MIL super upset that I don’t always answer the phone—and she wasn’t event calling!

[Anonymous]

I think I’m filing this under “LOL and ignore.”

ILs are here and we’re having a relaxed day. I’m cooking a few things so that I don’t have to spend too much time in the kitchen tomorrow. I was in the middle of cleaning off some mushrooms, when my phone rang upstairs. I heard it, and ignored it. MIL said, “Aren’t you going to get that?” And I replied, “No, I’m going to finish this and I’ll call them back later, if it wasn’t a telemarketer.”

MIL then asked if I wanted her to go upstairs to my bedroom and give it to me so I could at least see who called. I said thanks but no, I’ll just call back when I can, if I need to.

She took a long pause and then asked, “So you just don’t always answer your phone?” And I said no, not when I’m busy. And she asked what if it’s an emergency, and I said, “Well then I assume they’ll either call back another time or two, or dial 911.”

She told me I was rude to not always answer my phone, and asked if I ignored it when she called. I said, “Not answering when someone calls is not ‘ignoring,’ it’s being busy with life—I always return the call when it is a good time for me. Remember before cell phones? Was it ‘rude’ for you to go to the grocery store or go for a walk or go to church and miss a few calls?”

She’s freezing me out now and I’m just like—are you serious?

[Anonymous]

Super!

[Anonymous]

You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Love it! If I had you number, I’d call you just so you could ignore it. 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

Looks like OP’s MIL has entered the chat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

Oh well, what's up with all these DILs who can't cope with their MILs? Roll your eyes and move in life as well as on here. Life isn't that hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

Why do you expect other people to always be at your beck and call?

[Anonymous]

I would’ve just lied to her and said when it’s her calling I always answer the phone. No big deal. But she was being annoying because a ringing phone is not a court summons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

Oh well, what's up with all these DILs who can't cope with their MILs? Roll your eyes and move in life as well as on here. Life isn't that hard.

Huh? Seems as if it’s the MIL that can’t deal with her DIL. She’s giving the silent treatment because she doesn’t like that her DIL let a phone call go to voicemail. If that’s not the definition of emotional immaturity, I don’t know what is.

[Anonymous]

I don't jump to get the phone or text. Those of you addicted to immediate replies need therapy.

I would have shut the woman down fast. This is none of her business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

Why do you expect other people to always be at your beck and call?

I don't say untrue things and then get huffy when people notice and give me the cold shoulder. If OP was so sure of herself, why did she let it get under her skin?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were rude AF that's why she's freezing you out. Saying you wait for an emergency to call you back once or twice or call 911 is gross. It's not even true, you know you check your missed calls. You got what you deserve.

OP was not rude. MIL was pushing to get the (what she perceives to be) correct answer that she wanted, and it wasn’t there. She should have stopped digging. If you keep poking at someone, you may not like the answers you get. What would you like OP to do, lie? Lie and say oh yes I do answer the phone every time it rings?

Well, since you were there you would know, right? OP did lie. She checks her missed calls she just wanted to be an ass to her MIL.

Can you read? OP said she would call the person back if it isn’t a telemarketer. Is it that you can’t read, or that you can’t comprehend what you read?