Party requesting guests to take shoes off

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Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Typical cracker response

Find me a dinner party with everyone's shoes off. How stupid and btw, pretty base. Some false idea about cleanliness- do you enjoy athlete's foot or warts? I think not.
Grow up. Put your damn clothes on and, yeah, keep them on.

You are unhinged.

Nope, am shoed, and completely hinged. It's very poor etiquette to take off shoes at a gathering.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Typical cracker response

I take it you are used to frat parties. Let the adults handle this, dear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Actually the elementary schools (and daycares) around here require a change of shoes. Indoor shoes and outdoor shoes.

[Anonymous]

Stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Actually the elementary schools (and daycares) around here require a change of shoes. Indoor shoes and outdoor shoes.

Where are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Actually the elementary schools (and daycares) around here require a change of shoes. Indoor shoes and outdoor shoes.

What elementary schools and what area are you in because I have never heard Schools requiring children to change to indoor shoes.

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I don’t see the big deal. Etiquette means having a double standard in a good way… holding yourself to the higher standard (eg, always bring a gift to a party, but don’t expect someone else to bring a gift to yours). So take off your shoes graciously if asked, but don’t make people visiting you take off their shoes. Just vacuum after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Actually the elementary schools (and daycares) around here require a change of shoes. Indoor shoes and outdoor shoes.

What elementary schools and what area are you in because I have never heard Schools requiring children to change to indoor shoes.

+1. And only the infant room at daycare requires the shoe covers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Actually the elementary schools (and daycares) around here require a change of shoes. Indoor shoes and outdoor shoes.

What elementary schools and what area are you in because I have never heard Schools requiring children to change to indoor shoes.

Montessori schools do this.

[Anonymous]

I did a shoe free house but then I had to wear shoes due to a foot injury and I would forget to change from indoor / outdoor shoes. Now I just wash the floors often (we have carpets only in the bedroom and I don’t wear shoes in there). Could you let it go for one night and then clean the floors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Typical cracker response

Find me a dinner party with everyone's shoes off. How stupid and btw, pretty base. Some false idea about cleanliness- do you enjoy athlete's foot or warts? I think not.
Grow up. Put your damn clothes on and, yeah, keep them on.

You are unhinged.

Nope, am shoed, and completely hinged. It's very poor etiquette to take off shoes at a gathering.

What if I punch you in the face for disobeying my house rules

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Typical cracker response

Find me a dinner party with everyone's shoes off. How stupid and btw, pretty base. Some false idea about cleanliness- do you enjoy athlete's foot or warts? I think not.
Grow up. Put your damn clothes on and, yeah, keep them on.

You are unhinged.

Nope, am shoed, and completely hinged. It's very poor etiquette to take off shoes at a gathering.

Op here. The school is majority white. I have decided not to host. I would rather not have people over than have strangers in my house with shoes. The families are nice enough. The school promotes community. We can get together outside of my home.

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Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

Why are bare feet embarrassing? Do you constantly wear gloves so no one ever sees your hands? A scarf so no one ever sees your neck? What is wrong with your feet that you're so shamefully embarrassed about them? It's a pretty normal part of your body that people see.

20 plus pages of people telling you they don’t want to go barefoot in your house. Stop asking why and acknowledge that not everyone feels the same way you do. Asking people to take their shoes off is not the norm in America. You have now been told this. Do with it what you want, but don’t act all shocked when people either don’t come to your parties (if they’ve been warned) or are upset when you surprise them by asking them to take their shoes off. I have been to hundreds of social functions and I have never once been asked to take my shoes off. If you want to insist that everyone you know does it, go ahead. But OP is talking about people she doesn’t know.

Everyone in my crowd are shoe-free and we all enjoy hosting and not having nasty shoes all over our floors. It's really not that big of a deal, I'm not sure why you are so resistant to being a gracious guest at someone elses home.

