MIL super upset that I don’t always answer the phone—and she wasn’t event calling!

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Anonymous wrote:Soooo...really? You would all drop everything and run to a different floor of the house to answer a call any time your phone rings? I’m flabbergasted. Honestly.

Said nobody. But I also don't make rude comments like "if its an emergency they can call back a few more times or just call 911". I would say something normal to questioning MIL like "I'll check when I get a chance, too busy right now." and leave it at that.

How exactly is it rude to say “If it’s an emergency, they can call back a few more times or just call 911?” Please explain how this is rude.

Because it's idiotic. Only people close to you call you in an emergency your spouse, parents, kids, etc. If your own mother fell down the stairs and tried to reach you would you let her just resort to 911? Nobody does this, it's not even a normal response.

How would you know? Typically when my mom calls we’re eating dinner, I let it go to VM and call her back. If it’s urgent, she’ll call again, or call DH.

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OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

That’s not snarky. You’ve got a weird interpretation of what she said.

Cool, we can agree to disagree. I'm not the one posting lame stories about my MIL and then wondering all wide eyed innocence why I'm being frozen out. If you think OP was sweet and charming during this pleasant exchange then you are very naive. Maybe OP will figure it out later.

NP. You are one bitter MIL. Go work out your own family issues, honestly. Bag of bones with quite a bone to pick.

Ha my kids are very young 11 and under. You have no idea what you're talking about. Sometimes the DIL, believe it or not.

If you have an 11yo you are not a young mom, sorry. It shows that you are old if you think it’s OK to expect people to answer every call immediately and to roll over and play dead instead of being truthful and direct when MIL pushes you.

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OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

Because this forum is where many of us go to get a bit of commiseration before going back into the family fray. OP did and said nothing wrong, and MIL is indeed crazy to think people must answer their cell phones every time they ring in 2021.

The point isn't how do we use cell phones as much as it is, it's how to manage conflict. DIL failed miserably.

Nope, MIL couldn’t stop pushing, and she’s the one who can’t read a room. OP said the first time, perfectly reasonably, that she was busy at the moment and would call the person back if it wasn’t a telemarketer. And then MIL went on and on. I’m sorry this is triggering your personal issues, PP, but there’s nothing unreasonable about not dropping everything to answer your phone each and every time it rings, and saying so.

Perfectly reasonably? Nope. I'm sure the tone was different. If you can embellish and add details to the OP then so can anyone else. This isn't about the phone, this is about being civil with guests in your own home. Change the subject next time. Or be pissy about the cold shoulder. Tough choice.

You’re “sure the tone was different”? Because you were there? Oh honey. You’re grasping at straws.

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OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

Because this forum is where many of us go to get a bit of commiseration before going back into the family fray. OP did and said nothing wrong, and MIL is indeed crazy to think people must answer their cell phones every time they ring in 2021.

The point isn't how do we use cell phones as much as it is, it's how to manage conflict. DIL failed miserably.

Nope, MIL couldn’t stop pushing, and she’s the one who can’t read a room. OP said the first time, perfectly reasonably, that she was busy at the moment and would call the person back if it wasn’t a telemarketer. And then MIL went on and on. I’m sorry this is triggering your personal issues, PP, but there’s nothing unreasonable about not dropping everything to answer your phone each and every time it rings, and saying so.

Perfectly reasonably? Nope. I'm sure the tone was different. If you can embellish and add details to the OP then so can anyone else. This isn't about the phone, this is about being civil with guests in your own home. Change the subject next time. Or be pissy about the cold shoulder. Tough choice.

Be civil with guests? OP was perfectly civil. No voices were raised. No foul language was used. No insults were lobbed. No sarcasm or nasty tone was uttered. What is wrong with you, PP? Have you been drinking? I’m being serious. You’re unusually invested in some narrative here that you’ve conceived in your head.

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OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

That’s not snarky. You’ve got a weird interpretation of what she said.

Cool, we can agree to disagree. I'm not the one posting lame stories about my MIL and then wondering all wide eyed innocence why I'm being frozen out. If you think OP was sweet and charming during this pleasant exchange then you are very naive. Maybe OP will figure it out later.

