Party requesting guests to take shoes off

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. I’ve done this a ton. And in my house everyone takes off their shoes and we are black.

Same. I am also Black. I offer complimentary flip flops or adidas socks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.

If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?

I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.

Not anal. And we don’t literally track fecal matter into our home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it's fine just make sure to let your guests know ahead of time. I showed up once at a grade-wide party and was asked to take off my shoes. I complied but was a bit embarrassed with the socks had worn.

+1. Put it prominently in the invitation and have some slippers or extra socks on hand for guests who forget.

I usually wear shoes with no socks, and I take my own shoes off in my house and go barefoot. Same with all my family, everyone is no-shoes. But if I went to the house of someone I didn't know and expected to take off my shoes I'd prefer to have worn socks that day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.

If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?

I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.

Would you be upset if it was a conservative religious family asking people to come with shoulders covered? Or a Muslim or Mormon family that didn't serve alcohol? People are allowed to have different traditions and customs even if you find it weird.

Announce it in the invitation. People who can't bear to be parted from their high heels can decline. Everyone else can bring socks (or, if they have orthotics issue, an appropriate pair of house shoes).

[Anonymous]

Announce your ocd rule clearly so normal people can decline. I assume no one is allowed to use your toilets while there. I promise that is much grosser than my shoes. Do not host people if you can't be a good host. How uncomfortable for your guests.

[Anonymous]

I would be so pleased if you didn't attend my party because we are a no-shoe household. It tells me everything I need to know about you as a person.

We keep guest slippers on hand in a separate basket.

[Anonymous]

We don’t wear shoes in our house, but I never ask guests to remove theirs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be so pleased if you didn't attend my party because we are a no-shoe household. It tells me everything I need to know about you as a person.

We keep guest slippers on hand in a separate basket.

Wow, why so triggered?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put it on the invite so we know not to come

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Announce your ocd rule clearly so normal people can decline. I assume no one is allowed to use your toilets while there. I promise that is much grosser than my shoes. Do not host people if you can't be a good host. How uncomfortable for your guests.

I don't want to go in someone's bathroom without my shoes on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you’re going to be that anal, just don’t host a formal event.

If you host, things can be broken and items can be stained. Do your best to clean to and move on. Or will you only serve beige food and drink?

I don’t get why you can’t just clean the floors after. It’s such an annoying control freak thing.

Would you be upset if it was a conservative religious family asking people to come with shoulders covered? Or a Muslim or Mormon family that didn't serve alcohol? People are allowed to have different traditions and customs even if you find it weird.

Announce it in the invitation. People who can't bear to be parted from their high heels can decline. Everyone else can bring socks (or, if they have orthotics issue, an appropriate pair of house shoes).

Removing shoes is a little more personal and is related to hygiene.

[Anonymous]

We were invited to a birthday party where the mother was adamant about everyone removing their shoes at her door. It was hot and sweaty. I was still recovering from plantar fasciitis and my feet ached. I felt gross walking around in their house in my bare feet. I would have brought socks if I had known that was going to happen. My DC picked up athletes foot after that event, too. When someone spilled their drink, the host made a big deal about mopping a wide area around it. The floors were put above all else, even the guest’s comfort. At the end, I had to put my dirty feet back into my clean sandals. This felt disgusting. I couldn’t wait to get home and wash my feet from her house party. If we are invited again next year, we will decline.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone offended by this request isn’t someone I would want to be friends with. Besides, most people know this is the norm for Asian families.

I am an uncouth Midwesterner who hosts a lot, and find that 90% of people ask whether they should take their shoes off as they come in.

I am a white person with Asian friends and even Asian-American family. I usually ask at the door when I am a guest. There are usually obvious cues at the door area. I find other white families follow shoes off practices, just as I do at home. We do not follow this rule, 100%. I break it for guests - momentary visits, my mom who has foot pain and needs arch supports, etc.

It wouldn't be seen as weird to ask but you should mention it in an invite. And don't be judgy if someone needs to keep their shoes on. Or rent a party room as suggested.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would be so pleased if you didn't attend my party because we are a no-shoe household. It tells me everything I need to know about you as a person.

We keep guest slippers on hand in a separate basket.

Wow, why so triggered?

Definitely not triggered. It's the same litmus test as airplane seat reclining, which I'm sure you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be so pleased if you didn't attend my party because we are a no-shoe household. It tells me everything I need to know about you as a person.

We keep guest slippers on hand in a separate basket.

You expect your guests to wear slippers worn by other people? Gross. Maybe you grew up renting bowling shoes but I didn't.