NY mom murdered

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Her 13-year old son most of all. She almost got him killed too that night.

Is that like when women “get themselves pregnant”? Surely you mean that the guy who decided to brutally murder a woman could have decided to brutally murder a child as well?

Don’t be an idiot. She let this guy into the family home at 1am. A man she had been cheating on the kid’s dad with for 2 years and new he had a temper and had broken up with him on and off as he grew increasingly angry. Because she didn’t want to get caught she didn’t take appropriate safety precautions, like getting a restraining order, etc. if the kid walked downstairs that night, he would have been killed.

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Her 13-year old son most of all. She almost got him killed too that night.

Is that like when women “get themselves pregnant”? Surely you mean that the guy who decided to brutally murder a woman could have decided to brutally murder a child as well?

Don’t be an idiot. She let this guy into the family home at 1am. A man she had been cheating on the kid’s dad with for 2 years and new he had a temper and had broken up with him on and off as he grew increasingly angry. Because she didn’t want to get caught she didn’t take appropriate safety precautions, like getting a restraining order, etc. if the kid walked downstairs that night, he would have been killed.

I’m sure she let him inside instead of calling the cops so the neighbors wouldn’t hear.

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Her 13-year old son most of all. She almost got him killed too that night.

Is that like when women “get themselves pregnant”? Surely you mean that the guy who decided to brutally murder a woman could have decided to brutally murder a child as well?

Don’t be an idiot. She let this guy into the family home at 1am. A man she had been cheating on the kid’s dad with for 2 years and new he had a temper and had broken up with him on and off as he grew increasingly angry. Because she didn’t want to get caught she didn’t take appropriate safety precautions, like getting a restraining order, etc. if the kid walked downstairs that night, he would have been killed.

Still waiting for the part where you put the blame for the murder on the murderer and not the victim ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Her 13-year old son most of all. She almost got him killed too that night.

Is that like when women “get themselves pregnant”? Surely you mean that the guy who decided to brutally murder a woman could have decided to brutally murder a child as well?

Don’t be an idiot. She let this guy into the family home at 1am. A man she had been cheating on the kid’s dad with for 2 years and new he had a temper and had broken up with him on and off as he grew increasingly angry. Because she didn’t want to get caught she didn’t take appropriate safety precautions, like getting a restraining order, etc. if the kid walked downstairs that night, he would have been killed.

Still waiting for the part where you put the blame for the murder on the murderer and not the victim ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

You can 100% put the blame on Bonola for the murder while acknowledging the woman took a ton of very unsafe risks with herself and her family.

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Her 13-year old son most of all. She almost got him killed too that night.

Is that like when women “get themselves pregnant”? Surely you mean that the guy who decided to brutally murder a woman could have decided to brutally murder a child as well?

Don’t be an idiot. She let this guy into the family home at 1am. A man she had been cheating on the kid’s dad with for 2 years and new he had a temper and had broken up with him on and off as he grew increasingly angry. Because she didn’t want to get caught she didn’t take appropriate safety precautions, like getting a restraining order, etc. if the kid walked downstairs that night, he would have been killed.

Still waiting for the part where you put the blame for the murder on the murderer and not the victim ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I’m sure it was her husbands fault she cheated too, right? Some people take zero responsibility for their choices.

The guy was a brutal murderer. She did not deserve to be killed. But, having a 2 year affair with a lunatic was not a smart choice. Letting him into the home that night was not a smart choice. She still thought she could control the situation without getting caught cheating and that choice was not protecting her child sleeping upstairs.

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Her 13-year old son most of all. She almost got him killed too that night.

Is that like when women “get themselves pregnant”? Surely you mean that the guy who decided to brutally murder a woman could have decided to brutally murder a child as well?

Don’t be an idiot. She let this guy into the family home at 1am. A man she had been cheating on the kid’s dad with for 2 years and new he had a temper and had broken up with him on and off as he grew increasingly angry. Because she didn’t want to get caught she didn’t take appropriate safety precautions, like getting a restraining order, etc. if the kid walked downstairs that night, he would have been killed.

