Does your community pool have a dress code?

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Would I wear a thong? No. But I do find it funny how people are this offended over a butt cheek.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh, I grew up in Miami where women would go topless at pools and public beaches if they wanted to do that. It wasn't a problem at all and no one would have thought to complain about a thong. I never heard anyone accuse the European tourists of "displaying an erection" because they wore a speedo. Must not be any Germans at your pools since they seem to believe in swimming nude and find Miami to be conservative.

This is America. Not Miami. And not Europe.

We don’t like bare breasts and ball sacks on display at the community pool. We also don’t like public fornication or democratic socialism. We don’t like men going to the office without an undershirt so they’ve got visible nipples and chest hair.

We do enjoy a wholesome game of Marco Polo, fireworks in the summertime, deodorant, ice cubes, and winning wars.

Conduct yourself accordingly or I’m calling the cops (which we also enjoy).

What a bizarre troll. Why are you bringing your politics and war-mongering into a swim wear thread?

DP but it’s all related. What is acceptable and not acceptable is cultural.

Our local culture rejects using children’s pools for public sex.

Literally no one is talking about public sex. Stop trying to derail the thread by equating thongs with porn.

People expressed concern about thongs. All these weirdos insisted it was insane to worry about thongs, that there is literally nothing prurient about them - people pointed out young women making thirst trap videos, men displaying erections etc - CLEARLY overtly sexual behavior. And so the discussion became, what IS inappropriate? There must be a bottom, if it’s not thongs, what is it? Is it public sex?

Tell us what the line is if it’s not things…

You don't think there's a grey area a mile wide between thongs as a bikini bottom and public sex? Seriously what is wrong with you?

I think there's a line to be drawn somewhere, and I'd like to hear what it is, in your opinon.

In my opinion, as long as you are dressed within/following the law it's fine. If men and women are allowed to be topless, I'm fine with that. If men or women want to wear thongs, I'm fine with that. If people are having sex at the pool, that has nothing to do with what they are wearing, and would be illegal, and that's not ok.

This is such a cold heartless way to look at the world.

"You can't tell me what to do if it's not the law!"

Seriously, what motivates someone to live like that? We wouldn't NEED laws if people just were more thoughtful of the shared spaces we all use.

I don't think it's cold or heartless, it's simple and easy to understand. We already have laws, why not use their structure and framework while implementing other policies? It's a lot easier to just refer to the law than make up something entirely new and have to justify it to patrons. YMMV, but in general I'm a fan of clear and simple when it comes to "rules".

Don't you think life would be so much easier with arbitrary community standards wherever we went? I can't imagine how that would be abused. /s

I mean the concept of being respectful to people around is PRETTTTTY basic. I try to keep my kids from splashing and disrupting your quiet adult time, maybe you could keep your thirst trap videography to a minimum and not disrupt my quiet family time.

I think that's the most shocking thing—so much of this thread is based on the idea that if we were just a little more thoughtful to those around us while in shared public spaces, and people are VERY angry over it and seemingly try to insist that women can wear anything, do anything and men should be allowed to display their erections in front of children. WTAF.

Just be considerate and then we don't have to come up with rules about 35 percent of your ass cheek being covered. YEESH.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh, I grew up in Miami where women would go topless at pools and public beaches if they wanted to do that. It wasn't a problem at all and no one would have thought to complain about a thong. I never heard anyone accuse the European tourists of "displaying an erection" because they wore a speedo. Must not be any Germans at your pools since they seem to believe in swimming nude and find Miami to be conservative.

This is America. Not Miami. And not Europe.

We don’t like bare breasts and ball sacks on display at the community pool. We also don’t like public fornication or democratic socialism. We don’t like men going to the office without an undershirt so they’ve got visible nipples and chest hair.

We do enjoy a wholesome game of Marco Polo, fireworks in the summertime, deodorant, ice cubes, and winning wars.

Conduct yourself accordingly or I’m calling the cops (which we also enjoy).

What a bizarre troll. Why are you bringing your politics and war-mongering into a swim wear thread?

DP but it’s all related. What is acceptable and not acceptable is cultural.

Our local culture rejects using children’s pools for public sex.

Literally no one is talking about public sex. Stop trying to derail the thread by equating thongs with porn.

