Husband told me I don't have enough friends.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm an introvert too but honestly you sound inflexible and snotty. It's not the same for him to go out with couples and his wife stays at home constantly. You may find out that you DO get along with some of them, I have and they are now good friends.

Honestly, you two never should have gotten married. He's going to resent you more and more. Id think a lot before having kids.

Yeah, well judging from the responses I'm a horrible person / bad partner, etc., so yes, I am considering just leaving as clearly everyone would be better off w/o me.

OMFG. If you're threatening to off yourself because people online - who were responding to a question YOU asked - said you were being immature, you're even crazier than I thought.

Can you imagine her poor husband trying to have any discussion with her where his opinion differs?

I mean, I don't think he's a peach either based off of what he said, but I understand both parties were frustrated.

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I am introvert and I don't have any friends. I'm currently single, but with my ex girlfriend who was more extroverted i absolutely spent time with her and her friends.

It's true we introverted people are happy being by ourself, staying home, but when you have a partner you MUST compromise. Who wants to be with someone who doesn't want to spend time with them just because they claim to be introverted? If you can't compromise with this basic thing just stay single. Humans are social. We introverted people are an exception and we are the ones who need to compromise.

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Anonymous wrote:My husband has ZERO friends. Let me repeat again he has ZERO friends. His friends are my friends' husbands. My husband is an introvert, but he is very pleasant around people. He goes with me to most gatherings and do enjoy himself. Sometimes he just wants to be home, wich is fine.

I have always known this about him. I love him and I will never change him. He is amazing. I don't feel the burden on taking on everything we are a true partnership. He comes up with amazing date nights. He is always enthusiastic to be with me..and the sex is amazing. He just turned 50 and we have been married for 15 years. I am 42.

Your husband compromises and you do too. He comes along and is nice and friendly and you are fine with him staying home if he wants to. THIS is a healthy relationship between an introvert and extrovert.

+1. My parents have the same dynamics. They have been married for 40 years. Introvert/extrovert can actually have an amazing marriage if they are both willing to compromise. I have seen more issues with extrovert/extrovert to be honest.

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Have a child and make pregnancy/Mom friends.

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I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a child and make pregnancy/Mom friends.

They are not on the same page. They need to fix the marriage before they get a child into it. The OP does not seem mature enough emotionally to have a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

thank you. I asked that this thread be deleted. I’m probably in the wrong in some areas but my feelings are hurt and I’m frustrated. Oh well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

She doesn't spend that much time socializing!

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

thank you. I asked that this thread be deleted. I’m probably in the wrong in some areas but my feelings are hurt and I’m frustrated. Oh well.

You are such a baby. Please don't have children until you seriously mature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

And when she didn't get everyone agreeing with her, she did the whole "I guess everyone would be better if I was gone". And wants the thread deleted because her feelings are hurt. She has no intention of taking any advice or criticism if people aren't agreeing with her. It's how middle schoolers act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

I am an introvert and I think she is the odd one out. And not because she doesn't like socializing but because she is rude, inflexible, and not even willing to do something that makes her DH happy.

He planned a couple's trip TO A PLACE SHE WOULD LIKE and she still isn't happy bc she'd have to grab lunch and go to a museum with a woman she doesn't know for a total of four hours. Ridiculous.

Her DH seems like a jerk, based on his response, but if she's always like this, I get why he snapped. He shouldn't have made the comment about not having anyone to help, but also...would OP even care? She seems like she doesn't mind being alone.

OP, no woman is an island.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

And when she didn't get everyone agreeing with her, she did the whole "I guess everyone would be better if I was gone". And wants the thread deleted because her feelings are hurt. She has no intention of taking any advice or criticism if people aren't agreeing with her. It's how middle schoolers act.

And this is why I don’t want friends. You all are so mean.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

And when she didn't get everyone agreeing with her, she did the whole "I guess everyone would be better if I was gone". And wants the thread deleted because her feelings are hurt. She has no intention of taking any advice or criticism if people aren't agreeing with her. It's how middle schoolers act.

And this is why I don’t want friends. You all are so mean.

Sorry you can't handle anyone telling you the truth about your behavior. Is your husband ever allowed to disagree with you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea, OP, why people are being so mean to you.

Just sending you support. I would hate to spend so much time socializing. My entire family and in-laws would hate it too. It's nice we're all on the same page.

To me and my spouse and people I know, your husband is the odd one out here.

People are being mean to her bc she is a child. She has a smart aleck response to everything and clearly posted assuming everyone would agree with her.

I am an introvery formerly married to an extrovert. (That is not why we split.) I would socialize when he wanted to, within reason, and we would have a chill weekend home when I wanted to, within reason. The point is we did it as a couple rather than one of us just saying, "You go do your thing and I'll do mine."

And when she didn't get everyone agreeing with her, she did the whole "I guess everyone would be better if I was gone". And wants the thread deleted because her feelings are hurt. She has no intention of taking any advice or criticism if people aren't agreeing with her. It's how middle schoolers act.

It's just so bizarre. I posted upthread, I recently went on a trip with my bf's friends and their girlfriends. The other two women were close (they live in the same city; bf and I don't) and I wasn't part of the clique. Plus I'm introverted to begin with. But I tried because my bf has been friends with them since law school. I went out for wine with them one night, shopping one afternoon...and then some days I did my own thing or did something with my boyfriend.

It's not weird for someone to ask their significant other to try to be a part of their friend group. He's asking her to have dinner with these women once a month, not be their best friend.