31-Should I get divorce?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Heh. Imagine if a man wrote here that he wanted to divorce his wife because, although lovely in most other ways, she won't blow him and hang out with his friends.

OP: it's not that simple... I want to feel desired and that my DH wants to make me happy... We are new to the area and he does not want to make any friends, we have 2-3 commom friends, and i socialize at work... Also, we argue about money a lot, I never count his money... I dont even care how much he makes, but he gets very upset if I buy clothes or some expensive food... I also feel uneasy about him not being able to have a small talk at my work events... although, he can be funny and center of attention around people he knows well... He is the kind of men that likes cars more than women, benefit that he only needs one woman, but downside he does not show as much attention. People write here all the time that they want a divorce but have kids and don't want to ruin their life, I do not want to be that person....

Geez OP. From what you are describing he doesn't even sound straight. I know exactly the kind of guy you are describing and I can't imagine ever being with someone like that. Especially someone who is repulsed by getting up close with a vagina. Seriously, that would hurt. I think you can either stay with him and face a lifetime of lovelessness, or get a divorce and find someone who is genuinely excited by women, eager to make small talk, okay with you spending your money how you want.

I think it's worth the risk, OP.

[Anonymous]

Op what industry is paying you a whooping $140? Your writing is atrocious and you sound extremely immature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Heh. Imagine if a man wrote here that he wanted to divorce his wife because, although lovely in most other ways, she won't blow him and hang out with his friends.

OP: it's not that simple... I want to feel desired and that my DH wants to make me happy... We are new to the area and he does not want to make any friends, we have 2-3 commom friends, and i socialize at work... Also, we argue about money a lot, I never count his money... I dont even care how much he makes, but he gets very upset if I buy clothes or some expensive food... I also feel uneasy about him not being able to have a small talk at my work events... although, he can be funny and center of attention around people he knows well... He is the kind of men that likes cars more than women, benefit that he only needs one woman, but downside he does not show as much attention. People write here all the time that they want a divorce but have kids and don't want to ruin their life, I do not want to be that person....

Geez OP. From what you are describing he doesn't even sound straight. I know exactly the kind of guy you are describing and I can't imagine ever being with someone like that. Especially someone who is repulsed by getting up close with a vagina. Seriously, that would hurt. I think you can either stay with him and face a lifetime of lovelessness, or get a divorce and find someone who is genuinely excited by women, eager to make small talk, okay with you spending your money how you want.

Thank you... I'll see how it goes... I've never been with the guy that would not go down on a girl, and I liked it the most about sex.... Now, I have not had it in years and I can't imagine not having it for the rest of my life.... and I know cheating would hurt my DH and I even more down the road or miserable life together for kids.
I think it's worth the risk, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op what industry is paying you a whooping $140? Your writing is atrocious and you sound extremely immature.

Industry that is short on specialists. I moved to US when I was 17 and don't feel like thinking too much about grammar at 11 pm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op what industry is paying you a whooping $140? Your writing is atrocious and you sound extremely immature.

Go away >>>>>>

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what industry is paying you a whooping $140? Your writing is atrocious and you sound extremely immature.

Go away >>>>>>

Why? I just want to know what industry this is that is short on specialists. Maybe I will steer my kids into it. Their grammar is lacking too. Op is clearly Eastern European so she either in computer programming, IT or business solutions. These industries are fairly saturated in the DC area. So I am just wondering which industry in the DC area is bleeding for specialists?

[Anonymous]

My first reaction was he's gay or has hormonal issues.

[Anonymous]

I would totally get divorced. I a,m35 and married 8yrs. I can't imagine my DH not desiring me. We have two kids and yes leaving is not easy at this stage when there are little ones. 31 is very young. You can easily start over.

[Anonymous]

Oh please some men do not like to go down on women. Find something else you like that he can do. If you don't like to be On top don't do it. If you don't want to give head don't do it. It boils down to the fact that you do not love him. However based on everything you wrote j doubt you will be happy with anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first reaction was he's gay or has hormonal issues.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op what industry is paying you a whooping $140? Your writing is atrocious and you sound extremely immature.

Go away >>>>>>

Why? I just want to know what industry this is that is short on specialists. Maybe I will steer my kids into it. Their grammar is lacking too. Op is clearly Eastern European so she either in computer programming, IT or business solutions. These industries are fairly saturated in the DC area. So I am just wondering which industry in the DC area is bleeding for specialists?

OP: If you teach your kids good grammar, they won't have to worry about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Heh. Imagine if a man wrote here that he wanted to divorce his wife because, although lovely in most other ways, she won't blow him and hang out with his friends.

OP: it's not that simple... I want to feel desired and that my DH wants to make me happy... We are new to the area and he does not want to make any friends, we have 2-3 commom friends, and i socialize at work... Also, we argue about money a lot, I never count his money... I dont even care how much he makes, but he gets very upset if I buy clothes or some expensive food... I also feel uneasy about him not being able to have a small talk at my work events... although, he can be funny and center of attention around people he knows well... He is the kind of men that likes cars more than women, benefit that he only needs one woman, but downside he does not show as much attention. People write here all the time that they want a divorce but have kids and don't want to ruin their life, I do not want to be that person....

Geez OP. From what you are describing he doesn't even sound straight. I know exactly the kind of guy you are describing and I can't imagine ever being with someone like that. Especially someone who is repulsed by getting up close with a vagina. Seriously, that would hurt. I think you can either stay with him and face a lifetime of lovelessness, or get a divorce and find someone who is genuinely excited by women, eager to make small talk, okay with you spending your money how you want.

Thank you... I'll see how it goes... I've never been with the guy that would not go down on a girl, and I liked it the most about sex.... Now, I have not had it in years and I can't imagine not having it for the rest of my life.... and I know cheating would hurt my DH and I even more down the road or miserable life together for kids.

Good look, OP. You seem like a lovely person and I truly think you will be alright and find someone else very quickly! Just make sure he doesn't have these same issues, especially in the bedroom!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh please some men do not like to go down on women. Find something else you like that he can do. If you don't like to be On top don't do it. If you don't want to give head don't do it. It boils down to the fact that you do not love him. However based on everything you wrote j doubt you will be happy with anyone else.

OP: Sounds like you are agreeing with my DH that I need counseling and not us . What makes you think I won't be happy with anyone else? I am not a type of person that likes attention or looking for attention from just anyone. In life I'd rather for men not to pay attention to me unless I want their attention... not really sure how you got to that conclusion, just bc I am unhappy now it does not mean I won't be happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh please some men do not like to go down on women. Find something else you like that he can do. If you don't like to be On top don't do it. If you don't want to give head don't do it. It boils down to the fact that you do not love him. However based on everything you wrote j doubt you will be happy with anyone else.

OP: Sounds like you are agreeing with my DH that I need counseling and not us . What makes you think I won't be happy with anyone else? I am not a type of person that likes attention or looking for attention from just anyone. In life I'd rather for men not to pay attention to me unless I want their attention... not really sure how you got to that conclusion, just bc I am unhappy now it does not mean I won't be happy.

There are plenty of mean, rude, and just plain grumpy people on DCUM. Trust me, OP- the best thing you can do is disregard. Listen to the people who are well-intended

[Anonymous]

The main advice I'd offer here is, do not bring kids into this marriage.