ghosted after first date
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Anonymous
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OP, did he ever get back in touch? The whole two months of texting is weird. It’s like he wants to be close, but once he got close, he couldn’t deal. Not a good way to interact with people.
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Anonymous
Yeah or he had second thoughts about the chemistry. That's why you don't text for long. It's easy to get lost in an ascribed feel and then when you meet and they're different, it sucks. |
Anonymous
| biggest lesson I learned in online dating is to text/email enough to gauge compatibility but not so much that you get too invested in something not real. after a week of back and forth, I want to meet for a drink, not conduct an endless epistolary romance. Chemistry in person is really important and you can't always sense that online. |
Anonymous
| It is impossible to be "ghosted" after one date |
Anonymous
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The clues to what happened are in details we don’t have.
What does OP mean when she says he was after her for two months for a date? Does that mean frequent texting and sharing personal communications, or did he just say “hey we should go out” a few times? Who made the plans for the date; who paid? Did he try to hit on OP; what was OP’s response? If he principally was interested in the last item, he might have found an “easier target” in someone else. That’s actually a compliment to OP. |
Anonymous
| Op, that guy is not that much into you. Move on |
Anonymous
| Op, did you please this guy if you are so into him? That could have helped. |
Anonymous
| Either he’s flaky/gets close and pulls away, or not into you. Either way, not worth pursuing or losing sleep over. |
Anonymous
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hey though i’d update the group
nope, he never reached out till this day. the whole two months thing, we were just texting and a call here and there before we finally decided on making plans. yes im moving on, obviously |
Anonymous
No, don’t be the person who ghosts. Have the balls to say you’re not interested. |