Bathroom at school: teacher said no

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did I miss the part where the kid pooped her pants? Actually pooped? If your kid feels poop coming out, and doesn't ring the emergency bell, I dare say her mother needs to teach her not to be treated like a doormat. And if it is the more ghastly and emergent diarrhea then why is she in school if she's sick? Either way that's a parental fail.

This is about preparing your child in advance. Teach your child what to do to advocate for themselves in your absence. Give them life skills. Kindergarten and first grade is not too young. There is an "emergency" out for this very reason. Teach them not to wait until the last minute (this you can practice endlessly at home) and teach them to tell the teacher they are about to have an accident.

You missed the part where the elementary aged child peed her pants after having an authority figure tell her no twice.

But I didnt. There's an emergency out. Kid didn't use it. Parent fail. Teach your kids to stand up for themselves!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did I miss the part where the kid pooped her pants? Actually pooped? If your kid feels poop coming out, and doesn't ring the emergency bell, I dare say her mother needs to teach her not to be treated like a doormat. And if it is the more ghastly and emergent diarrhea then why is she in school if she's sick? Either way that's a parental fail.

This is about preparing your child in advance. Teach your child what to do to advocate for themselves in your absence. Give them life skills. Kindergarten and first grade is not too young. There is an "emergency" out for this very reason. Teach them not to wait until the last minute (this you can practice endlessly at home) and teach them to tell the teacher they are about to have an accident.

You missed the part where the elementary aged child peed her pants after having an authority figure tell her no twice.

But I didnt. There's an emergency out. Kid didn't use it. Parent fail. Teach your kids to stand up for themselves!

Blame the parent and the child. Good one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've taught my daughter that she's to ask, and if she's told no, to wait until she can't wait anymore and then to just get up and walk out, and I will back her up on that decision to the school.

Same here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did I miss the part where the kid pooped her pants? Actually pooped? If your kid feels poop coming out, and doesn't ring the emergency bell, I dare say her mother needs to teach her not to be treated like a doormat. And if it is the more ghastly and emergent diarrhea then why is she in school if she's sick? Either way that's a parental fail.

This is about preparing your child in advance. Teach your child what to do to advocate for themselves in your absence. Give them life skills. Kindergarten and first grade is not too young. There is an "emergency" out for this very reason. Teach them not to wait until the last minute (this you can practice endlessly at home) and teach them to tell the teacher they are about to have an accident.

You missed the part where the elementary aged child peed her pants after having an authority figure tell her no twice.

But I didnt. There's an emergency out. Kid didn't use it. Parent fail. Teach your kids to stand up for themselves!

Oh, my daughters teacher showed up to defend herself! No, she was never told to declare it was an emergency until we spoke on the phone.

And my daughter has been prepped in advance. She knows to listen to her body and that sometimes means not needing to go when her 15 girl classmates are going and other times needing to go earlier or later than the two bathroom breaks. The breaks both happen to be with 90 minutes of each other, so not spread out through the day. And it's FCPS, do the school day is almost 7 hours. Last year, there was no scheduled break and somehow, the kids were allowed to go when they needed to and it wasn't a problem. But not with a controlling teacher! Only when bossy teacher says it's ok, can anyone relieve themselves.

Somehow my daughter made it through day care and 4 years of elementary school without any accidents, but this year she's had two! I let it go the first time and told my daughter to excuse herself to the restroom if the teacher said no, and that she wouldn't be in trouble at home, but she is too afraid of her teacher to do that. The teacher is a yeller too, so it's been a fun year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did I miss the part where the kid pooped her pants? Actually pooped? If your kid feels poop coming out, and doesn't ring the emergency bell, I dare say her mother needs to teach her not to be treated like a doormat. And if it is the more ghastly and emergent diarrhea then why is she in school if she's sick? Either way that's a parental fail.

This is about preparing your child in advance. Teach your child what to do to advocate for themselves in your absence. Give them life skills. Kindergarten and first grade is not too young. There is an "emergency" out for this very reason. Teach them not to wait until the last minute (this you can practice endlessly at home) and teach them to tell the teacher they are about to have an accident.

You missed the part where the elementary aged child peed her pants after having an authority figure tell her no twice.

But I didnt. There's an emergency out. Kid didn't use it. Parent fail. Teach your kids to stand up for themselves!

