Bathroom at school: teacher said no

[Anonymous]

And my daughter peed her pants. She asked to use the bathroom and wasn't allowed. She tried holding it but wound up peeing her pants. Why do teachers do this? I called the school to make sure my daughter told the truth, spoke to the teacher and was told that there are two bathroom breaks per day and if they need to go when it's not a bathroom break then they must declare that it's an emergency. Unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

That makes me so mad! My DD is sometimes scared to tell the teacher she has use the bathroom, so she holds it. She's also peed her pants a couple times (kindergartener)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And my daughter peed her pants. She asked to use the bathroom and wasn't allowed. She tried holding it but wound up peeing her pants. Why do teachers do this? I called the school to make sure my daughter told the truth, spoke to the teacher and was told that there are two bathroom breaks per day and if they need to go when it's not a bathroom break then they must declare that it's an emergency. Unbelievable.

I think she should yell emergency every single time from now on so that the teacher takes her seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That makes me so mad! My DD is sometimes scared to tell the teacher she has use the bathroom, so she holds it. She's also peed her pants a couple times (kindergartener)

Op here. This wasn't the first time for my dd either, which is why I called the teacher. I'm not happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And my daughter peed her pants. She asked to use the bathroom and wasn't allowed. She tried holding it but wound up peeing her pants. Why do teachers do this? I called the school to make sure my daughter told the truth, spoke to the teacher and was told that there are two bathroom breaks per day and if they need to go when it's not a bathroom break then they must declare that it's an emergency. Unbelievable.

Ugh I am so sorry. Teacher's like this really upset. Anecdotal but I had a teacher my junior year that absolutely would not let anyone use they restroom, not even when girls were on that time of the month. I had him after lunch period and one person peed themselves and ran out crying and several people took the detention for just getting up and heading to the bathroom.

Its a nasty control issue over a bodily function and doing it to young children is just rotten.

[Anonymous]

I've taught my daughter that she's to ask, and if she's told no, to wait until she can't wait anymore and then to just get up and walk out, and I will back her up on that decision to the school.

But I also have the doctor write a note each year saying she is always to be excused to use the bathroom whenever she asks for medical reasons. She knows not to abuse that, and never has.

[Anonymous]

Teacher here. I'm really sorry that happened. She should know to say that it's an emergency if it is, though, especially if the schools policy is twice a day. I am a middle school teacher so it's a bit different, and sometimes students claim "emergency" when it's not. A teacher may say not right now and not know it's an emergency. I agree with the walking out if it's a true emergency.

I will never forget when I was in second grade and a classmate was denied going to the bathroom. She was wearing a dress and stockings, made a big triangle by spreading her legs and just peed all over the floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And my daughter peed her pants. She asked to use the bathroom and wasn't allowed. She tried holding it but wound up peeing her pants. Why do teachers do this? I called the school to make sure my daughter told the truth, spoke to the teacher and was told that there are two bathroom breaks per day and if they need to go when it's not a bathroom break then they must declare that it's an emergency. Unbelievable.

Ugh I am so sorry. Teacher's like this really upset. Anecdotal but I had a teacher my junior year that absolutely would not let anyone use they restroom, not even when girls were on that time of the month. I had him after lunch period and one person peed themselves and ran out crying and several people took the detention for just getting up and heading to the bathroom.

Its a nasty control issue over a bodily function and doing it to young children is just rotten.

That's it. The teacher my daughter has is very controlling. It's obvious by other classroom policies. Unfortunately, you can't control another persons need to use the toilet. Students have been punished for passing gas, burping and similar bodily functions if what my daughter tells me is true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. I'm really sorry that happened. She should know to say that it's an emergency if it is, though, especially if the schools policy is twice a day. I am a middle school teacher so it's a bit different, and sometimes students claim "emergency" when it's not. A teacher may say not right now and not know it's an emergency. I agree with the walking out if it's a true emergency.

I will never forget when I was in second grade and a classmate was denied going to the bathroom. She was wearing a dress and stockings, made a big triangle by spreading her legs and just peed all over the floor.

No. It's not the schools policy to have two bathroom breaks a day, and even if it was, that's bs. A good teacher would stand up for the students right to use the toilet when they need to. What's so important that kids should have to "hold it in" until class bathroom break? Nothing is. How about you only get two bathroom breaks a day? Wouldn't like that, would you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And my daughter peed her pants. She asked to use the bathroom and wasn't allowed. She tried holding it but wound up peeing her pants. Why do teachers do this? I called the school to make sure my daughter told the truth, spoke to the teacher and was told that there are two bathroom breaks per day and if they need to go when it's not a bathroom break then they must declare that it's an emergency. Unbelievable.