It's like you don't know how to read. Good for you and your anti-shoe friends. PEOPLE ARE TELLING YOU THEY ARE NOT LIKE THAT AND IT IS NOT THE NORM IN THEIR SOCIAL CIRCLE. OP is discussing hosting a party for a whole bunch of people she doesn't know. If it were me, I would be interested to learn that many people would be unpleasantly surprised to be asked to remove their shoes at a social function. As a I result, I would either decline to host if I couldn't handle having people with shoes on in my house or decide that I would allow it for that event. It's that simple. You and your friends are welcome to continue your barefoot ways. But ignoring people saying that it would be an issue for them is incredibly self-centered and myopic of you. But it's clear you'll never understand someone doing something differently than you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Host it at a party room. It doesn’t have to be your house.

+1 people who require guests to take their shoes off should have their parties in places other than their homes…. or just invite people from the same cultural background to their home where taking shoes off is typically done.

I don’t want to go to someone’s house with a formal cocktail dress and be barefoot.

And I don’t want to walk around in my dress while wearing random slippers that have been used by other people.

Do people a favor and not have them over to your house in the first place. It’s really not necessary.

I agree. We are strictly a no shoes house and I have absolutely no problem asking people to take their shoes off when they come in. I also don’t host large gatherings because as can be seen from the thread some people are uncomfortable about taking shoes off. But I don’t knew why these people are so offended by taking their shoes off. It’s not as if we are asking them to take off their clothes or a head covering!

So you REALLY can't understand why someone would be annoyed that they showed up to a party at a house in a nice dress and heels and were then told to take their shoes off and as a result they have to walk around a stranger's house barefoot for the rest of the evening? You can't fathom why someone would be bothered by that? Even after 20 pages of people giving multiple reasons why it's an issue? Because if you can't, then that speaks volumes.

DP, but no. All the excuses about ailments, maybe. But just to be "annoyed" because your outfit looks different than with your high heels? That's ridiculous. Millions (billions?) of other people on earth manage just fine.

It's not the "outfit"; it's walking around someone's house in your bare feet. It's embarrassing.

Why are bare feet embarrassing? Do you constantly wear gloves so no one ever sees your hands? A scarf so no one ever sees your neck? What is wrong with your feet that you're so shamefully embarrassed about them? It's a pretty normal part of your body that people see.

20 plus pages of people telling you they don’t want to go barefoot in your house. Stop asking why and acknowledge that not everyone feels the same way you do. Asking people to take their shoes off is not the norm in America. You have now been told this. Do with it what you want, but don’t act all shocked when people either don’t come to your parties (if they’ve been warned) or are upset when you surprise them by asking them to take their shoes off. I have been to hundreds of social functions and I have never once been asked to take my shoes off. If you want to insist that everyone you know does it, go ahead. But OP is talking about people she doesn’t know.

Everyone in my crowd are shoe-free and we all enjoy hosting and not having nasty shoes all over our floors. It's really not that big of a deal, I'm not sure why you are so resistant to being a gracious guest at someone elses home.

I'm not sure why you are so resistant to being a gracious host. It goes both ways. You are not more right than anyone else. Keep repeating until that sinks in.

Personally, the smell of cigarette smoke is absolutely repugnant to me. It makes me feel physically ill. So if I were invited to a house where I knew people smoked indoors, I just wouldn't go. But I wouldn't claim to have the moral high ground. Not wearing shoes is not morally superior to wearing shoes. It just isn't.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks.

Socks are a slipping invitation. I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?

LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it.

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose.

NP.

No- sorry not sorry. Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive. Maybe even borderline racists.

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish.

I think people are more than ok with it. Threatening to not come isn’t really going to change any opinions. I’m not going to uproot my household rules and preferences because of you and your funky feet.

Except that many, many people have told you that they are not ok with it. But you keep arguing with and dismissing them. I don't care if you don't change your rules because you don't sound like someone I would want to spend time with anyway. But it might behoove you to understand what it means to graciously host people.