S/O Why do you care if moms stay home?

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Anonymous wrote:I care when women go to college and don't use their degrees. They got into a school and took away from a student who may have really wanted to go there.

Ok troll, you're taking up electricity with your misogynist posts that someone else could be using right now.

So true. The ignorance is astounding.

I’m a new poster and I totally agree with pp. The number of women that I know with fancy law degrees that they don’t use - and never really planned to use - is just gross. There are many people - most of them from lower socioeconomic backgrounds than these women - who could’ve made something professionally of themselves with these degrees. One example is a mother to elementary school age kids that literally makes puffy paint decor for camp bunks. That she sells online. Good thing your parents spent 200 K on law school!

What an idiotic premise. Do you actually think someone got shafted from law school because another woman (or man???) "took their place"? Give us all a break. How many people with law degrees ultimately do something totally different professionally? Or any degree, for that matter? I know the field I went into had nothing to do with my actual degree. And now I SAH - but guess what? Life is long and at some point, I'll be using my college degree and/or prior experience to return to work. Amazing, right? And your friend who makes "puffy paint décor"?? What a weird anecdote to trot out. As if this one woman exemplifies all others who take time off from work to SAH. Please, grow up and get a clue.

I work with underprivileged girls. If you don’t see how going to a fancy school that could be life-changing for them and then staying home is incredibly selfish and reeks of privilege, then I can’t help you. But might as well step on them on your way up, right?

It was life changing for me. I practiced for a long time. Now I stay home. The school I attended gave me a full ride and I had the highest LSAT score in my 300 person class. I don’t feel selfish at all for staying home. Totally ridiculous.

I'm glad you consider your children to be your priority. I wish more parents would.

Yes. All women should stay home. Only fathers should have rewarding careers.

Don’t forget completely being blind to the hypocrisy of devoting their lives to enriching their daughters’ with activities, top
schools etc - yet those same daughters would be terrible mothers if they didn’t stay home once they had their own kids. Hmmm.

Ehh. I stay home for me. It is easier. Life was too difficult once I had more than one kid. So I stopped working. I hope my kids have options. I have no desire for them to have as hard of a life as possible. Life is too short. Do what you want. It is a great privilege.

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I like SAHM as much as WOH moms. Pros and cons to both.

My PERSONAL experience is such that I never, ever, was going to be financially dependent on another person. My mom had a law-degree (not super common in her time), and decided to stay at home as soon as I was born.

Fast forward, dad got sick and had to retire, and we struggled greatly with her getting back into the work force. They never recovered financially. I was fully aware of our financial challenges, it affected me greatly, and it was a huge burden to bear as a kid. If she had stuck with her career, we never would have been in that position.

Same result can happen in a divorce.

Point being, I have absolutely nothing against women or men who decide to stay at home. I just hope, for their sake, that life continues as they plan because a lot of hardship could be avoided by staying in the work force if something does happen that's unanticipated.

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Y'ALL! We just all need to be more supportive of one another and stop with the snap online judgement! We don't know each other and we don't know each other's stories. I'm a SAHM and never dreamed I'd be one. I've loved it and I've hated it. It has been a dream and a nightmare. I've been so grateful for it and so terrified of it. We are human, have one life and we are all trying to live the best one we know how. We all LOVE our children and are trying our best with what we've got. Let's help each other where we are.

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that "Why go to college if you aren't going to use your degree?" is the compliment to "Why have children if you aren't going to raise them?"

+100000. Perfectly put.

+100001. Love that!

Can someone just be responsible for reposting this every time one of these wars comes up?

OMG those things are not equivalent. A little dig about not using your degree, I will grant you, is a stupid and insensitive thing to say. However, it is not equal to saying someone doesn't care about their children, which is exactly what the other one is saying, and the latter is a downright cruel thing to say. If you can't see the difference, your ego is talking.

They are equivalent. Just one offends you personally and one doesn't. Think of others besides yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that "Why go to college if you aren't going to use your degree?" is the compliment to "Why have children if you aren't going to raise them?"