People expressed concern about thongs. All these weirdos insisted it was insane to worry about thongs, that there is literally nothing prurient about them - people pointed out young women making thirst trap videos, men displaying erections etc - CLEARLY overtly sexual behavior. And so the discussion became, what IS inappropriate? There must be a bottom, if it’s not thongs, what is it? Is it public sex?

Tell us what the line is if it’s not things…

You don't think there's a grey area a mile wide between thongs as a bikini bottom and public sex? Seriously what is wrong with you?

I think there's a line to be drawn somewhere, and I'd like to hear what it is, in your opinon.

In my opinion, as long as you are dressed within/following the law it's fine. If men and women are allowed to be topless, I'm fine with that. If men or women want to wear thongs, I'm fine with that. If people are having sex at the pool, that has nothing to do with what they are wearing, and would be illegal, and that's not ok.

This is such a cold heartless way to look at the world.

"You can't tell me what to do if it's not the law!"

Seriously, what motivates someone to live like that? We wouldn't NEED laws if people just were more thoughtful of the shared spaces we all use.

I don't think it's cold or heartless, it's simple and easy to understand. We already have laws, why not use their structure and framework while implementing other policies? It's a lot easier to just refer to the law than make up something entirely new and have to justify it to patrons. YMMV, but in general I'm a fan of clear and simple when it comes to "rules".

Don't you think life would be so much easier with arbitrary community standards wherever we went? I can't imagine how that would be abused. /s

I mean the concept of being respectful to people around is PRETTTTTY basic. I try to keep my kids from splashing and disrupting your quiet adult time, maybe you could keep your thirst trap videography to a minimum and not disrupt my quiet family time.

I think that's the most shocking thing—so much of this thread is based on the idea that if we were just a little more thoughtful to those around us while in shared public spaces, and people are VERY angry over it and seemingly try to insist that women can wear anything, do anything and men should be allowed to display their erections in front of children. WTAF.

Just be considerate and then we don't have to come up with rules about 35 percent of your ass cheek being covered. YEESH.

Not a single person said this. No one said women can wear "anything, no one said they can "do anything" and no one said men can "display erections in front of children".

You can't even defend your position without resorting to lies, doesn't sound like a very solid position at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh, I grew up in Miami where women would go topless at pools and public beaches if they wanted to do that. It wasn't a problem at all and no one would have thought to complain about a thong. I never heard anyone accuse the European tourists of "displaying an erection" because they wore a speedo. Must not be any Germans at your pools since they seem to believe in swimming nude and find Miami to be conservative.

This is America. Not Miami. And not Europe.

We don’t like bare breasts and ball sacks on display at the community pool. We also don’t like public fornication or democratic socialism. We don’t like men going to the office without an undershirt so they’ve got visible nipples and chest hair.

We do enjoy a wholesome game of Marco Polo, fireworks in the summertime, deodorant, ice cubes, and winning wars.

Conduct yourself accordingly or I’m calling the cops (which we also enjoy).

What a bizarre troll. Why are you bringing your politics and war-mongering into a swim wear thread?

DP but it’s all related. What is acceptable and not acceptable is cultural.

Our local culture rejects using children’s pools for public sex.

Literally no one is talking about public sex. Stop trying to derail the thread by equating thongs with porn.

People expressed concern about thongs. All these weirdos insisted it was insane to worry about thongs, that there is literally nothing prurient about them - people pointed out young women making thirst trap videos, men displaying erections etc - CLEARLY overtly sexual behavior. And so the discussion became, what IS inappropriate? There must be a bottom, if it’s not thongs, what is it? Is it public sex?

Tell us what the line is if it’s not things…

You don't think there's a grey area a mile wide between thongs as a bikini bottom and public sex? Seriously what is wrong with you?

I think there's a line to be drawn somewhere, and I'd like to hear what it is, in your opinon.

In my opinion, as long as you are dressed within/following the law it's fine. If men and women are allowed to be topless, I'm fine with that. If men or women want to wear thongs, I'm fine with that. If people are having sex at the pool, that has nothing to do with what they are wearing, and would be illegal, and that's not ok.

This is such a cold heartless way to look at the world.

"You can't tell me what to do if it's not the law!"

Seriously, what motivates someone to live like that? We wouldn't NEED laws if people just were more thoughtful of the shared spaces we all use.