Still waiting for the part where you put the blame for the murder on the murderer and not the victim ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I’m sure it was her husbands fault she cheated too, right? Some people take zero responsibility for their choices.

The guy was a brutal murderer. She did not deserve to be killed. But, having a 2 year affair with a lunatic was not a smart choice. Letting him into the home that night was not a smart choice. She still thought she could control the situation without getting caught cheating and that choice was not protecting her child sleeping upstairs.

She was out drinking at a bar alone until 1am so it’s not like the child at home was her first thought that night.

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Her 13-year old son most of all. She almost got him killed too that night.

Is that like when women “get themselves pregnant”? Surely you mean that the guy who decided to brutally murder a woman could have decided to brutally murder a child as well?

Don’t be an idiot. She let this guy into the family home at 1am. A man she had been cheating on the kid’s dad with for 2 years and new he had a temper and had broken up with him on and off as he grew increasingly angry. Because she didn’t want to get caught she didn’t take appropriate safety precautions, like getting a restraining order, etc. if the kid walked downstairs that night, he would have been killed.

Still waiting for the part where you put the blame for the murder on the murderer and not the victim ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I’m sure it was her husbands fault she cheated too, right? Some people take zero responsibility for their choices.

The guy was a brutal murderer. She did not deserve to be killed. But, having a 2 year affair with a lunatic was not a smart choice. Letting him into the home that night was not a smart choice. She still thought she could control the situation without getting caught cheating and that choice was not protecting her child sleeping upstairs.

She was out drinking at a bar alone until 1am so it’s not like the child at home was her first thought that night.

At 51-years old, most people have matured out of that lifestyle.

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Her 13-year old son most of all. She almost got him killed too that night.

Is that like when women “get themselves pregnant”? Surely you mean that the guy who decided to brutally murder a woman could have decided to brutally murder a child as well?

Don’t be an idiot. She let this guy into the family home at 1am. A man she had been cheating on the kid’s dad with for 2 years and new he had a temper and had broken up with him on and off as he grew increasingly angry. Because she didn’t want to get caught she didn’t take appropriate safety precautions, like getting a restraining order, etc. if the kid walked downstairs that night, he would have been killed.

Still waiting for the part where you put the blame for the murder on the murderer and not the victim ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I’m sure it was her husbands fault she cheated too, right? Some people take zero responsibility for their choices.

The guy was a brutal murderer. She did not deserve to be killed. But, having a 2 year affair with a lunatic was not a smart choice. Letting him into the home that night was not a smart choice. She still thought she could control the situation without getting caught cheating and that choice was not protecting her child sleeping upstairs.

She was out drinking at a bar alone until 1am so it’s not like the child at home was her first thought that night.

The drinking late at a bar isn’t great, but the kid is 13. I was babysitting that late when I was younger than that. It’s not like she left a 5-year-old home alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

Her 13-year old son most of all. She almost got him killed too that night.

Is that like when women “get themselves pregnant”? Surely you mean that the guy who decided to brutally murder a woman could have decided to brutally murder a child as well?

Don’t be an idiot. She let this guy into the family home at 1am. A man she had been cheating on the kid’s dad with for 2 years and new he had a temper and had broken up with him on and off as he grew increasingly angry. Because she didn’t want to get caught she didn’t take appropriate safety precautions, like getting a restraining order, etc. if the kid walked downstairs that night, he would have been killed.

Still waiting for the part where you put the blame for the murder on the murderer and not the victim ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

I’m sure it was her husbands fault she cheated too, right? Some people take zero responsibility for their choices.

The guy was a brutal murderer. She did not deserve to be killed. But, having a 2 year affair with a lunatic was not a smart choice. Letting him into the home that night was not a smart choice. She still thought she could control the situation without getting caught cheating and that choice was not protecting her child sleeping upstairs.

She was out drinking at a bar alone until 1am so it’s not like the child at home was her first thought that night.

The drinking late at a bar isn’t great, but the kid is 13. I was babysitting that late when I was younger than that. It’s not like she left a 5-year-old home alone.

This wasn’t an isolated incident. She was a regular late night at that bar.

