ghosted after first date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There is no such thing as"ghosting" after one date. You only met to see each other and the guy decided something wouldn't work for him, despite having a nice evening with you. I would not put any thought in it, as in dating you should be seeing multiple guys similar to him. It's choosing or not choosing game, no commitments. Just keep looking and keep in mind if he texts you are his "fallback plan" not a priority

+1 There's no such thing as ghosting after one date. While you had a nice time, it wasn't what he was looking for. Move the F on.

Agree. Ghosting is someone you’ve gone out with at least several times, kissed, fooled around etc

[Anonymous]

After first date is absolute best time to be ghosted. Be thankful. Nothing to be shocked about, it happens and it doesn't mean anything horrible about you, just not a match for him.

[Anonymous]

To me being ghosting is when someone doesn’t respond when you reach out. The numbers dates of dates doesn’t matter.

[Anonymous]

You exchanged niceties afterwards. He went out of town for a few days. It was a holiday weekend, so he may be busy and perhaps assumed you were busy too. It’s hardly ghosting.

And where are you people located that are purchasing phones that only receive calls and texts? That must be really inconvenient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i’m 31, not overweight, easy on the eyes. Dating has just not been my priority as of late.

we met in person prior to going out on the date and kept in communication leading up to the date.

i’m on the side, that if he was interred he would’ve checked in by now.

also, i don’t think i’m “needy”.

i’d agree that something about me, just didn’t click for him.

All 31 year old unmarried women are needy. And in every country in the world, not just the US.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:i’m 31, not overweight, easy on the eyes. Dating has just not been my priority as of late.

we met in person prior to going out on the date and kept in communication leading up to the date.

i’m on the side, that if he was interred he would’ve checked in by now.


also, i don’t think i’m “needy”.


i’d agree that something about me, just didn’t click for him.

You sound interested - why haven’t YOU checked in by now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me being ghosting is when someone doesn’t respond when you reach out. The numbers dates of dates doesn’t matter.

Ghosting only happens when there is a relationship. One date does not a relationship make. Otherwise, you're ghosting every time you block a telemarketer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To me being ghosting is when someone doesn’t respond when you reach out. The numbers dates of dates doesn’t matter.

Ghosting only happens when there is a relationship. One date does not a relationship make. Otherwise, you're ghosting every time you block a telemarketer.

We’re discussing dating, not telemarketing. Do if I went out with someone, reached out to them and they haven’t responded, then that is ghosting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i’m 31, not overweight, easy on the eyes. Dating has just not been my priority as of late.

we met in person prior to going out on the date and kept in communication leading up to the date.

i’m on the side, that if he was interred he would’ve checked in by now.


also, i don’t think i’m “needy”.


i’d agree that something about me, just didn’t click for him.

Well, I certainly hope he hasn’t been interred, but if he is it would explain not having heard from him.

Ha! Brings new meaning to being “ghosted”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my years of dating, I have never experienced this, it’s truly a shock.

A guy that has expressed interest for over two months of going out, we finally met up.

We went for dinner, drinks and then hit another spot for last call. Then, on our way back the cars, we hit the park.

He let me know he was going out of town, the following day. So from there, i just wished him safe travels.


…. i haven’t heard from him since

i’m on the fence of reach out to him verses, if he was interested he would’ve reached out and it’s been a week.

versus

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i’m 31, not overweight, easy on the eyes. Dating has just not been my priority as of late.

we met in person prior to going out on the date and kept in communication leading up to the date.

i’m on the side, that if he was interred he would’ve checked in by now.


also, i don’t think i’m “needy”.


i’d agree that something about me, just didn’t click for him.

Freaking out about a guy not texting you for 2 days when a) you e only been on one date and b) he told you he'd be out of town is needy.

This is why dating multiple people is good so you don't become obsessive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i’m 31, not overweight, easy on the eyes. Dating has just not been my priority as of late.

we met in person prior to going out on the date and kept in communication leading up to the date.

i’m on the side, that if he was interred he would’ve checked in by now.


also, i don’t think i’m “needy”.


i’d agree that something about me, just didn’t click for him.

Freaking out about a guy not texting you for 2 days when a) you e only been on one date and b) he told you he'd be out of town is needy.

This is why dating multiple people is good so you don't become obsessive

It's been a week according to OP. The guy isn't interested. Why are people pretending otherwise? The signs are clear, OP just needs to pay attention.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i’m 31, not overweight, easy on the eyes. Dating has just not been my priority as of late.

we met in person prior to going out on the date and kept in communication leading up to the date.

i’m on the side, that if he was interred he would’ve checked in by now.


also, i don’t think i’m “needy”.


i’d agree that something about me, just didn’t click for him.

Freaking out about a guy not texting you for 2 days when a) you e only been on one date and b) he told you he'd be out of town is needy.

This is why dating multiple people is good so you don't become obsessive

It's been a week according to OP. The guy isn't interested. Why are people pretending otherwise? The signs are clear, OP just needs to pay attention.

A week?

Op said the went out on Friday and last message was Saturday. 2 days ago

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i’m 31, not overweight, easy on the eyes. Dating has just not been my priority as of late.

we met in person prior to going out on the date and kept in communication leading up to the date.

i’m on the side, that if he was interred he would’ve checked in by now.


also, i don’t think i’m “needy”.


i’d agree that something about me, just didn’t click for him.

Freaking out about a guy not texting you for 2 days when a) you e only been on one date and b) he told you he'd be out of town is needy.

This is why dating multiple people is good so you don't become obsessive

It's been a week according to OP. The guy isn't interested. Why are people pretending otherwise? The signs are clear, OP just needs to pay attention.

A week?

Op said the went out on Friday and last message was Saturday. 2 days ago

Yes, a week. The last line of the OP "i’m on the fence of reach out to him verses, if he was interested he would’ve reached out and it’s been a week."

He's not interested.

[Anonymous]

He’s not interested if it’s been over a week.