Ugh I am so sorry. Teacher's like this really upset. Anecdotal but I had a teacher my junior year that absolutely would not let anyone use they restroom, not even when girls were on that time of the month. I had him after lunch period and one person peed themselves and ran out crying and several people took the detention for just getting up and heading to the bathroom.

Its a nasty control issue over a bodily function and doing it to young children is just rotten.

That's it. The teacher my daughter has is very controlling. It's obvious by other classroom policies. Unfortunately, you can't control another persons need to use the toilet. Students have been punished for passing gas, burping and similar bodily functions if what my daughter tells me is true.

Ugh, I also had a teacher like that in high school. I was an am a big rule follower and if a teacher told me no, I would take it as gospel. I told my teacher I wasn't feeling well (was nauseous) and asked to go to the bathroom and she told me no. A few minutes later, I was feeling really awful and asked again, telling her it was an emergency. Again, no. About 2 minutes later, I was barfing in her trash can on my hands and knees in front of the class. Don't know what she got out of that experience besides a smelly classroom for the rest of the day but I got to go home while she was left with a trash can full of my vomit.

[Anonymous]

My daughter and her friend told me on Wed afternoon that a classmate peed in her pants because the teacher wouldn't let her go to the bathroom until she finished her work. And they said it wasn't the first time and that the girl was crying a lot. This is in first grade, in a Bethesda elementary school. It made me really mad and really sad for that girl. Sorry your daughter deals with that, too, OP.

[Anonymous]

a friend is a 5th grade teacher. she got so fed up with the frivolous requests (not emergencies of course) that she created a points based system, where at the end of the year you redeem points for stuffed animals, games, cool stuff that kids like, etc. You earn points for good behavior, your birthday, etc. And among other things, it costs points to use the bathroom outside of 2x day or lunch. And she found that requests to go went down dramatically, way down.

[Anonymous]

You need to get the principal and counselor involved because that is appalling. If they don't take action I would write to the Superintendent and CC the principal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And my daughter peed her pants. She asked to use the bathroom and wasn't allowed. She tried holding it but wound up peeing her pants. Why do teachers do this? I called the school to make sure my daughter told the truth, spoke to the teacher and was told that there are two bathroom breaks per day and if they need to go when it's not a bathroom break then they must declare that it's an emergency. Unbelievable.

Ugh I am so sorry. Teacher's like this really upset. Anecdotal but I had a teacher my junior year that absolutely would not let anyone use they restroom, not even when girls were on that time of the month. I had him after lunch period and one person peed themselves and ran out crying and several people took the detention for just getting up and heading to the bathroom.

Its a nasty control issue over a bodily function and doing it to young children is just rotten.

That's it. The teacher my daughter has is very controlling. It's obvious by other classroom policies. Unfortunately, you can't control another persons need to use the toilet. Students have been punished for passing gas, burping and similar bodily functions if what my daughter tells me is true.

Is this in a Catholic school in MD?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher here. I'm really sorry that happened. She should know to say that it's an emergency if it is, though, especially if the schools policy is twice a day. I am a middle school teacher so it's a bit different, and sometimes students claim "emergency" when it's not. A teacher may say not right now and not know it's an emergency. I agree with the walking out if it's a true emergency.

I will never forget when I was in second grade and a classmate was denied going to the bathroom. She was wearing a dress and stockings, made a big triangle by spreading her legs and just peed all over the floor.

No. It's not the schools policy to have two bathroom breaks a day, and even if it was, that's bs. A good teacher would stand up for the students right to use the toilet when they need to. What's so important that kids should have to "hold it in" until class bathroom break? Nothing is. How about you only get two bathroom breaks a day? Wouldn't like that, would you?

Well, except that isn't quite a fair comparison. Two breaks in an entire day? Go before school. School starts at 9:10. Lunch room at 11:35. A bathroom break in between and at lunch. So the MAX is that you would hold it about an hour if you went around 10:15. Then after lunch/recess, you get another bathroom break between 12:30-3:30 when school is over. So by my count, at any given time the most you'd have to hold it is about an hour or so.

So I'd say if the kid pees her pants in the morning, before the first break, its probably mom's fault for making sure she didn't go right before school. And if she pees in the afternoon, it is the teacher's fault for not insisting everyone use the bathroom when they have the chance.