Verbally abusive mother at the park - what would you do?

Anonymous
You say nothing.
Anonymous
Every parent at least once has reached a point where they can't take another whine or cry. Sometimes we scream or curse. If you can't help, leave it alone.
Anonymous
There's a whole subgroup of parents who speak to their children this way as a normal thing. Who laugh when little ones fight each other, record it and pit it online, cheering for one side or the other. It's ignorance and not much you can do
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Anonymous wrote:I once told a woman that the things she was saying were inappropriate to say to a small child and she threatened to beat me and chased me in her car. I was on a bicycle with my kid. Never again. People are crazy! If she's actively beating the kid get her license plate number and quietly call the police for a welfare check otherwise MYOB.


Well you are an idiot


I'm not surprised. What did you expect PP? You actually escalated the situation by becoming confrontational and smug.


You take that as confrontational and smug. This is the training I've been given for corporate leadership when it comes to DEI. Call out bad behavior. Folks here seem to want to brush it under the carpet. Social pressure is not always a bad thing.




This was a joke, right? Sarcasm?


https://hbr.org/2021/05/are-your-companys-di-efforts-shallow
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:There's a whole subgroup of parents who speak to their children this way as a normal thing. Who laugh when little ones fight each other, record it and pit it online, cheering for one side or the other. It's ignorance and not much you can do


You learn pretty quickly not to engage with this group of people. I have no problem switching subway cars if they enter it trying to start trouble, for example.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Every parent at least once has reached a point where they can't take another whine or cry. Sometimes we scream or curse. If you can't help, leave it alone.


Pretty sure this parent speaks likes this to their kid regularly. Normal parents don’t tell their kid they are going beat their stupid as*, under any circumstance. It just isn’t part of their vocabulary, snapping or not.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Every parent at least once has reached a point where they can't take another whine or cry. Sometimes we scream or curse. If you can't help, leave it alone.


Pretty sure this parent speaks likes this to their kid regularly. Normal parents don’t tell their kid they are going beat their stupid as*, under any circumstance. It just isn’t part of their vocabulary, snapping or not.


Judge not that ye be judged. I don't use that language and I never threatened violence but there were a few times I wanted to scream but you don't judge if you don't know the circumstances.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Video. license plate, anonymous tip to cops.


Yeah, they'll get right on that, I'm sure.


It just shows you the DCUM bubble. Privileged (probably professional, probably MC/UMC, probably white) woman thinks all she has to do is let the police know and everything will be just fine!
Anonymous
It’s a myth that “everybody” screams at their kid or curses. Every parent reaches a breaking point, sometimes. How you deal with that varies. I would not yell or curse, but I might burst into tears or grip an arm too hard (not like injury hard).

Basically though OP what you witnessed is sad and horrible but there’s nothing appropriate to do about it. It doesn’t rise to the level of reporting.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Video. license plate, anonymous tip to cops.


Yeah, they'll get right on that, I'm sure.


You’d be surprised
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Every parent at least once has reached a point where they can't take another whine or cry. Sometimes we scream or curse. If you can't help, leave it alone.


+1
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that “everybody” screams at their kid or curses. Every parent reaches a breaking point, sometimes. How you deal with that varies. I would not yell or curse, but I might burst into tears or grip an arm too hard (not like injury hard).

Basically though OP what you witnessed is sad and horrible but there’s nothing appropriate to do about it. It doesn’t rise to the level of reporting.


I would say gripping an arm too hard is worse than yelling or cursing!! Way worse in my book.
Anonymous
I yell and curse ( at foreign language) a few time when I lose temper at kids. Just like today, I have to display 10 shirts for my beloved dd to pick one to get out of door. And, then she complains about the sock pattern. She drives me insane sometimes.
Anonymous
I have never cussed at, threatened, hit or even yelled at my kids ever. I know many of you do and think nothing of it. I was the child who was treated that way by my mother. It was abuse. Try to think long term when interacting with your child. I have a very distant relationship with my mom and feel no guilt or regret. She was a terrible parent and, if you do these things to your kids, you are too.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s a myth that “everybody” screams at their kid or curses. Every parent reaches a breaking point, sometimes. How you deal with that varies. I would not yell or curse, but I might burst into tears or grip an arm too hard (not like injury hard).

Basically though OP what you witnessed is sad and horrible but there’s nothing appropriate to do about it. It doesn’t rise to the level of reporting.


I would say gripping an arm too hard is worse than yelling or cursing!! Way worse in my book.


Much worse
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