I don't think it's cold or heartless, it's simple and easy to understand. We already have laws, why not use their structure and framework while implementing other policies? It's a lot easier to just refer to the law than make up something entirely new and have to justify it to patrons. YMMV, but in general I'm a fan of clear and simple when it comes to "rules".

Don't you think life would be so much easier with arbitrary community standards wherever we went? I can't imagine how that would be abused. /s

I mean the concept of being respectful to people around is PRETTTTTY basic. I try to keep my kids from splashing and disrupting your quiet adult time, maybe you could keep your thirst trap videography to a minimum and not disrupt my quiet family time.

I think that's the most shocking thing—so much of this thread is based on the idea that if we were just a little more thoughtful to those around us while in shared public spaces, and people are VERY angry over it and seemingly try to insist that women can wear anything, do anything and men should be allowed to display their erections in front of children. WTAF.

Just be considerate and then we don't have to come up with rules about 35 percent of your ass cheek being covered. YEESH.

Not a single person said this. No one said women can wear "anything, no one said they can "do anything" and no one said men can "display erections in front of children".

You can't even defend your position without resorting to lies, doesn't sound like a very solid position at all.

Over and over again, we've asked, what are the limits that you can accept, and people just change the subject and try to argue that community pools are not for children.

So, heres your opportunity to straighten it all out—thongs are okay with you? What's not?

Just warning you, if you try to draw a line and say something like men shouldn't be flaunting erections, the anti-dress code brigade WILL accuse you of unfairly sexualizing everything and say they do it in Miami and it's fine.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh, I grew up in Miami where women would go topless at pools and public beaches if they wanted to do that. It wasn't a problem at all and no one would have thought to complain about a thong. I never heard anyone accuse the European tourists of "displaying an erection" because they wore a speedo. Must not be any Germans at your pools since they seem to believe in swimming nude and find Miami to be conservative.

This is America. Not Miami. And not Europe.

We don’t like bare breasts and ball sacks on display at the community pool. We also don’t like public fornication or democratic socialism. We don’t like men going to the office without an undershirt so they’ve got visible nipples and chest hair.

We do enjoy a wholesome game of Marco Polo, fireworks in the summertime, deodorant, ice cubes, and winning wars.

Conduct yourself accordingly or I’m calling the cops (which we also enjoy).

What a bizarre troll. Why are you bringing your politics and war-mongering into a swim wear thread?

DP but it’s all related. What is acceptable and not acceptable is cultural.

Our local culture rejects using children’s pools for public sex.

Literally no one is talking about public sex. Stop trying to derail the thread by equating thongs with porn.

People expressed concern about thongs. All these weirdos insisted it was insane to worry about thongs, that there is literally nothing prurient about them - people pointed out young women making thirst trap videos, men displaying erections etc - CLEARLY overtly sexual behavior. And so the discussion became, what IS inappropriate? There must be a bottom, if it’s not thongs, what is it? Is it public sex?

Tell us what the line is if it’s not things…

You don't think there's a grey area a mile wide between thongs as a bikini bottom and public sex? Seriously what is wrong with you?

I think there's a line to be drawn somewhere, and I'd like to hear what it is, in your opinon.

In my opinion, as long as you are dressed within/following the law it's fine. If men and women are allowed to be topless, I'm fine with that. If men or women want to wear thongs, I'm fine with that. If people are having sex at the pool, that has nothing to do with what they are wearing, and would be illegal, and that's not ok.

This is such a cold heartless way to look at the world.

"You can't tell me what to do if it's not the law!"

Seriously, what motivates someone to live like that? We wouldn't NEED laws if people just were more thoughtful of the shared spaces we all use.

I don't think it's cold or heartless, it's simple and easy to understand. We already have laws, why not use their structure and framework while implementing other policies? It's a lot easier to just refer to the law than make up something entirely new and have to justify it to patrons. YMMV, but in general I'm a fan of clear and simple when it comes to "rules".

Don't you think life would be so much easier with arbitrary community standards wherever we went? I can't imagine how that would be abused. /s

I mean the concept of being respectful to people around is PRETTTTTY basic. I try to keep my kids from splashing and disrupting your quiet adult time, maybe you could keep your thirst trap videography to a minimum and not disrupt my quiet family time.

I think that's the most shocking thing—so much of this thread is based on the idea that if we were just a little more thoughtful to those around us while in shared public spaces, and people are VERY angry over it and seemingly try to insist that women can wear anything, do anything and men should be allowed to display their erections in front of children. WTAF.