NP. You are one bitter MIL. Go work out your own family issues, honestly. Bag of bones with quite a bone to pick.

Ha my kids are very young 11 and under. You have no idea what you're talking about. Sometimes the DIL, believe it or not.

If you have an 11yo you are not a young mom, sorry. It shows that you are old if you think it’s OK to expect people to answer every call immediately and to roll over and play dead instead of being truthful and direct when MIL pushes you.

I've said multiple times I don't answer, but keep trying to ignore that. I'm surprised some of you don't just come to blows with your MILs since you rise to the challenge every single time. Why not just slug it out instead of all the passive aggressive BS?

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OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

Because this forum is where many of us go to get a bit of commiseration before going back into the family fray. OP did and said nothing wrong, and MIL is indeed crazy to think people must answer their cell phones every time they ring in 2021.

The point isn't how do we use cell phones as much as it is, it's how to manage conflict. DIL failed miserably.

Nope, MIL couldn’t stop pushing, and she’s the one who can’t read a room. OP said the first time, perfectly reasonably, that she was busy at the moment and would call the person back if it wasn’t a telemarketer. And then MIL went on and on. I’m sorry this is triggering your personal issues, PP, but there’s nothing unreasonable about not dropping everything to answer your phone each and every time it rings, and saying so.

Perfectly reasonably? Nope. I'm sure the tone was different. If you can embellish and add details to the OP then so can anyone else. This isn't about the phone, this is about being civil with guests in your own home. Change the subject next time. Or be pissy about the cold shoulder. Tough choice.

Be civil with guests? OP was perfectly civil. No voices were raised. No foul language was used. No insults were lobbed. No sarcasm or nasty tone was uttered. What is wrong with you, PP? Have you been drinking? I’m being serious. You’re unusually invested in some narrative here that you’ve conceived in your head.

How do we even know MIL is freezing DIL out? We only have 1/2 of a this nonsense story. What exactly has MIL done in this situation at all? She asked questions, DIL answered, the end. The freezing out exists in insecure DIL head.

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OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

That’s not snarky. You’ve got a weird interpretation of what she said.

Cool, we can agree to disagree. I'm not the one posting lame stories about my MIL and then wondering all wide eyed innocence why I'm being frozen out. If you think OP was sweet and charming during this pleasant exchange then you are very naive. Maybe OP will figure it out later.

NP. You are one bitter MIL. Go work out your own family issues, honestly. Bag of bones with quite a bone to pick.

Ha my kids are very young 11 and under. You have no idea what you're talking about. Sometimes the DIL, believe it or not.

If you have an 11yo you are not a young mom, sorry. It shows that you are old if you think it’s OK to expect people to answer every call immediately and to roll over and play dead instead of being truthful and direct when MIL pushes you.

I've said multiple times I don't answer, but keep trying to ignore that. I'm surprised some of you don't just come to blows with your MILs since you rise to the challenge every single time. Why not just slug it out instead of all the passive aggressive BS?

Oh, so you do the exact same thing OP said she does—will check her phone when she can and will call back if it’s not a telemarketer—but you’re better than OP because you would…what, lie to MIL? If someone asks you a question and you answer in a straightforward way, and they keep pushing you to give the “right” answer they expect, would you or would you not think they were being rude? Be honest. If you can.

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OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

Because this forum is where many of us go to get a bit of commiseration before going back into the family fray. OP did and said nothing wrong, and MIL is indeed crazy to think people must answer their cell phones every time they ring in 2021.

The point isn't how do we use cell phones as much as it is, it's how to manage conflict. DIL failed miserably.

Nope, MIL couldn’t stop pushing, and she’s the one who can’t read a room. OP said the first time, perfectly reasonably, that she was busy at the moment and would call the person back if it wasn’t a telemarketer. And then MIL went on and on. I’m sorry this is triggering your personal issues, PP, but there’s nothing unreasonable about not dropping everything to answer your phone each and every time it rings, and saying so.

Perfectly reasonably? Nope. I'm sure the tone was different. If you can embellish and add details to the OP then so can anyone else. This isn't about the phone, this is about being civil with guests in your own home. Change the subject next time. Or be pissy about the cold shoulder. Tough choice.

