S/O Why do you care if moms stay home?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I care when women go to college and don't use their degrees. They got into a school and took away from a student who may have really wanted to go there.

I would pretty annoyed if I spent hundreds of thousands on a college education for my kid and they basically decided to never use their degree. And no you don’t need a degree at all to be a good parent.

Right, because SAHPs have never worked and never plan to work in their entire lives. I will *always* encourage my kids to get a college degree, no matter what. It’s ignorant to assume a parent who stays home has never used their degree and has no plans to in the future.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I care when women go to college and don't use their degrees. They got into a school and took away from a student who may have really wanted to go there.

I would pretty annoyed if I spent hundreds of thousands on a college education for my kid and they basically decided to never use their degree. And no you don’t need a degree at all to be a good parent.

I work and my mom worked and I am going to set my girls up for educational success in life so that they can hopefully have great jobs that they enjoy, but I wouldn't be mad about the money spend on their private tuition for PreK3-12 grades plus college tuition if they decided to be stay at home moms. College (and school in its entirety, for that matter), is not merely a means to an end. It's an experience in and of itself. I'm a lawyer, and nothing I learned in undergad has anything to do with what I do now. Frankly, not much I learned in law school has anything to do with what I do now. So luckily college and law school were experiences that I enjoyed beyond just means to land me where I am today. No, you don't need a degree to be a good parent, but I would never be annoyed at my daughter for staying home with her kids after I paid for her to go to college, because I'm not sending her to college in order to find a job.

Well said.

[Anonymous]

So basically it's just finishing school for y'all. Went to college with a girl from Saudi Arabia who chose courses that would make her a good conversationalist and good wife. No econ for her, baby! Lots of art history! Aerobics! LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So basically it's just finishing school for y'all. Went to college with a girl from Saudi Arabia who chose courses that would make her a good conversationalist and good wife. No econ for her, baby! Lots of art history! Aerobics! LOL.

So basically you’re equating a girl from Saudi Arabia (??) and her culture and upbringing with that of thousands of Americans who decide to SAH with their kids for various amounts of time, depending on individual family preferences and situations. Really intelligent. Where did you say you went to school?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So basically it's just finishing school for y'all. Went to college with a girl from Saudi Arabia who chose courses that would make her a good conversationalist and good wife. No econ for her, baby! Lots of art history! Aerobics! LOL.

You’re gross.

[Anonymous]

Why are ya’ll catty beyotches still bickering about this after 32 pages? Get a life and do what’s best for you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I care when women go to college and don't use their degrees. They got into a school and took away from a student who may have really wanted to go there.

Ok troll, you're taking up electricity with your misogynist posts that someone else could be using right now.

So true. The ignorance is astounding.

I’m a new poster and I totally agree with pp. The number of women that I know with fancy law degrees that they don’t use - and never really planned to use - is just gross. There are many people - most of them from lower socioeconomic backgrounds than these women - who could’ve made something professionally of themselves with these degrees. One example is a mother to elementary school age kids that literally makes puffy paint decor for camp bunks. That she sells online. Good thing your parents spent 200 K on law school!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I care when women go to college and don't use their degrees. They got into a school and took away from a student who may have really wanted to go there.

Ok troll, you're taking up electricity with your misogynist posts that someone else could be using right now.

So true. The ignorance is astounding.

I’m a new poster and I totally agree with pp. The number of women that I know with fancy law degrees that they don’t use - and never really planned to use - is just gross. There are many people - most of them from lower socioeconomic backgrounds than these women - who could’ve made something professionally of themselves with these degrees. One example is a mother to elementary school age kids that literally makes puffy paint decor for camp bunks. That she sells online. Good thing your parents spent 200 K on law school!

This isn't a substitution scheme. If one person doesn't fully utilize their degree (and it's not just women so enough with the sexist assumptions), it's not like that another person comes in and gets a free ride. The insane cost of tuition is what is keeping people out of higher education, not women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I care when women go to college and don't use their degrees. They got into a school and took away from a student who may have really wanted to go there.

Ok troll, you're taking up electricity with your misogynist posts that someone else could be using right now.

So true. The ignorance is astounding.

