31-Should I get divorce?

[Anonymous]

I am 31, attractive, no kids, have been married for 4 years to a very responsible great guy. Unfortunately, our married life has not been as great. Every holiday or vacation we argue, we have no common interests, we have sex 2-3 times a month and it's not good at all... I think all our problems come from me being sexually unsatisfied. Over the past 4 years, my DH gave me oral sex just once... I talked to him about this, however it does not seem as he wants to make me happy or change anything at all. My DH is very attractive and never had to work to get a women, even in bed he always wants me to be on top, do all the work when I am not even turned on... I make more then DH, we have no assets together, so divorcing seems to be an easy option....however, emotionally it is very hard. My husband has great self control, never looks at other women, I know he would never cheat on me, he is a self starter, has his own business (works from home).... he makes me breakfast every morning, and while he rare makes any compliments, I feel that he loves me. He is all around great guy. Two main issues are sex and the fact that he does not want to make any friends or socialize with other couples... our life has become bored...it is always he and I and we barely have anything to talk about. Counseling for him is not an option, although he said that it would be good for me to get some counseling... My family loves him.... I feel it is too early for us to have these issues and too early for me not to feel desired.... This has been going on for the past 2-3 years, we got married after 7-8 months of knowing each other...which I think was the biggest mistake.

About a month ago, coworker started to hit on me, I entertained his thoughts by flirting back, however nothing has happened. That made me feel alive and realize that life is not over yet....

I do not see my DH and I working through our problems, however divorce is so hard to get through...after all emotionally we are very attached. DH wants kids, but I am not sure... Also, I doubt I would ever meet a faithful simple guy like my DH.

[Anonymous]

Does he expect you to give him BJs?

[Anonymous]

I would say if you're already thinking of other men and feeling dead with regards to the relationship, then yes, get a divorce. It's only going to get more intense with time.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I give BJs all the time, while musturbating to turn myself on because he does not do it.

[Anonymous]

Just get the divorce. You're too young to be miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I give BJs all the time, while musturbating to turn myself on because he does not do it.

What the fuck? That needs to stop immediately.

Tell him not more BJs until you get some head in return. It's only fair.

That should whip him into shape real fast

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I give BJs all the time, while musturbating to turn myself on because he does not do it.

This is unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

You've mentioned a couple of times that you've talked about it, but vaguely said that he doesn't really want to talk about it.

I think I'd make one last push to get him to be more considerate, or to go couples therapy. If he flatly refuses to even try to improve himself, then something is wrong with him. Maybe he is just spoiled from being good-looking and never having to really work for it. In that case, I'd hit the road. Especially since you don't have kids.

[Anonymous]

So the sex in the 7-8 months you were dating was mind blowing? You had endless things in common in the 7/8 months you were dating and you barely got any sleep since you just wanted to keep talking?
Oh, it wasn't? So now you're surprised? <eye roll>
Grow up. You're a little girl that wanted to play house and now you want to take your toys and leave since you're bored,

[Anonymous]

"Musterbating?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I give BJs all the time, while musturbating to turn myself on because he does not do it.

https://youtu.be/9AOmaX-VuoY?t=3m50s

[Anonymous]

You say he loves you and your family loves him. What's missing? The elephant in the room? YOU don't love him.

Get a divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I give BJs all the time, while musturbating to turn myself on because he does not do it.

What the fuck? That needs to stop immediately.

Tell him not more BJs until you get some head in return. It's only fair.

That should whip him into shape real fast

x2. I can't believe this wouldn't be a person's immediate reaction

[Anonymous]

Hmmm....so should I take my toys and leave? Seems to me it is more unresponsible to stay and have kids.

I talked to him about sex asking whether he wants to have bad sex for the rest of his life, he said that he was not having bad sex. He does not want to go to couples therapy, he is against it. Of course, I am going to make an effort to make a very last push.

[Anonymous]

As Amy Poehler said, "If you don’t eat pussy, keep walking.”