How to respond when kid gets into school and is Legacy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Nah. It’s all in the delivery. If they were rude or dismissive, ignore it or call them out. If they are really your friends, they will get over it.

If they are cool, joking, or generally inquisitive, be humble and lightly acknowledge.

The black and white nature of these posts is hilarious.

[Anonymous]

DD is also in at Yale as a two-time legacy. We fully acknowledge the privilege, but also emphasize her hard work. Like your son, we were not involved in the process at all — she handled everything herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

+100

[Anonymous]

"I'm lucky, and you're lucky I'm not applying to the same schools as you in the RD round"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

Could get in is not the same as getting in. There are a whole bunch of kids that on paper could get in but end up rejected. That’s the point.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:DD was a double legacy.

She was also that kid who got almost every academic award on senior night and a lot of the extracurricular ones.

No one questioned why she got in. And it was a brutal year when many kids we thought had guaranteed good landings were disappointed.

But your kid still got a large bump in admissions and everyone knows that.

Why so bitter? The kid is qualified. Leave the rest to the admissions gods.

Huh? Not bitter in the slightest.

Yes, of course you aren’t. These legacy parents are just crazy. Apparently understanding extremely well-documented facts is “bitter” to the legacy parents on this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

Could get in is not the same as getting in. There are a whole bunch of kids that on paper could get in but end up rejected. That’s the point.

Yet there isn’t that many kids “who could get in anyway”in any of the other hooked categories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The jealousy here is off the hook. If you go through life keeping score and being envious of those who have more you will have a miserable life and will also have a horrible experience at these top schools that you didn’t go to. If by some miracle your kid gets into one of these schools they will be surrounded by kids who got in with hooks (many of whom were well qualified without the hooks) so if those kids are living rent free in your kid’s head, your kid will hate it. Better off at non-flagship state U.

Man, you people are absolutely nuts. What a bizarre world view.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

DP — but why does anyone in this category need other people to believe that they would have gotten in regardless? Are egos that fragile? I don’t understand why anyone’s pride requires denying that they may have had a leg up. Especially when talking to people who didn’t get in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

That is irrelevant to the fact that legacy is an extremely significant boost, one of the most powerful. The odds are that they would not have been accepted absent the legacy hook because that’s how the process works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

DP — but why does anyone in this category need other people to believe that they would have gotten in regardless? Are egos that fragile? I don’t understand why anyone’s pride requires denying that they may have had a leg up. Especially when talking to people who didn’t get in.

I don’t get it either but that is apparently what the legacy parents desperately need. We are all supposed to pretend that legacy hooks don’t exist or something, to spare their egos. It’s so weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

That is irrelevant to the fact that legacy is an extremely significant boost, one of the most powerful. The odds are that they would not have been accepted absent the legacy hook because that’s how the process works.

Lots of circular logic here. You must not have gone to a T10 school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

That is irrelevant to the fact that legacy is an extremely significant boost, one of the most powerful. The odds are that they would not have been accepted absent the legacy hook because that’s how the process works.

Lots of circular logic here. You must not have gone to a T10 school.

You don’t understand what circular logic actually is. Also, I went to HYSP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only correct response, is " yeah I know I am lucky to have that added hook on my application. Thank you mom and dad!"

There's no reason to pretend it wasn't helpful or that your kid could have gotten in without your legacy status. It just makes you look small when you try to delude your friends. Your kid should just own that they had the advantage and are grateful and appreciative for it.

Even the historical numbers you rely on show that many legacy applicants could indeed get in without being a legacy, especially the more recent data. The same is not true of most other categories of hooks.

That is irrelevant to the fact that legacy is an extremely significant boost, one of the most powerful. The odds are that they would not have been accepted absent the legacy hook because that’s how the process works.

Lots of circular logic here. You must not have gone to a T10 school.

You don’t understand what circular logic actually is. Also, I went to HYSP.

Sure you did Jan.