Be civil with guests? OP was perfectly civil. No voices were raised. No foul language was used. No insults were lobbed. No sarcasm or nasty tone was uttered. What is wrong with you, PP? Have you been drinking? I’m being serious. You’re unusually invested in some narrative here that you’ve conceived in your head.

How do we even know MIL is freezing DIL out? We only have 1/2 of a this nonsense story. What exactly has MIL done in this situation at all? She asked questions, DIL answered, the end. The freezing out exists in insecure DIL head.

NP. Honestly asking: what has triggered you so much with this story/scenario? As another poster asked, have you been drinking all day? If not, what is it that makes this such a hot-button issue for you? Genuinely curious. Genuinely hoping if you tell us we can help you figure out whatever is bothering you.

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Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

That’s not snarky. You’ve got a weird interpretation of what she said.

Cool, we can agree to disagree. I'm not the one posting lame stories about my MIL and then wondering all wide eyed innocence why I'm being frozen out. If you think OP was sweet and charming during this pleasant exchange then you are very naive. Maybe OP will figure it out later.

NP. You are one bitter MIL. Go work out your own family issues, honestly. Bag of bones with quite a bone to pick.

Ha my kids are very young 11 and under. You have no idea what you're talking about. Sometimes the DIL, believe it or not.

If you have an 11yo you are not a young mom, sorry. It shows that you are old if you think it’s OK to expect people to answer every call immediately and to roll over and play dead instead of being truthful and direct when MIL pushes you.

I've said multiple times I don't answer, but keep trying to ignore that. I'm surprised some of you don't just come to blows with your MILs since you rise to the challenge every single time. Why not just slug it out instead of all the passive aggressive BS?

Oh, so you do the exact same thing OP said she does—will check her phone when she can and will call back if it’s not a telemarketer—but you’re better than OP because you would…what, lie to MIL? If someone asks you a question and you answer in a straightforward way, and they keep pushing you to give the “right” answer they expect, would you or would you not think they were being rude? Be honest. If you can.

Be real. DIL wasn't being nice. And now she's reaping what she sows. Does she feel good about her "win" over her MIL? Doesn't seem like it.

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OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

Because this forum is where many of us go to get a bit of commiseration before going back into the family fray. OP did and said nothing wrong, and MIL is indeed crazy to think people must answer their cell phones every time they ring in 2021.

The point isn't how do we use cell phones as much as it is, it's how to manage conflict. DIL failed miserably.

Nope, MIL couldn’t stop pushing, and she’s the one who can’t read a room. OP said the first time, perfectly reasonably, that she was busy at the moment and would call the person back if it wasn’t a telemarketer. And then MIL went on and on. I’m sorry this is triggering your personal issues, PP, but there’s nothing unreasonable about not dropping everything to answer your phone each and every time it rings, and saying so.

Perfectly reasonably? Nope. I'm sure the tone was different. If you can embellish and add details to the OP then so can anyone else. This isn't about the phone, this is about being civil with guests in your own home. Change the subject next time. Or be pissy about the cold shoulder. Tough choice.

Be civil with guests? OP was perfectly civil. No voices were raised. No foul language was used. No insults were lobbed. No sarcasm or nasty tone was uttered. What is wrong with you, PP? Have you been drinking? I’m being serious. You’re unusually invested in some narrative here that you’ve conceived in your head.

How do we even know MIL is freezing DIL out? We only have 1/2 of a this nonsense story. What exactly has MIL done in this situation at all? She asked questions, DIL answered, the end. The freezing out exists in insecure DIL head.

NP. Honestly asking: what has triggered you so much with this story/scenario? As another poster asked, have you been drinking all day? If not, what is it that makes this such a hot-button issue for you? Genuinely curious. Genuinely hoping if you tell us we can help you figure out whatever is bothering you.

I think she's rude. End of story. And I have to kill some time. It's bizarre some people buy everything the DILs say here hook, line and sinker. Every time. Like half of these aren't troll posts to begin with.

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Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

That’s not snarky. You’ve got a weird interpretation of what she said.

Cool, we can agree to disagree. I'm not the one posting lame stories about my MIL and then wondering all wide eyed innocence why I'm being frozen out. If you think OP was sweet and charming during this pleasant exchange then you are very naive. Maybe OP will figure it out later.

