ghosted after first date

[Anonymous]

Apologies for the typos

Versus & interested**

we went on a date two fridays ago, where this past Friday made it one week of not hearing from him.

I’m not reaching out because I was the last person to text him. I left the text where he could’ve responded to my statement.


Which he has not, and that in itself feels like being ghosted. I thought ghosting is not hearing from the person you had gone out with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He’s not interested if it’s been over a week.

Agreed

If he was interested he would’ve continued to keep in contact past the date.
Regardless, of going out of town.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure it's not you. He could be married, his cat died, his ex is suing him for all he's worth, he broke his arm, he lost his job, he's depressed, the trip got extended... The thing is, it doesn't matter at this stage. He's not following up? You move on.

Next!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Apologies for the typos

Versus & interested**

we went on a date two fridays ago, where this past Friday made it one week of not hearing from him.

I’m not reaching out because I was the last person to text him. I left the text where he could’ve responded to my statement.


Which he has not, and that in itself feels like being ghosted. I thought ghosting is not hearing from the person you had gone out with.

Eh, no, not really, after one date. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Not all first dates lead to second dates. He wasn't feeling it. It's fine.

[Anonymous]

One time I was honest instead of ghosting and never again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One time I was honest instead of ghosting and never again.

Explain what happened.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:One time I was honest instead of ghosting and never again.

Explain what happened.

yes please explain

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To me being ghosting is when someone doesn’t respond when you reach out. The numbers dates of dates doesn’t matter.

Ghosting only happens when there is a relationship. One date does not a relationship make. Otherwise, you're ghosting every time you block a telemarketer.

We’re discussing dating, not telemarketing. Do if I went out with someone, reached out to them and they haven’t responded, then that is ghosting.

DP. You have a different definition of ghosting than most people. Most people don't consider a lack of response after a single date as ghosting. But, you do you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't be like the guy I ghosted who texted me 5 days in row about where I was.

Don't be such an immature twit. Just tell someone it's not right and don't leave them hanging. I really hate people who always take the easy way out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One time I was honest instead of ghosting and never again.

So what? Grow up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:To me being ghosting is when someone doesn’t respond when you reach out. The numbers dates of dates doesn’t matter.

Ghosting only happens when there is a relationship. One date does not a relationship make. Otherwise, you're ghosting every time you block a telemarketer.

We’re discussing dating, not telemarketing. Do if I went out with someone, reached out to them and they haven’t responded, then that is ghosting.

DP. You have a different definition of ghosting than most people. Most people don't consider a lack of response after a single date as ghosting. But, you do you.

It wasn't a blind date where they had never met before. OP said that he expressed interest for 2 months. If he was one of those serial texters who texted often for 2 months then dropped her after the 1st date, I would consider that ghosting. But it's not clear what was going on the 2 months prior to the date.

[Anonymous]

Ok you went on one date ,2 weeks ago and haven't heard from him.
I don't consider that ghosting. He's just not into you. I also don't think there needs to be an explanation for one date.

Forget about him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not all first dates lead to second dates. He wasn't feeling it. It's fine.

Well sure but it can still feel confusing and bad when you thought it was a good date and then the person falls off the face of the earth. It leaves you questioning whether you have a decent gauge of how other people are feeling, your own behavior and worth, etc. Normal humans are allowed to have normal emotions even if the ghoster hasn't done anything wrong!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me being ghosting is when someone doesn’t respond when you reach out. The numbers dates of dates doesn’t matter.

Ghosting only happens when there is a relationship. One date does not a relationship make. Otherwise, you're ghosting every time you block a telemarketer.

We’re discussing dating, not telemarketing. Do if I went out with someone, reached out to them and they haven’t responded, then that is ghosting.

DP. You have a different definition of ghosting than most people. Most people don't consider a lack of response after a single date as ghosting. But, you do you.

If you've been going back and forth with someone, and then they just disappear - yes, that is ghosting. It's not a class A felony example of it but yes it is! Doesn't mean there was any better way for the ghoster to let the ghostee know they aren't interested, but you can still call it by its name.