Just be considerate and then we don't have to come up with rules about 35 percent of your ass cheek being covered. YEESH.

Not a single person said this. No one said women can wear "anything, no one said they can "do anything" and no one said men can "display erections in front of children".

You can't even defend your position without resorting to lies, doesn't sound like a very solid position at all.

Over and over again, we've asked, what are the limits that you can accept, and people just change the subject and try to argue that community pools are not for children.

So, heres your opportunity to straighten it all out—thongs are okay with you? What's not?

Just warning you, if you try to draw a line and say something like men shouldn't be flaunting erections, the anti-dress code brigade WILL accuse you of unfairly sexualizing everything and say they do it in Miami and it's fine.

Multiple people have replied to this? Why are you saying that no one is answering? More lies since you can't seem to figure out an argument that doesnt involve indecent exposure or public sex acts? No one said men flaunt erections in Miami. You lack some serious reading comprehension, but I know it's because you are a troll.

I, personally, me, myself, think thongs are fine. If that's all you're asking, it's been asked and answered many times over the course of this thread. What's not allowed? Anything that would legally not qualify. Topless? Ok with me. Bottomless? No.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh, I grew up in Miami where women would go topless at pools and public beaches if they wanted to do that. It wasn't a problem at all and no one would have thought to complain about a thong. I never heard anyone accuse the European tourists of "displaying an erection" because they wore a speedo. Must not be any Germans at your pools since they seem to believe in swimming nude and find Miami to be conservative.

This is America. Not Miami. And not Europe.

We don’t like bare breasts and ball sacks on display at the community pool. We also don’t like public fornication or democratic socialism. We don’t like men going to the office without an undershirt so they’ve got visible nipples and chest hair.

We do enjoy a wholesome game of Marco Polo, fireworks in the summertime, deodorant, ice cubes, and winning wars.

Conduct yourself accordingly or I’m calling the cops (which we also enjoy).

What a bizarre troll. Why are you bringing your politics and war-mongering into a swim wear thread?

DP but it’s all related. What is acceptable and not acceptable is cultural.

Our local culture rejects using children’s pools for public sex.

Literally no one is talking about public sex. Stop trying to derail the thread by equating thongs with porn.

People expressed concern about thongs. All these weirdos insisted it was insane to worry about thongs, that there is literally nothing prurient about them - people pointed out young women making thirst trap videos, men displaying erections etc - CLEARLY overtly sexual behavior. And so the discussion became, what IS inappropriate? There must be a bottom, if it’s not thongs, what is it? Is it public sex?

Tell us what the line is if it’s not things…

You don't think there's a grey area a mile wide between thongs as a bikini bottom and public sex? Seriously what is wrong with you?

I think there's a line to be drawn somewhere, and I'd like to hear what it is, in your opinon.

In my opinion, as long as you are dressed within/following the law it's fine. If men and women are allowed to be topless, I'm fine with that. If men or women want to wear thongs, I'm fine with that. If people are having sex at the pool, that has nothing to do with what they are wearing, and would be illegal, and that's not ok.

This is such a cold heartless way to look at the world.

"You can't tell me what to do if it's not the law!"

Seriously, what motivates someone to live like that? We wouldn't NEED laws if people just were more thoughtful of the shared spaces we all use.

I don't think it's cold or heartless, it's simple and easy to understand. We already have laws, why not use their structure and framework while implementing other policies? It's a lot easier to just refer to the law than make up something entirely new and have to justify it to patrons. YMMV, but in general I'm a fan of clear and simple when it comes to "rules".

Don't you think life would be so much easier with arbitrary community standards wherever we went? I can't imagine how that would be abused. /s

I mean the concept of being respectful to people around is PRETTTTTY basic. I try to keep my kids from splashing and disrupting your quiet adult time, maybe you could keep your thirst trap videography to a minimum and not disrupt my quiet family time.

I think that's the most shocking thing—so much of this thread is based on the idea that if we were just a little more thoughtful to those around us while in shared public spaces, and people are VERY angry over it and seemingly try to insist that women can wear anything, do anything and men should be allowed to display their erections in front of children. WTAF.

Just be considerate and then we don't have to come up with rules about 35 percent of your ass cheek being covered. YEESH.