NP. You are one bitter MIL. Go work out your own family issues, honestly. Bag of bones with quite a bone to pick.

Ha my kids are very young 11 and under. You have no idea what you're talking about. Sometimes the DIL, believe it or not.

If you have an 11yo you are not a young mom, sorry. It shows that you are old if you think it’s OK to expect people to answer every call immediately and to roll over and play dead instead of being truthful and direct when MIL pushes you.

I've said multiple times I don't answer, but keep trying to ignore that. I'm surprised some of you don't just come to blows with your MILs since you rise to the challenge every single time. Why not just slug it out instead of all the passive aggressive BS?

Oh, so you do the exact same thing OP said she does—will check her phone when she can and will call back if it’s not a telemarketer—but you’re better than OP because you would…what, lie to MIL? If someone asks you a question and you answer in a straightforward way, and they keep pushing you to give the “right” answer they expect, would you or would you not think they were being rude? Be honest. If you can.

Be real. DIL wasn't being nice. And now she's reaping what she sows. Does she feel good about her "win" over her MIL? Doesn't seem like it.

Tell me what is “not being nice” about answering a question honestly. And then answering the next question honestly. And then the next. And then the next.

There’s not a universe in which MIL shouldn’t have stopped with her line of questioning if she wasn’t getting the response she so clearly wanted. MIL has a different approach to answering/returning calls than DIL, and instead of badgering DIL to get the answer she deemed correct, she should have dropped it.

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Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

Because this forum is where many of us go to get a bit of commiseration before going back into the family fray. OP did and said nothing wrong, and MIL is indeed crazy to think people must answer their cell phones every time they ring in 2021.

The point isn't how do we use cell phones as much as it is, it's how to manage conflict. DIL failed miserably.

Nope, MIL couldn’t stop pushing, and she’s the one who can’t read a room. OP said the first time, perfectly reasonably, that she was busy at the moment and would call the person back if it wasn’t a telemarketer. And then MIL went on and on. I’m sorry this is triggering your personal issues, PP, but there’s nothing unreasonable about not dropping everything to answer your phone each and every time it rings, and saying so.

Perfectly reasonably? Nope. I'm sure the tone was different. If you can embellish and add details to the OP then so can anyone else. This isn't about the phone, this is about being civil with guests in your own home. Change the subject next time. Or be pissy about the cold shoulder. Tough choice.

Be civil with guests? OP was perfectly civil. No voices were raised. No foul language was used. No insults were lobbed. No sarcasm or nasty tone was uttered. What is wrong with you, PP? Have you been drinking? I’m being serious. You’re unusually invested in some narrative here that you’ve conceived in your head.

How do we even know MIL is freezing DIL out? We only have 1/2 of a this nonsense story. What exactly has MIL done in this situation at all? She asked questions, DIL answered, the end. The freezing out exists in insecure DIL head.

NP. Honestly asking: what has triggered you so much with this story/scenario? As another poster asked, have you been drinking all day? If not, what is it that makes this such a hot-button issue for you? Genuinely curious. Genuinely hoping if you tell us we can help you figure out whatever is bothering you.

I think she's rude. End of story. And I have to kill some time. It's bizarre some people buy everything the DILs say here hook, line and sinker. Every time. Like half of these aren't troll posts to begin with.

You might want to step away from DCUM and/or the Family Relationships forum if this bothers you so much. You seem really agitated and obsessed. Not a good look.

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Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

Because this forum is where many of us go to get a bit of commiseration before going back into the family fray. OP did and said nothing wrong, and MIL is indeed crazy to think people must answer their cell phones every time they ring in 2021.

The point isn't how do we use cell phones as much as it is, it's how to manage conflict. DIL failed miserably.

Nope, MIL couldn’t stop pushing, and she’s the one who can’t read a room. OP said the first time, perfectly reasonably, that she was busy at the moment and would call the person back if it wasn’t a telemarketer. And then MIL went on and on. I’m sorry this is triggering your personal issues, PP, but there’s nothing unreasonable about not dropping everything to answer your phone each and every time it rings, and saying so.