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

“DC Area Mom Brutally Murdered; Serial Poster of Nasty Comments on DCUM, Public Concludes Murder Was Justified”

This sums it up perfectly.

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

+1. Why all of the judgement toward this murder victim? I'm pretty sure if this were a dad having a night cap at 11pm at a bar while his 13 yr old son is at home you all wouldn't be nearly as critical. People need to stop judging women so harshly. And sadly it's usually other women doing the judging.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

“DC Area Mom Brutally Murdered; Serial Poster of Nasty Comments on DCUM, Public Concludes Murder Was Justified”

This sums it up perfectly.

Or, a more accurate option, "DC area mom runs in the middle of the beltway for two hours. Everyone SHOCKED when she is hit by a car."

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

+1. Why all of the judgement toward this murder victim? I'm pretty sure if this were a dad having a night cap at 11pm at a bar while his 13 yr old son is at home you all wouldn't be nearly as critical. People need to stop judging women so harshly. And sadly it's usually other women doing the judging.

Because if she’s a bottle-blonde slut that leaves her kid at home while she cavorts at a bar, then the PPs will never be the victims of violence! Easy peasy!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Simply my take (from very afar), based on news/FB:

* Ms. Gaal truly loved her kids (relationship w/ her husband unclear)
* She was naturally beautiful (no matter her hair color/"work done")
* Like most of us, she was probably struggling w/ some form of mental illness
* She also really loved nature (most of her FB pics are of nature, a fact not mentioned in the nearly 30 pages of this post)
* She was very cultured, having traveled to many parts of the world and seems to have genuinely loved the people, foods, and the arts
* Like all of us, Ms. Gaal was a human being who make mistakes
* She and her family deserve respect

I live in a glass house, so no stones being thrown by me.

She may have loved her kids, but she took risks and left the younger one at home past midnight out drinking to meet men she met online. She also just chose not to come home one night without telling anyone. She was reported to be a regular at the bar alone. The things she was doing put her family in danger. If her son came downstairs that night, he likely would have been killed too. Think about that.

That is not being a good mother. Most chronic cheaters like this, as demonstrated, will give the lover preference over the kids.

He definitely would have killed the son too if he had walked in when he offed the mother. He knows the kid would have run to call 911 and been a witness. Thank his he slept through that.

You don't know that. Stop trying so hard to sensationalize this case even more than it already is.

New poster. I hope you're kidding. The woman goes to a local bar alone all the time, sleeps with her handyman for two years, might have slept with a slew of other people given the NYPD search for "boyfriends," and doesn't care about her children and was absent at least that night. And this is just the beginning of this story.

How many mothers here would leave a 13-year-old alone in the house while they went to a play with friends, stopped off to drink by themselves in a bar, and then let an affair partner in the house?

I'm pretty sure if my husband was traveling with my older son, I would be sure to be home one night with my 13-year-old instead of going out for the night with friends, drinking alone in a bar while my kid was home, and well, the rest of it all.

Yeah....but we are supposed to forget all of that lest we victim shame. We apparently can't feel great empathy for her death while also recognizing her reckless behavior. As with everyone on DCUM, there is no nuance to this position, apparently.

Come on, now. None of the recent posters talking about what an awful mom/person/cheater she was have shown a speck of empathy toward her. And the fact that so many are talking about her instead of her killer is telling too.

You are absolutely correct.

I really do not have any empathy for her. She made one bad decision after another and, well, it finally caught up with her.

I do have empathy, however, for her poor husband and children. At the end of the day, her bad decision making will affect them for the rest of their lives.

He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

+1. Why all of the judgement toward this murder victim? I'm pretty sure if this were a dad having a night cap at 11pm at a bar while his 13 yr old son is at home you all wouldn't be nearly as critical. People need to stop judging women so harshly. And sadly it's usually other women doing the judging.

No one is really casting a stone at her. She's dead.

But, rehashing the facts is a lesson to all of us. Do you never self-reflect? What did I do/not do that was harmful? What is a good decision? What is a bad decision? Am I endangering myself? Am I endangering people that I love?