+100000. Perfectly put.

+100001. Love that!

Can someone just be responsible for reposting this every time one of these wars comes up?

OMG those things are not equivalent. A little dig about not using your degree, I will grant you, is a stupid and insensitive thing to say. However, it is not equal to saying someone doesn't care about their children, which is exactly what the other one is saying, and the latter is a downright cruel thing to say. If you can't see the difference, your ego is talking.

They are equivalent. Just one offends you personally and one doesn't. Think of others besides yourself.

Ah, the irony (that you wont get, pp).

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that "Why go to college if you aren't going to use your degree?" is the compliment to "Why have children if you aren't going to raise them?"

+100000. Perfectly put.

+100001. Love that!

Can someone just be responsible for reposting this every time one of these wars comes up?

OMG those things are not equivalent. A little dig about not using your degree, I will grant you, is a stupid and insensitive thing to say. However, it is not equal to saying someone doesn't care about their children, which is exactly what the other one is saying, and the latter is a downright cruel thing to say. If you can't see the difference, your ego is talking.

They are equivalent. Just one offends you personally and one doesn't. Think of others besides yourself.

Ah, the irony (that you wont get, pp).

Yes, yes, you keep holding on to your false sense of superiority, dear.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that "Why go to college if you aren't going to use your degree?" is the compliment to "Why have children if you aren't going to raise them?"

+100000. Perfectly put.

+100001. Love that!

Can someone just be responsible for reposting this every time one of these wars comes up?

OMG those things are not equivalent. A little dig about not using your degree, I will grant you, is a stupid and insensitive thing to say. However, it is not equal to saying someone doesn't care about their children, which is exactly what the other one is saying, and the latter is a downright cruel thing to say. If you can't see the difference, your ego is talking.

They are equivalent. Just one offends you personally and one doesn't. Think of others besides yourself.

Love how PP coins it "a little dig" Saying that a SAHM has wasted her education, intellect and contribution to society. Sure, that is just "a little dig." Come on, be honest with yourself and own your choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like SAHM as much as WOH moms. Pros and cons to both.

My PERSONAL experience is such that I never, ever, was going to be financially dependent on another person. My mom had a law-degree (not super common in her time), and decided to stay at home as soon as I was born.

Fast forward, dad got sick and had to retire, and we struggled greatly with her getting back into the work force. They never recovered financially. I was fully aware of our financial challenges, it affected me greatly, and it was a huge burden to bear as a kid. If she had stuck with her career, we never would have been in that position.

Same result can happen in a divorce.

Point being, I have absolutely nothing against women or men who decide to stay at home. I just hope, for their sake, that life continues as they plan because a lot of hardship could be avoided by staying in the work force if something does happen that's unanticipated.

Too bad your dad didn't have disability insurance.

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that "Why go to college if you aren't going to use your degree?" is the compliment to "Why have children if you aren't going to raise them?"

+100000. Perfectly put.

+100001. Love that!

Can someone just be responsible for reposting this every time one of these wars comes up?

OMG those things are not equivalent. A little dig about not using your degree, I will grant you, is a stupid and insensitive thing to say. However, it is not equal to saying someone doesn't care about their children, which is exactly what the other one is saying, and the latter is a downright cruel thing to say. If you can't see the difference, your ego is talking.

They are equivalent. Just one offends you personally and one doesn't. Think of others besides yourself.

Love how PP coins it "a little dig" Saying that a SAHM has wasted her education, intellect and contribution to society. Sure, that is just "a little dig." Come on, be honest with yourself and own your choices.

One hurts your ego. The other hurts your heart and soul. So, yeah, the latter is worse. Be honest with *yourself* and maybe downsize the ego.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that "Why go to college if you aren't going to use your degree?" is the compliment to "Why have children if you aren't going to raise them?"

+100000. Perfectly put.

+100001. Love that!

Can someone just be responsible for reposting this every time one of these wars comes up?