I’m a new poster and I totally agree with pp. The number of women that I know with fancy law degrees that they don’t use - and never really planned to use - is just gross. There are many people - most of them from lower socioeconomic backgrounds than these women - who could’ve made something professionally of themselves with these degrees. One example is a mother to elementary school age kids that literally makes puffy paint decor for camp bunks. That she sells online. Good thing your parents spent 200 K on law school!

What an idiotic premise. Do you actually think someone got shafted from law school because another woman (or man???) "took their place"? Give us all a break. How many people with law degrees ultimately do something totally different professionally? Or any degree, for that matter? I know the field I went into had nothing to do with my actual degree. And now I SAH - but guess what? Life is long and at some point, I'll be using my college degree and/or prior experience to return to work. Amazing, right? And your friend who makes "puffy paint décor"?? What a weird anecdote to trot out. As if this one woman exemplifies all others who take time off from work to SAH. Please, grow up and get a clue.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I actually don't care what people do. I just care how they talk about it. And I've found a lot of SAHMs talk about staying home as if I'm all but dooming my kids to prison by being a working mom.

"Do they even know you?"
"Do you die inside when they cry for the nanny instead of you?"
"You'll never get this time back."

What a bunch of jerks!

LOL, PP, there is no way this is true. I SAH, have plenty of SAH friends, and live in a community of mostly WOHMs. No SAHM I have ever had a conversation with (even just us 2) has said anything disparaging about WOHMs or what it "does to their kids." We realize we are all doing our best and what's best for everyone is different in almost every way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So basically it's just finishing school for y'all. Went to college with a girl from Saudi Arabia who chose courses that would make her a good conversationalist and good wife. No econ for her, baby! Lots of art history! Aerobics! LOL.

This can be the case for anyone. I am a WOHM with a big job, but I was given the great advice that your undergrad doesn't matter. So I chose a major that has no application to the working world but makes me really great at knowing art and history, so I am a lot of fun to vacation with. I'm glad I did it this way. Being interesting and interested in the world around you is never a bad thing. But, incidentally, I did take several economics classes because I loved the topic.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So basically it's just finishing school for y'all. Went to college with a girl from Saudi Arabia who chose courses that would make her a good conversationalist and good wife. No econ for her, baby! Lots of art history! Aerobics! LOL.

This can be the case for anyone. I am a WOHM with a big job, but I was given the great advice that your undergrad doesn't matter. So I chose a major that has no application to the working world but makes me really great at knowing art and history, so I am a lot of fun to vacation with. I'm glad I did it this way. Being interesting and interested in the world around you is never a bad thing. But, incidentally, I did take several economics classes because I loved the topic.

You realize that's completely untrue for some fields, right? Good lord.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I care when women go to college and don't use their degrees. They got into a school and took away from a student who may have really wanted to go there.

Ok troll, you're taking up electricity with your misogynist posts that someone else could be using right now.

So true. The ignorance is astounding.

I’m a new poster and I totally agree with pp. The number of women that I know with fancy law degrees that they don’t use - and never really planned to use - is just gross. There are many people - most of them from lower socioeconomic backgrounds than these women - who could’ve made something professionally of themselves with these degrees. One example is a mother to elementary school age kids that literally makes puffy paint decor for camp bunks. That she sells online. Good thing your parents spent 200 K on law school!

Nah. Much better to keep the dummies out who couldn’t even get admitted. The last thing we need is to lower the standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I care when women go to college and don't use their degrees. They got into a school and took away from a student who may have really wanted to go there.

Ok troll, you're taking up electricity with your misogynist posts that someone else could be using right now.

So true. The ignorance is astounding.

I’m a new poster and I totally agree with pp. The number of women that I know with fancy law degrees that they don’t use - and never really planned to use - is just gross. There are many people - most of them from lower socioeconomic backgrounds than these women - who could’ve made something professionally of themselves with these degrees. One example is a mother to elementary school age kids that literally makes puffy paint decor for camp bunks. That she sells online. Good thing your parents spent 200 K on law school!

Nah. Much better to keep the dummies out who couldn’t even get admitted. The last thing we need is to lower the standards.

The SAHMs can’t win. If she doesn’t get a degree she’s dumb to secure her future. Meaning she can always go back to work and sustain herself if a divorce. But if she does the she’s taking spots away? This is laughable. You pay, college takes you, no spots. And if you’re dumb, you don’t get in either.