Oh, my daughters teacher showed up to defend herself! No, she was never told to declare it was an emergency until we spoke on the phone.

And my daughter has been prepped in advance. She knows to listen to her body and that sometimes means not needing to go when her 15 girl classmates are going and other times needing to go earlier or later than the two bathroom breaks. The breaks both happen to be with 90 minutes of each other, so not spread out through the day. And it's FCPS, do the school day is almost 7 hours. Last year, there was no scheduled break and somehow, the kids were allowed to go when they needed to and it wasn't a problem. But not with a controlling teacher! Only when bossy teacher says it's ok, can anyone relieve themselves.

Somehow my daughter made it through day care and 4 years of elementary school without any accidents, but this year she's had two! I let it go the first time and told my daughter to excuse herself to the restroom if the teacher said no, and that she wouldn't be in trouble at home, but she is too afraid of her teacher to do that. The teacher is a yeller too, so it's been a fun year.

Not a teacher. Sorry she has such a crappy teacher but I think you need to drive home the point that she sometimes in life will need to pick the least worst option which in this case is to pee yourself or risk getting yelled at.

[Anonymous]

Sorry she has such a crappy teacher but I think you need to drive home the point that she sometimes in life will need to pick the least worst option which in this case is to pee yourself or risk getting yelled at.

Gee, thanks for the advice. You don't think I've done that already? It takes a lot of courage for a 9 year old girl, who has never been in trouble at school, to stand up and walk out while more than 25 classmates plus the teacher are watching. She asked more than once on both occasions where she peed her pants, if she could go to the bathroom and was told no every time. Just because she didn't use the secret password (EMERGENCY!) she was told to sit down.

[Anonymous]

But again she chose the humiliation over possibly getting yelled at. Reflect on that!

[Anonymous]

People ITT blaming a child for peeing her pants are horrible, miserable people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But again she chose the humiliation over possibly getting yelled at. Reflect on that!

What humiliation? Where did anyone say she was humiliated?

[Anonymous]

Sorry I thought she peed herself in class. I assumed she would find that humiliating but good on her if she shrugged it off!

[Anonymous]

No one is blaming a child for peeing her pants. You haven't read the thread. it is a combination of parental fail and a nasty teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did I miss the part where the kid pooped her pants? Actually pooped? If your kid feels poop coming out, and doesn't ring the emergency bell, I dare say her mother needs to teach her not to be treated like a doormat. And if it is the more ghastly and emergent diarrhea then why is she in school if she's sick? Either way that's a parental fail.

This is about preparing your child in advance. Teach your child what to do to advocate for themselves in your absence. Give them life skills. Kindergarten and first grade is not too young. There is an "emergency" out for this very reason. Teach them not to wait until the last minute (this you can practice endlessly at home) and teach them to tell the teacher they are about to have an accident.

You missed the part where the elementary aged child peed her pants after having an authority figure tell her no twice.

But I didnt. There's an emergency out. Kid didn't use it. Parent fail. Teach your kids to stand up for themselves!

Requiring a kid to use a special word to be allowed to use them bathroom when they have asked twice is a dick move. Complete and total teacher fail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry she has such a crappy teacher but I think you need to drive home the point that she sometimes in life will need to pick the least worst option which in this case is to pee yourself or risk getting yelled at.

Gee, thanks for the advice. You don't think I've done that already? It takes a lot of courage for a 9 year old girl, who has never been in trouble at school, to stand up and walk out while more than 25 classmates plus the teacher are watching. She asked more than once on both occasions where she peed her pants, if she could go to the bathroom and was told no every time. Just because she didn't use the secret password (EMERGENCY!) she was told to sit down.

OP, you should demand a meeting with the principal. The teacher is completely unfit. If the principal doesn't fix things, go to your board member. Keep going. It is ABUSIVE to force kids to pee themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one is blaming a child for peeing her pants. You haven't read the thread. it is a combination of parental fail and a nasty teacher.

No, it is just an asshole teacher. Can you read? The kid wasn't told they had to say it was an emergency. The teacher used that as an excuse AFTER the fact.

[Anonymous]

What school, OP? You should spread the word on what an awful school and awful teacher is out there. Shame her like she shames little kids.