How do you get an affair/relationship started with another married person?

[Anonymous]

I just spent an hour reading this utterly fascinating thread.
Betting you did too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who are so quick to condemn have never really been there.

I'm married over 20 years to a wonderful woman. We are best friends. We both love and support each other. We hold hands, kiss, snuggle in bed. Just nothing genital. Although I was sexually active with other women before I met her, we (more she) wanted to wait until we were married. But I noticed early on that she wasn't really into it. She just doesn't enjoy sex. Oh, she participated early on, I guess out of a sense of obligation. But I could tell she wasn't enjoying it, and her lack of pleasure increasingly impacted my pleasure, and it all gradually faded away. No sex for nearly ten years. I've resorted to self service, but I want to give pleasure as much or more as receive it. And after an almost happened with a professional colleague at a conference, I've come to the conclusion that I should have an affair. If I can have love with my wife without the sex, then maybe love an sex are not necessarily the same thing for every person, and I can have sex for its own sake. I can not ask to open the marriage because I know her well enough to know that simply asking would destroy the marriage.

Cheating is wrong. But it is also wrong for her to deny me, as much as it is wrong for me to deny myself. And it is wrong to walk away from an otherwise great marriage. Often in life, there is no right, but merely having to choose the lesser wrong.

This is a great plan -- until you fall in love with someone AND have good sex with them. Someone you are attracted to and who is attracted to you back, AND with whom you can be "best friends" and "love and support each other." Then the "otherwise great marriage" will just seem ridiculous.

I am a DH and I have became "best friends" and fell in love with someone in a similar situation as me. She has became the closest friend that I have ever had in my life. Now we want to be with each other, but can't because we are married with kids.

I'm a DW in the same boat. BUT - that's one of the risks one takes and although it really sucks, it's better than not having that relationship (I think). You are totally not alone.

[Anonymous]

Another W in same situation. I haven't been able to decide if I am a complete idiot or happy that I have this situation. He makes me happy in ways I would have never known and I also have no interest in leaving my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Another W in same situation. I haven't been able to decide if I am a complete idiot or happy that I have this situation. He makes me happy in ways I would have never known and I also have no interest in leaving my family.

Why would you have to leave your family to be with him?

[Anonymous]

Rico Suave is disgusted by the turn this thread has taken into sentimentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Another W in same situation. I haven't been able to decide if I am a complete idiot or happy that I have this situation. He makes me happy in ways I would have never known and I also have no interest in leaving my family.

Why would you have to leave your family to be with him?

She should. Or he should be allowed to fuck as well instead of having a cheating hoe and risk of stds.

[Anonymous]

Look for a married person with that "dead look" in their eyes. Usually means sexless marriage, with no joy or affection.

Plenty to choose from.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People who are so quick to condemn have never really been there.

I'm married over 20 years to a wonderful woman. We are best friends. We both love and support each other. We hold hands, kiss, snuggle in bed. Just nothing genital. Although I was sexually active with other women before I met her, we (more she) wanted to wait until we were married. But I noticed early on that she wasn't really into it. She just doesn't enjoy sex. Oh, she participated early on, I guess out of a sense of obligation. But I could tell she wasn't enjoying it, and her lack of pleasure increasingly impacted my pleasure, and it all gradually faded away. No sex for nearly ten years. I've resorted to self service, but I want to give pleasure as much or more as receive it. And after an almost happened with a professional colleague at a conference, I've come to the conclusion that I should have an affair. If I can have love with my wife without the sex, then maybe love an sex are not necessarily the same thing for every person, and I can have sex for its own sake. I can not ask to open the marriage because I know her well enough to know that simply asking would destroy the marriage.

Cheating is wrong. But it is also wrong for her to deny me, as much as it is wrong for me to deny myself. And it is wrong to walk away from an otherwise great marriage. Often in life, there is no right, but merely having to choose the lesser wrong.

This is a great plan -- until you fall in love with someone AND have good sex with them. Someone you are attracted to and who is attracted to you back, AND with whom you can be "best friends" and "love and support each other." Then the "otherwise great marriage" will just seem ridiculous.

I am a DH and I have became "best friends" and fell in love with someone in a similar situation as me. She has became the closest friend that I have ever had in my life. Now we want to be with each other, but can't because we are married with kids.

That was my point exactly. Now your DW is just getting in the way of your "real" love.

[Anonymous]

OP, before you act on any of these feelings, make sure to cut out the eyes and heart of any children at home in either household. That's what this affair will do to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, before you act on any of these feelings, make sure to cut out the eyes and heart of any children at home in either household. That's what this affair will do to them.

We get it. You really need to move on. Your anti-cheating posts are redundant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, before you act on any of these feelings, make sure to cut out the eyes and heart of any children at home in either household. That's what this affair will do to them.

We get it. You really need to move on. Your anti-cheating posts are redundant.

This was my first post about this subject, ever. Glad to see there's more than one of us.

[Anonymous]

Refer back to the first posts in this topic. Most of you are just not affair material.

[Anonymous]

If any of you idiots think you are hiding anything you are just that - idiots. One of the owners of my company is having an affair with one of the glorified assistants in my office. EVERYONE KNOWS. Even the INTERNS KNOW. To make this easy let's call her the "tramp" and let's call him the "ass." He has fucked anything and everything he ever could - he has even hired assistants from strip clubs. True story. He impregnated one and forced her to have an abortion. The "tramp" somehow thinks she is different and thinks the "ass" is going to leave his wife for her. "The tramp" is a single mom with a son who has issues. The son may very well be gay. Who knows. That is irrelevant to this topic. She struggles with money issues, self-esteem issues, she has no girl friends, she has delusions of grandeur and gets drunk frequently and tells people about her affair with the boss (and then doesn't remember). Yet there she is in church EVERY Sunday! What a JOKE. Then the two of them are constantly photographed in the local "shiny sheet" together. Pathetic. I hope she is praying very hard every Sunday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do everyone a favor, act mature and get divorced first.

+1! The first response is, was and always will be the best. Bravo, PP!

[Anonymous]

Rico Suave scorns amateurs like "The Ass."