What a horrible life you must live--knowing you are evil and with no conscience.