Party requesting guests to take shoes off

[Anonymous]

You can announce shoes off multiple times before the event, but IME there will likely be just one person, but always just one, who will still need to be verbally reminded at the door. That person will often seem really surprised or even make a comment about it. But also that person is always a distant relative, older neighbor, or new to the US etc.

I loved the idea of throwing my home open to a wider circle than my regular milieu of friends my age (who literally all get it and do the same, even if they’re not from a culture that practices this like I am) and immediate family, but the fact that this has happened makes me realize that I am probably not going to regularly host any really big parties to avoid any possible mutual discomfort, for that one person. I do think the dividing line is around Gen X vs Millenial.

I also find it strange that these same people instinctively and immediately take their shoes off as soon as you have a new baby in the house! So there’s some acknowledgment somewhere that it is not a clean practice

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Anonymous wrote:I will not remove my shoes in any home. This is part of my clothes, the shoes match the dress or pant or whatever, and I am not walking around with bare feet in your house, with everyone else's bare feet. I also do.not.want.to.see.everyone's toes. Gross. Do you see this at State dinners, or dinner parties, or the theater, or in schools, or anywhere? Learn to clean your floors. No. Jesus. If you need to do this, warn
everyone ahead, so they can bring their inside shoes.

Actually the elementary schools (and daycares) around here require a change of shoes. Indoor shoes and outdoor shoes.

I have taught school for 38 years, 11 different schools, 3 regional areas,and overseas. I have never encountered that anywhere. AND that would never be able to be enforced. Asking a kid to be responsible for even one set of sneakers is already pushing it. Come on.

Our daycare in Bethesda requires this and everyone complies, no question. Three pairs, actually (shoes they arrive/leave in, indoor shoes, outdoor play shoes). You should see how dirty the last pair of outdoor shoes were that came home.

Well, yes if you have a pair of shoes that is dedicated for outdoor time for a toddler and they are never washed of course they will get dirty. Do all these shoes off people never wash their shoes? Never mop their floors? Never vacuum?

Shoe-off person, I wash my floors waaay more often than I wash my shoes.
But the point was that it IS common for daycares and schools to require non-outdoor shoes inside. People are acting like it's crazy but I think some pps just live in a bubble and haven't talked to anyone new...ever.

I don't think I have ever had a conversation about the shoe practices of daycares that my kids didn't attend. Kind of a weird and random discussion topic, not sure it means I live in a bubble, just have more interesting things to talk about.

And yet when it's brought up on here, you and pps act like it's crazy and has never happened Shoes off is far more common than certain people want to acknowledge.

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Anonymous wrote:I am from Norway originally and live in the states now so my perspective may be skewed but I've never had guests over who haven't taken off their shoes at the door. Wouldn't it be very unsanitary for people to be walking inside with their shoes on? I just find this very strange and frankly a bit gross.

Moreover I don't see how this is an inconvenience to anyone. What would their reservation be? And again, would people wear shoes even if they're walking on a rug or something? Do you have to mop/clean daily, and have floor coverings professionally cleaned frequently? Just trying to wrap my head around this, thanks.

Canadian that also doesnt understand the blind rage at this issue.

discussing it doesn't make it 'blind rage' get a grip

There have definitely been some very rageful posts, perhaps you've not been following.