OMG those things are not equivalent. A little dig about not using your degree, I will grant you, is a stupid and insensitive thing to say. However, it is not equal to saying someone doesn't care about their children, which is exactly what the other one is saying, and the latter is a downright cruel thing to say. If you can't see the difference, your ego is talking.

They are equivalent. Just one offends you personally and one doesn't. Think of others besides yourself.

Ah, the irony (that you wont get, pp).

Yes, yes, you keep holding on to your false sense of superiority, dear.

Look who's talking..."dear".

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:You do realize that "Why go to college if you aren't going to use your degree?" is the compliment to "Why have children if you aren't going to raise them?"

+100000. Perfectly put.

+100001. Love that!

Can someone just be responsible for reposting this every time one of these wars comes up?

OMG those things are not equivalent. A little dig about not using your degree, I will grant you, is a stupid and insensitive thing to say. However, it is not equal to saying someone doesn't care about their children, which is exactly what the other one is saying, and the latter is a downright cruel thing to say. If you can't see the difference, your ego is talking.

They are equivalent. Just one offends you personally and one doesn't. Think of others besides yourself.

Love how PP coins it "a little dig" Saying that a SAHM has wasted her education, intellect and contribution to society. Sure, that is just "a little dig." Come on, be honest with yourself and own your choices.

One hurts your ego. The other hurts your heart and soul. So, yeah, the latter is worse. Be honest with *yourself* and maybe downsize the ego.

You don’t get to decide that an insult you hurl at others is “just a little dig” and then cry that their retaliation hit below with belt. That is being the worst kind of bully.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You do realize that "Why go to college if you aren't going to use your degree?" is the compliment to "Why have children if you aren't going to raise them?"

+100000. Perfectly put.

+100001. Love that!

Can someone just be responsible for reposting this every time one of these wars comes up?

OMG those things are not equivalent. A little dig about not using your degree, I will grant you, is a stupid and insensitive thing to say. However, it is not equal to saying someone doesn't care about their children, which is exactly what the other one is saying, and the latter is a downright cruel thing to say. If you can't see the difference, your ego is talking.

They are equivalent. Just one offends you personally and one doesn't. Think of others besides yourself.

Love how PP coins it "a little dig" Saying that a SAHM has wasted her education, intellect and contribution to society. Sure, that is just "a little dig." Come on, be honest with yourself and own your choices.

What is worse is subjective. You act like you are the sole authority on what hurts the heart and soul. Instead of telling others to downsize their ego so as not to be hurt by your insults, why not take your own advice and downsize your insecurities and defensiveness? You know you love your kid, so your heart and soul should be intact.

One hurts your ego. The other hurts your heart and soul. So, yeah, the latter is worse. Be honest with *yourself* and maybe downsize the ego.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I like SAHM as much as WOH moms. Pros and cons to both.

My PERSONAL experience is such that I never, ever, was going to be financially dependent on another person. My mom had a law-degree (not super common in her time), and decided to stay at home as soon as I was born.

Fast forward, dad got sick and had to retire, and we struggled greatly with her getting back into the work force. They never recovered financially. I was fully aware of our financial challenges, it affected me greatly, and it was a huge burden to bear as a kid. If she had stuck with her career, we never would have been in that position.

Same result can happen in a divorce.

Point being, I have absolutely nothing against women or men who decide to stay at home. I just hope, for their sake, that life continues as they plan because a lot of hardship could be avoided by staying in the work force if something does happen that's unanticipated.

Too bad your dad didn't have disability insurance.

Even if it did her mom would probably have to return to work. Why? Is the insurance payout adjusted for inflation? What about health insurance and other types of insurance? I can imagine once one spouse is disabled the other spouse feels required to work. Look, bad things happen and the easiest way to ensure you can provide for your family is to have a job.

[Anonymous]

Who will raise the kids?

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Anonymous wrote:Who will raise the kids?

Stop, mothers who work are raising their kids.

I don't care what anybody's paid employment status is, but ALL OF US are raising our kids independent of who is with our children 9-5 on most monday-frid