S/O Why do you care if moms stay home?

[Anonymous]

Because bored housewives do their children's homework and then my kid has to compete with David and David's mom. Because they live through their kids which changes parent dynamics and classroom dynamics. Because they perpetuate stereotypes and myths like all women love baking and house cleaning. Because it makes it harder to get your husband to step up and do laundry when he can point to Annie whose husband never has to do anything.

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Anonymous wrote:I would care a hell of a lot more if I had daughters. As long as my boys marry working women it’s not my problem.

It's not your problem anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:Because bored housewives do their children's homework and then my kid has to compete with David and David's mom. Because they live through their kids which changes parent dynamics and classroom dynamics. Because they perpetuate stereotypes and myths like all women love baking and house cleaning. Because it makes it harder to get your husband to step up and do laundry when he can point to Annie whose husband never has to do anything.

*confused John Travolta looking around gif*

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t know why WOHMs hate on SAHM so much but I will tell you it happens in real life and on DCUM. I’ve been at the receiving end of many comments as an SAHM. Including just yesterday. I wish I had the guts to ask them why they care so much about my family’s choice.

Those are just stupid people, PP. They don’t represent all working moms.

[Anonymous]

I have been both a WOHM and a SAHM, and the vitriol spewed by the WOHMs is way worse. Not even close.

[Anonymous]

Because husbands don't make enough to even make it an option..

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Anonymous wrote:Because bored housewives do their children's homework and then my kid has to compete with David and David's mom. Because they live through their kids which changes parent dynamics and classroom dynamics. Because they perpetuate stereotypes and myths like all women love baking and house cleaning. Because it makes it harder to get your husband to step up and do laundry when he can point to Annie whose husband never has to do anything.

LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:1) it doesn’t affect me on a personal level, but make no mistake it affects me from the level that when they retire, they haven’t paid into the system for however many years. Just coatailling their husband and taking money working people have put into the system through FICA.
Claiming to have “the most important and hardest” job in the world. Sorry babe, once your kids are in elementary school, you are living a life of leisure, stop pretending otherwise.
2) I don’t care other than believing they are lazy and persist on continuing the stereotype of dependence on men versus contributing to equality.

This exactly. I believe that they are bringing all women down by allowing companies to justify the fact that all women quit when they have kids etc. Even worse when they have daughters and push them so hard academically. SAHMs of a daughter at a fancy private school? And they don’t even see the hypocrisy.

Goes double for those who have degrees from fancy institutions that could’ve gone to someone who would actually use them.

So... Even though it makes me happier to stay home with my daughter while she's little, I'm supposed to keep working for the benefit of YOUR career....?
Also, I did use my degree for several years before having children, and I plan to use it again. But I don't agree that a career is the only reason to get a college degree. I'm an educated citizen, which in the end is probably the bigger benefit to society of my education, vs what I'd be doing with my degree in some corporate office. Should I have stopped at a high school degree if I planned to stay home for a few years with my kids? Should I have not gone to school at all....?

You are obviously about you and not about the greater good. Your daughter will not benefit from that. Read the studies.

I did. They say all I have to do is work before she's 14. But yea, sorry, I do care more about my happiness and my own family than about your career.

Or your own pride or equality within your family or how your pre-teens perceive you. But that’s awesome. You do you.

I think you’re proving OP’s point. You seem to care a lot about what I do with my life, whereas I don’t care whether you work or not.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been both a WOHM and a SAHM, and the vitriol spewed by the WOHMs is way worse. Not even close.

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Who are these WOHMs? Do they say things to your face or are you just referring to weirdos on these threads? On this forum, there are weirdos on both sides.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually don't care what people do. I just care how they talk about it. And I've found a lot of SAHMs talk about staying home as if I'm all but dooming my kids to prison by being a working mom.

"Do they even know you?"
"Do you die inside when they cry for the nanny instead of you?"
"You'll never get this time back."

What a bunch of jerks!

Guarantee no one say that. It's all in PPs head.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been both a WOHM and a SAHM, and the vitriol spewed by the WOHMs is way worse. Not even close.

As evidenced by this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been both a WOHM and a SAHM, and the vitriol spewed by the WOHMs is way worse. Not even close.

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Who are these WOHMs? Do they say things to your face or are you just referring to weirdos on these threads? On this forum, there are weirdos on both sides.

I am comparing how WOHMs talked about SAHMs when I worked v how SAHMs tales about WOHMs when I SAH. I think most of it was just insecurity with life decisions. All of the SAHMs I knew were rich ones with great educations and work history. These weren’t naive little girls with a power imbalance and husband giving a monthly allowance.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been both a WOHM and a SAHM, and the vitriol spewed by the WOHMs is way worse. Not even close.

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Who are these WOHMs? Do they say things to your face or are you just referring to weirdos on these threads? On this forum, there are weirdos on both sides.

I am comparing how WOHMs talked about SAHMs when I worked v how SAHMs tales about WOHMs when I SAH. I think most of it was just insecurity with life decisions. All of the SAHMs I knew were rich ones with great educations and work history. These weren’t naive little girls with a power imbalance and husband giving a monthly allowance.

I actually never heard much criticism at all of WOHMs. It was all, good for her. It is a tough thing to balance.

[Anonymous]

Some people do, some people don't, some people can't, some people won't. All seem okay to me. I sometimes think my house would be a lot cleaner if I worked outside my home because there wouldn't be kids here all the time tossing toys all over every square inch of the floor.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been both a WOHM and a SAHM, and the vitriol spewed by the WOHMs is way worse. Not even close.

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Who are these WOHMs? Do they say things to your face or are you just referring to weirdos on these threads? On this forum, there are weirdos on both sides.

I am comparing how WOHMs talked about SAHMs when I worked v how SAHMs tales about WOHMs when I SAH. I think most of it was just insecurity with life decisions. All of the SAHMs I knew were rich ones with great educations and work history. These weren’t naive little girls with a power imbalance and husband giving a monthly allowance.

I actually never heard much criticism at all of WOHMs. It was all, good for her. It is a tough thing to balance.

This is interesting. I am the only WOHM on either side of my family, and nobody has told me i should quit, it's just thoughtless comments like "it must be so hard for the kids to have to rush out of the house every day" and "I could never pay someone else to raise my kids" where i don't even think they're talking about ME, they just fail to think about how hearing this stuff hurts.

On the other hand. the moms I work with and am friends with have never even mentioned SAHMs, much less insulted them. Homeschooling SAHMs do get some judgment, but they're not the norm.