Perfectly reasonably? Nope. I'm sure the tone was different. If you can embellish and add details to the OP then so can anyone else. This isn't about the phone, this is about being civil with guests in your own home. Change the subject next time. Or be pissy about the cold shoulder. Tough choice.

Be civil with guests? OP was perfectly civil. No voices were raised. No foul language was used. No insults were lobbed. No sarcasm or nasty tone was uttered. What is wrong with you, PP? Have you been drinking? I’m being serious. You’re unusually invested in some narrative here that you’ve conceived in your head.

How do we even know MIL is freezing DIL out? We only have 1/2 of a this nonsense story. What exactly has MIL done in this situation at all? She asked questions, DIL answered, the end. The freezing out exists in insecure DIL head.

NP. Honestly asking: what has triggered you so much with this story/scenario? As another poster asked, have you been drinking all day? If not, what is it that makes this such a hot-button issue for you? Genuinely curious. Genuinely hoping if you tell us we can help you figure out whatever is bothering you.

I think she's rude. End of story. And I have to kill some time. It's bizarre some people buy everything the DILs say here hook, line and sinker. Every time. Like half of these aren't troll posts to begin with.

You might want to step away from DCUM and/or the Family Relationships forum if this bothers you so much. You seem really agitated and obsessed. Not a good look.

Notice how OP hasn't been back? Classic troll post. This never happened.

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Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?

Oh you missed the part about letting peopel call her back if its an emergency or call 911? Maybe read it again.

THAT’S EXACTLY WHAT SOMEONE WOULD DO IN AN EMERGENCY. Are you crazy? Is it only 85 year olds on DCUM today? I do not understand who you people are and why this bothers you? OP was telling it like it is.

Are you insane? They were having a basic conversation. DIL got snarky and MIL is just keeping to herself now. Why would DIL even bother posting this nonsense.

Because this forum is where many of us go to get a bit of commiseration before going back into the family fray. OP did and said nothing wrong, and MIL is indeed crazy to think people must answer their cell phones every time they ring in 2021.

The point isn't how do we use cell phones as much as it is, it's how to manage conflict. DIL failed miserably.

Nope, MIL couldn’t stop pushing, and she’s the one who can’t read a room. OP said the first time, perfectly reasonably, that she was busy at the moment and would call the person back if it wasn’t a telemarketer. And then MIL went on and on. I’m sorry this is triggering your personal issues, PP, but there’s nothing unreasonable about not dropping everything to answer your phone each and every time it rings, and saying so.

Perfectly reasonably? Nope. I'm sure the tone was different. If you can embellish and add details to the OP then so can anyone else. This isn't about the phone, this is about being civil with guests in your own home. Change the subject next time. Or be pissy about the cold shoulder. Tough choice.

Be civil with guests? OP was perfectly civil. No voices were raised. No foul language was used. No insults were lobbed. No sarcasm or nasty tone was uttered. What is wrong with you, PP? Have you been drinking? I’m being serious. You’re unusually invested in some narrative here that you’ve conceived in your head.

How do we even know MIL is freezing DIL out? We only have 1/2 of a this nonsense story. What exactly has MIL done in this situation at all? She asked questions, DIL answered, the end. The freezing out exists in insecure DIL head.

NP. Honestly asking: what has triggered you so much with this story/scenario? As another poster asked, have you been drinking all day? If not, what is it that makes this such a hot-button issue for you? Genuinely curious. Genuinely hoping if you tell us we can help you figure out whatever is bothering you.

I think she's rude. End of story. And I have to kill some time. It's bizarre some people buy everything the DILs say here hook, line and sinker. Every time. Like half of these aren't troll posts to begin with.

You might want to step away from DCUM and/or the Family Relationships forum if this bothers you so much. You seem really agitated and obsessed. Not a good look.

Notice how OP hasn't been back? Classic troll post. This never happened.

Why would OP come back? She vented a bit and plenty of people have said yeah, I don’t drop everything to answer my phone, either. Plenty of people have said MIL should have stopped digging. Looks like OP got what she was after. You clearly are unsatisfied, which is why you’re still digging.

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Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

Troll.

Everyone does what OP does. I don't know a single person who doesn't.