ghosted after first date

[Anonymous]

The dude ain't interested. End of story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok you went on one date ,2 weeks ago and haven't heard from him.
I don't consider that ghosting. He's just not into you. I also don't think there needs to be an explanation for one date.

Forget about him.

Big difference between providing an explanation and basic etiquette. All he had to do was text :" Hey Larla, it was good to connect with you in person but i did not feel a romantic spark between us bla bla bla." Would have taken 2 minutes, a lot less time than the back and forth texting he has had with OP for the past 2 months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok you went on one date ,2 weeks ago and haven't heard from him.
I don't consider that ghosting. He's just not into you. I also don't think there needs to be an explanation for one date.

Forget about him.

Big difference between providing an explanation and basic etiquette. All he had to do was text :" Hey Larla, it was good to connect with you in person but i did not feel a romantic spark between us bla bla bla." Would have taken 2 minutes, a lot less time than the back and forth texting he has had with OP for the past 2 months.

Nope you don't owe anyone anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok you went on one date ,2 weeks ago and haven't heard from him.
I don't consider that ghosting. He's just not into you. I also don't think there needs to be an explanation for one date.

Forget about him.

Big difference between providing an explanation and basic etiquette. All he had to do was text :" Hey Larla, it was good to connect with you in person but i did not feel a romantic spark between us bla bla bla." Would have taken 2 minutes, a lot less time than the back and forth texting he has had with OP for the past 2 months.

Nope you don't owe anyone anything.

So he ghosted her.

[Anonymous]

He simply didn’t ask for a second date. Back in the days before texting, you’d just never get a call back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok you went on one date ,2 weeks ago and haven't heard from him.
I don't consider that ghosting. He's just not into you. I also don't think there needs to be an explanation for one date.

Forget about him.

Big difference between providing an explanation and basic etiquette. All he had to do was text :" Hey Larla, it was good to connect with you in person but i did not feel a romantic spark between us bla bla bla." Would have taken 2 minutes, a lot less time than the back and forth texting he has had with OP for the past 2 months.

I used to hate getting those unsolicited texts. Don’t know why women are so anxious to send them. Just wait. Maybe there will be no need to send the text.

[Anonymous]

Simply speculation here on my end but perhaps he is only in it to win it & used the excuse of “going out of town” hoping that would make you sleep w/him.

Ah men!
Such dogs!!
🐾 Woof. 🐾

Or like others have mentioned - maybe he used it as an exit strategy but I am inclined to believe the former since it seems like you guys spent a fair amount of time together.

Trust me on this OP > If this guy was truly interested in you, even though he was out of town…
He still would have called/texted you -> at least after a few days.

If I were you, I would simply write this man off + continue on your quest to find a good man.
Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Why did it take you both 2 months to finally have a date? My husband asked if you were putting him off. Were you? Or, was he “busy”?
Either way, meet or don’t, but whatever you do, don’t wait 2 months.
Also, be careful of people who “go out of town” a lot, I’ve never really accepted that as a reasonable, I mean, if you’re single and you don’t like it here, wherever here is, you have the freedom to go and live anyplace. I don’t understand why a person would date and then not be around to actually well go on a date. I haven’t even gotten into the married guys, the players, the guys who are into things they don’t want me to know about who also use “going out of town” as an excuse to not do the very activity they claim they want to do. Nobody makes anybody look for a date, you aren’t food, don’t allow yourself to be treated like it. Of course people are allowed to do what they want and don’t owe me anything, at the same time though, I don’t have to just accept what they are telling me and take it at face value. I’m not obligated to wait for someone to get back to me whenever they see fit and expect they’ll get what they want. I’m a human, not a product they can just order.
Your situation, op, is why I don’t give men the benifit of the doubt, if someone wants to see me, they will and they will do it sooner and keep doing it on the regular if they like me. go out of town or be busy all you want, just don’t expect me to be available when you do finally decide you’d like to see me.

[Anonymous]

He probably saw it wood take him another two months to get you to sleep with him and decided to cut his losses. You seem to be a little naive and slow rolling

[Anonymous]

Bye beeyotch!!! Don't be sitting by the phone waiting for this shithead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok you went on one date ,2 weeks ago and haven't heard from him.
I don't consider that ghosting. He's just not into you. I also don't think there needs to be an explanation for one date.

Forget about him.

Big difference between providing an explanation and basic etiquette. All he had to do was text :" Hey Larla, it was good to connect with you in person but i did not feel a romantic spark between us bla bla bla." Would have taken 2 minutes, a lot less time than the back and forth texting he has had with OP for the past 2 months.

And he didn't noh well. Time for op to move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not all first dates lead to second dates. He wasn't feeling it. It's fine.

Well sure but it can still feel confusing and bad when you thought it was a good date and then the person falls off the face of the earth. It leaves you questioning whether you have a decent gauge of how other people are feeling, your own behavior and worth, etc. Normal humans are allowed to have normal emotions even if the ghoster hasn't done anything wrong!

You can never know if the OTHER person thought it was a good date.
I have been on dates where he thought we had "an amazing connection" and I was creeped out and couldn't wait for it to be over. I've been on so many awful dates that the other person thought was great. It stands to reason that the reverse has also happened when I thought a date went well.
People tend to project.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ok you went on one date ,2 weeks ago and haven't heard from him.
I don't consider that ghosting. He's just not into you. I also don't think there needs to be an explanation for one date.

Forget about him.

Big difference between providing an explanation and basic etiquette. All he had to do was text :" Hey Larla, it was good to connect with you in person but i did not feel a romantic spark between us bla bla bla." Would have taken 2 minutes, a lot less time than the back and forth texting he has had with OP for the past 2 months.

I used to hate getting those unsolicited texts. Don’t know why women are so anxious to send them. Just wait. Maybe there will be no need to send the text.

Exactly. It's so presumptuous. I don't text a guy to tell him I'm not feeling it if he hasn't asked me out again.

[Anonymous]

It happens to best of us OP. Get back out there!

[Anonymous]

Ignore his words. With guys only actions matter. If he texts you then respond in a friendly and noncommittal way, but your expectations should be zero. His actions show that he is not attracted to you.