How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

[Anonymous]

All my affairs were organic connections that grew physical. I am confident and flirty. Most women reciprocate, but few signal real interest in going further. The ones that do are generally neglected at home and starved for attention.

[Anonymous]

Aren't there apps for this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:if you are a woman, remove top and say hi, if you are a man, its more complicated

Truest thing ever said on this site

LOL! Spit out my drink

[Anonymous]

I want to bang my admin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leaving aside issues of morality, why would anyone take a chance with a workplace affair? You're practically crying out to get caught. Is that the thrill you are looking for? If so, it really doesn't matter which approach you use; it will blow up in your face one way or another.

Not everyone who is open to an affair hangs out at bars or has the guts to approach completely strainers out in public. Of course there's the various websites, but most of those are a complete waste of time for the average person; those who look exceptionally good in a profile description and picture might stand a chance. This topic is about who get an affair started with another married person at work, not if that's a good idea. That would is a separate topic.

[Anonymous]

This is an interesting thread.
I’m currently attracted to my boss. I am 30 yo & single, broke up a few months ago after a 8y long relationship (he could not commit), still loves him, still hurting.
He is 49 & married. Spends about 50% of his time in business trips (2h flight from here). Lots of sports as well during his spare time so technically there is not much time left for his wife & family. I don’t have a clue about how he feels with his marriage though.

We are both addicted to sports and there is a mutual admiration, I think both performance-wise & spiritually/intellectually.

The seduction game started. “That” look, “That” voice, double meaning sentences and stuff.
I don’t want to be the one to initiate though, and I struggle establishing the “innocent physical contact” that is often mentioned in this thread.
On the other hand, maybe he’s trying to be professional and won’t initiate either given his position.

For me this would be perfect timing as I feel super attracted & need to move on after my breakup. Plus I can’t plot anything involving commitment with someone right now. But I miss taking care of a man.

I don’t want any drama nor hurting anyone. I think I could bring something nice in his life too, he seems to be a bit bored/caught in deadly routine - as he forgot he deserved to be happy - but who knows.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is really not so hard. You demonstrate your interest in the other person by doing things that clearly suggest an interest but are plausibly deniable and gradually escalate over time. Light flirting, more physical contact than normal (such as holding a handshake just a smigden longer than normal, light touching that isn't strictly speaking necessary). If the person reacts poorly, you just stop, and if called on it you claim a misunderstanding and never do anything like that again. If the person seems receptive, you are off to the races. Not that I would ever do this, but practically it is not that hard a problem and if you can't figure it out, you aren't really affair material.

She's either be into you orrrrr setting you up for a sexual harassment claim at work. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

This thread is 5 years old. I think OP figured it out by now.

[Anonymous]

Does not mean the discussion should be closed.
Opening 15 threads to serve the same purpose would be a bit stupid in my opinion

[Anonymous]

I think it starts off emotional and goes on from there.

[Anonymous]

I don't care if I am naive but I do not understand how someone strategically sets their eyes on someone who is married. That is f-cked up, in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Necroposting is not attractive to potential lovers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care if I am naive but I do not understand how someone strategically sets their eyes on someone who is married. That is f-cked up, in my opinion.

I’m afraid attraction has nothing to do with strategy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting thread.
I’m currently attracted to my boss. I am 30 yo & single, broke up a few months ago after a 8y long relationship (he could not commit), still loves him, still hurting.
He is 49 & married. Spends about 50% of his time in business trips (2h flight from here). Lots of sports as well during his spare time so technically there is not much time left for his wife & family. I don’t have a clue about how he feels with his marriage though.

We are both addicted to sports and there is a mutual admiration, I think both performance-wise & spiritually/intellectually.

The seduction game started. “That” look, “That” voice, double meaning sentences and stuff.
I don’t want to be the one to initiate though, and I struggle establishing the “innocent physical contact” that is often mentioned in this thread.
On the other hand, maybe he’s trying to be professional and won’t initiate either given his position.

For me this would be perfect timing as I feel super attracted & need to move on after my breakup. Plus I can’t plot anything involving commitment with someone right now. But I miss taking care of a man.

I don’t want any drama nor hurting anyone. I think I could bring something nice in his life too, he seems to be a bit bored/caught in deadly routine - as he forgot he deserved to be happy - but who knows.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

You are 30 and single. Go get yourself a nice early 30s single man. Seducing your married parent boss is obviously a huge waste of your time and potential at this stage of your life. Don't be so trifling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is an interesting thread.
I’m currently attracted to my boss. I am 30 yo & single, broke up a few months ago after a 8y long relationship (he could not commit), still loves him, still hurting.
He is 49 & married. Spends about 50% of his time in business trips (2h flight from here). Lots of sports as well during his spare time so technically there is not much time left for his wife & family. I don’t have a clue about how he feels with his marriage though.

We are both addicted to sports and there is a mutual admiration, I think both performance-wise & spiritually/intellectually.

The seduction game started. “That” look, “That” voice, double meaning sentences and stuff.
I don’t want to be the one to initiate though, and I struggle establishing the “innocent physical contact” that is often mentioned in this thread.
On the other hand, maybe he’s trying to be professional and won’t initiate either given his position.

For me this would be perfect timing as I feel super attracted & need to move on after my breakup. Plus I can’t plot anything involving commitment with someone right now. But I miss taking care of a man.

I don’t want any drama nor hurting anyone. I think I could bring something nice in his life too, he seems to be a bit bored/caught in deadly routine - as he forgot he deserved to be happy - but who knows.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

Assuming you’re serious and not just trolling—your post has “train wreck ahead” written all over it. An affair with your married boss who is almost 20 years older...yes, what could _possibly_ go wrong? It sounds to me like you’re hurting from your breakup and flattered that your boss thinks you’re cute. You’re an idiot if you take this any further.