How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD was a double legacy.

She was also that kid who got almost every academic award on senior night and a lot of the extracurricular ones.

No one questioned why she got in. And it was a brutal year when many kids we thought had guaranteed good landings were disappointed.

But your kid still got a large bump in admissions and everyone knows that.

Why so bitter? The kid is qualified. Leave the rest to the admissions gods.

DP who went to one of these schools. Stating truth isn’t bitterness. The denialism among the legacy parents on this thread is unbelievable. Of course double legacy status helped. It is wild to pretend it did not. Please join reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD was a double legacy.

She was also that kid who got almost every academic award on senior night and a lot of the extracurricular ones.

No one questioned why she got in. And it was a brutal year when many kids we thought had guaranteed good landings were disappointed.

But your kid still got a large bump in admissions and everyone knows that.

Why so bitter? The kid is qualified. Leave the rest to the admissions gods.

Huh? Not bitter in the slightest.

[Anonymous]

He should say, “yep. I know.”

Because, it’s true. He may fit the demographic at the school but his friends may have too. It’s luck and your hook that helped him get an admit.

Apply to a different Ivy without the hook for him and see if he gets in. Then decide if it gave him the boost his friends didn’t have.

[Anonymous]

The jealousy here is off the hook. If you go through life keeping score and being envious of those who have more you will have a miserable life and will also have a horrible experience at these top schools that you didn’t go to. If by some miracle your kid gets into one of these schools they will be surrounded by kids who got in with hooks (many of whom were well qualified without the hooks) so if those kids are living rent free in your kid’s head, your kid will hate it. Better off at non-flagship state U.

[Anonymous]

It is what it is. Most people will assume your kid got in through legacy, which is still fine, whether they say it to your face or not. Polite people may not say it but they still think it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD was a double legacy.

She was also that kid who got almost every academic award on senior night and a lot of the extracurricular ones.

No one questioned why she got in. And it was a brutal year when many kids we thought had guaranteed good landings were disappointed.

But your kid still got a large bump in admissions and everyone knows that.

And a large bump via family culture unlike kids who don't have well educated affluent parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD was a double legacy.

She was also that kid who got almost every academic award on senior night and a lot of the extracurricular ones.

No one questioned why she got in. And it was a brutal year when many kids we thought had guaranteed good landings were disappointed.

But your kid still got a large bump in admissions and everyone knows that.

Why so bitter? The kid is qualified. Leave the rest to the admissions gods.

Huh? Not bitter in the slightest.

lol, and this is a poster accusing others of lacking self awareness. DCUM never ceases to amaze.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The jealousy here is off the hook. If you go through life keeping score and being envious of those who have more you will have a miserable life and will also have a horrible experience at these top schools that you didn’t go to. If by some miracle your kid gets into one of these schools they will be surrounded by kids who got in with hooks (many of whom were well qualified without the hooks) so if those kids are living rent free in your kid’s head, your kid will hate it. Better off at non-flagship state U.

It’s not jealousy—or bitterness—to point out that legacy has a significant impact on improving acceptances, and double legacy likely even more so. Even if that hurts some egos along the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD was a double legacy.

She was also that kid who got almost every academic award on senior night and a lot of the extracurricular ones.

No one questioned why she got in. And it was a brutal year when many kids we thought had guaranteed good landings were disappointed.

But your kid still got a large bump in admissions and everyone knows that.

Why so bitter? The kid is qualified. Leave the rest to the admissions gods.

dp.. by PP's own admission, "many kids we thought had guaranteed good landings were disappointed." - ie, they probably didn't have the double legacy advantage the PP's and OP's kid did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The jealousy here is off the hook. If you go through life keeping score and being envious of those who have more you will have a miserable life and will also have a horrible experience at these top schools that you didn’t go to. If by some miracle your kid gets into one of these schools they will be surrounded by kids who got in with hooks (many of whom were well qualified without the hooks) so if those kids are living rent free in your kid’s head, your kid will hate it. Better off at non-flagship state U.

It’s not about jealousy. No one is mad OP’s kid got in. It’s about OP wanting everyone to pretend legacy wasn’t a factor and probably a significant factor.

[Anonymous]

No it’s about how to respond to a rude comment from a jealous classmate

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No it’s about how to respond to a rude comment from a jealous classmate

Correct. You treat it like any other rude comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD was a double legacy.

She was also that kid who got almost every academic award on senior night and a lot of the extracurricular ones.

No one questioned why she got in. And it was a brutal year when many kids we thought had guaranteed good landings were disappointed.

But your kid still got a large bump in admissions and everyone knows that.

And a large bump via family culture unlike kids who don't have well educated affluent parents.

Listen to yourself. Do you think well educated only means top ranked schools? Do you think all people who attend top ranked schools are affluent? Ew

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD was a double legacy.

She was also that kid who got almost every academic award on senior night and a lot of the extracurricular ones.

No one questioned why she got in. And it was a brutal year when many kids we thought had guaranteed good landings were disappointed.

But your kid still got a large bump in admissions and everyone knows that.

And a large bump via family culture unlike kids who don't have well educated affluent parents.

Listen to yourself. Do you think well educated only means top ranked schools? Do you think all people who attend top ranked schools are affluent? Ew

DP but this is a safe assumption when you are talking about a double (likely Ivy) legacy posting on a DC-area forum.

[Anonymous]

The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.