Have you ever backed out of a multi-family trip last-minute?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am the OP. I told my friends and they totally got it and rallied around me. They said to take care of me. One even brought me over a huge bag of coffee beans and a face mask. And we all have plans to hang out when they get back.
Sometimes people hit a wall with work/life/logistics and need a weekend at home and you cannot predict that months in advance.
TBH some of the replies here really shocked me - freeze a long-term, stressed friend out? Downgrade to a fake friend?
It is a scary world out there and I am FORTUNATE to have friends who empathized.

Good to hear! I'm glad you're getting the break that you badly need. And your friends are real friends. Any overworked overscheduled mom can understand where you're coming from. I too was shocked at many of the replies here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am the OP. I told my friends and they totally got it and rallied around me. They said to take care of me. One even brought me over a huge bag of coffee beans and a face mask. And we all have plans to hang out when they get back.
Sometimes people hit a wall with work/life/logistics and need a weekend at home and you cannot predict that months in advance.
TBH some of the replies here really shocked me - freeze a long-term, stressed friend out? Downgrade to a fake friend?
It is a scary world out there and I am FORTUNATE to have friends who empathized.

So glad to hear this! This whole thread was making me really stressed out - as in questioning whether anyone is a true friend around here. I have some amazing friendships, and those friends would react just as yours did. Gosh. I am going to tell them how much I appreciate them - right now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am the OP. I told my friends and they totally got it and rallied around me. They said to take care of me. One even brought me over a huge bag of coffee beans and a face mask. And we all have plans to hang out when they get back.
Sometimes people hit a wall with work/life/logistics and need a weekend at home and you cannot predict that months in advance.
TBH some of the replies here really shocked me - freeze a long-term, stressed friend out? Downgrade to a fake friend?
It is a scary world out there and I am FORTUNATE to have friends who empathized.

Yay, good for you, OP! The responses in this thread are shocking to me, too. I hope you enjoy a nice, restorative weekend at home!

Yeah sounds like you have REAL friends OP, not the opportunistic vampires that tend to inhabit the DC area and think a normal response to something like this is to never invite the family again . Lord the women in this thread …

[Anonymous]

What kind of camp wouldn't reimburse you if you had a positive PCR test result? That's completely ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What kind of camp wouldn't reimburse you if you had a positive PCR test result? That's completely ridiculous.

Um, all of them? Are there actually camps that would reimburse for this?

[Anonymous]

Whenever I have this much trouble making a decision to get out of something, I just go. I have never regretted it.

[Anonymous]

Only because we had COVID. The other family still wanted us to come because we wanted to get our kids together and hadn't seen each other since before COVID. Try to pull it together and go if you can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am the OP. I told my friends and they totally got it and rallied around me. They said to take care of me. One even brought me over a huge bag of coffee beans and a face mask. And we all have plans to hang out when they get back.
Sometimes people hit a wall with work/life/logistics and need a weekend at home and you cannot predict that months in advance.
TBH some of the replies here really shocked me - freeze a long-term, stressed friend out? Downgrade to a fake friend?
It is a scary world out there and I am FORTUNATE to have friends who empathized.

Yay, good for you, OP! The responses in this thread are shocking to me, too. I hope you enjoy a nice, restorative weekend at home!

Yeah sounds like you have REAL friends OP, not the opportunistic vampires that tend to inhabit the DC area and think a normal response to something like this is to never invite the family again . Lord the women in this thread …

Sounds like OP wasn't confident in her friends though. Otherwise she would have just told them and not posted about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of camp wouldn't reimburse you if you had a positive PCR test result? That's completely ridiculous.

Um, all of them? Are there actually camps that would reimburse for this?

Yeah, camps don't reimburse any more. That is so 2021.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am the OP. I told my friends and they totally got it and rallied around me. They said to take care of me. One even brought me over a huge bag of coffee beans and a face mask. And we all have plans to hang out when they get back.
Sometimes people hit a wall with work/life/logistics and need a weekend at home and you cannot predict that months in advance.
TBH some of the replies here really shocked me - freeze a long-term, stressed friend out? Downgrade to a fake friend?
It is a scary world out there and I am FORTUNATE to have friends who empathized.

Yay, good for you, OP! The responses in this thread are shocking to me, too. I hope you enjoy a nice, restorative weekend at home!

Yeah sounds like you have REAL friends OP, not the opportunistic vampires that tend to inhabit the DC area and think a normal response to something like this is to never invite the family again . Lord the women in this thread …

Sounds like OP wasn't confident in her friends though. Otherwise she would have just told them and not posted about it.

Oh dear.

[Anonymous]

Send your spouse and kids. Let them have a good time. You'll be a lot more productive with everyone out of the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of camp wouldn't reimburse you if you had a positive PCR test result? That's completely ridiculous.

Um, all of them? Are there actually camps that would reimburse for this?

The sleep away camp that my kids went to reimburses for a positive COVID test before camp.

[Anonymous]

OP I often feel like you during the summer. It feels over scheduled sometimes. But I usually push through and make it work and during/afterwards, I'm almost always glad I went.

It's great your friends were supportive of you bowing out. We definitely all hit our limit sometimes, and it's ok to rest. It's hard to know exactly where the line is. It sounds like you found it, and that your friends know you well enough that you wouldn't have bailed if you didn't really NEED the space.

So congrats on the good friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What kind of camp wouldn't reimburse you if you had a positive PCR test result? That's completely ridiculous.

Um, all of them? Are there actually camps that would reimburse for this?

The sleep away camp that my kids went to reimburses for a positive COVID test before camp.

Lucky you. Mine doesn’t. Which is why there’s no way I’d risk my kid picking up Covid in a multi-family beach trip 3 days before camp.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad it worked out, OP. I was one of the PPs who suggested being honest with your friends and counting on them to rally. After I posted, I started thinking about an upcoming trip I have with other moms (our kids are college and older). I realized how stressed I am about it because, like you, I have a lot going on right now. I decided it isn't the right time for me to do this trip, and when I texted my friends, they were all so supportive and understanding. Thanks for helping me focus on what I was feeling, rather than just pushing it all under the surface.