Not a single person said this. No one said women can wear "anything, no one said they can "do anything" and no one said men can "display erections in front of children".

You can't even defend your position without resorting to lies, doesn't sound like a very solid position at all.

Over and over again, we've asked, what are the limits that you can accept, and people just change the subject and try to argue that community pools are not for children.

So, heres your opportunity to straighten it all out—thongs are okay with you? What's not?

Just warning you, if you try to draw a line and say something like men shouldn't be flaunting erections, the anti-dress code brigade WILL accuse you of unfairly sexualizing everything and say they do it in Miami and it's fine.

Multiple people have replied to this? Why are you saying that no one is answering? More lies since you can't seem to figure out an argument that doesnt involve indecent exposure or public sex acts? No one said men flaunt erections in Miami. You lack some serious reading comprehension, but I know it's because you are a troll.

I, personally, me, myself, think thongs are fine. If that's all you're asking, it's been asked and answered many times over the course of this thread. What's not allowed? Anything that would legally not qualify. Topless? Ok with me. Bottomless? No.

NP. Still seems arbitary -- what if someone is most comfortable bottomless? People have noted the Germans often swim nude, if you have German friends visiting would you require them to go out and purchase swimsuits? Utter nonsense.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh, I grew up in Miami where women would go topless at pools and public beaches if they wanted to do that. It wasn't a problem at all and no one would have thought to complain about a thong. I never heard anyone accuse the European tourists of "displaying an erection" because they wore a speedo. Must not be any Germans at your pools since they seem to believe in swimming nude and find Miami to be conservative.

This is America. Not Miami. And not Europe.

We don’t like bare breasts and ball sacks on display at the community pool. We also don’t like public fornication or democratic socialism. We don’t like men going to the office without an undershirt so they’ve got visible nipples and chest hair.

We do enjoy a wholesome game of Marco Polo, fireworks in the summertime, deodorant, ice cubes, and winning wars.

Conduct yourself accordingly or I’m calling the cops (which we also enjoy).

What a bizarre troll. Why are you bringing your politics and war-mongering into a swim wear thread?

DP but it’s all related. What is acceptable and not acceptable is cultural.

Our local culture rejects using children’s pools for public sex.

Literally no one is talking about public sex. Stop trying to derail the thread by equating thongs with porn.

People expressed concern about thongs. All these weirdos insisted it was insane to worry about thongs, that there is literally nothing prurient about them - people pointed out young women making thirst trap videos, men displaying erections etc - CLEARLY overtly sexual behavior. And so the discussion became, what IS inappropriate? There must be a bottom, if it’s not thongs, what is it? Is it public sex?

Tell us what the line is if it’s not things…

You don't think there's a grey area a mile wide between thongs as a bikini bottom and public sex? Seriously what is wrong with you?

I think there's a line to be drawn somewhere, and I'd like to hear what it is, in your opinon.

In my opinion, as long as you are dressed within/following the law it's fine. If men and women are allowed to be topless, I'm fine with that. If men or women want to wear thongs, I'm fine with that. If people are having sex at the pool, that has nothing to do with what they are wearing, and would be illegal, and that's not ok.

Where are men wearing thongs in the DMV? That’s not a thing - hopefully.

I've never seen a man in a thong at a community pool, though I'm sure there's some french dudes doing it somewhere around here. There are plenty of aggressive men in speedos who like to stand over young women trying to tan, blocking their light. Don't know what that's about, but I'm sure people here can rationalize it as normal and not at all sexual or threatening.

That only happens on beaches where the creep can run away or blend in with a crowd. I've never seen it happen at a community pool and doubt it would be tolerated.

You... seem to know a lot about the tactics involved here? Pretty creepy, dude.

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Anonymous wrote:At least it’s not men in thongs

Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.

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I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs

They should. But not at children's pools.

It was a community pool, so not an issue.

That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.

Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.

So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?

Sorry, lady, that’s not right.

I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.

Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.

People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.

I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.

I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.

Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!

There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.

Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?

Basically, yes.

Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.

For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.

So no men with erections?

I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.

Kinda makes you question their motivations…

First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.

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Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.

I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.

If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.

Agreed?

Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.

So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.

My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.

At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.

This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.

A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.

I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.

I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.

I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.

It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.

I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.

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Anonymous wrote:Huh, I grew up in Miami where women would go topless at pools and public beaches if they wanted to do that. It wasn't a problem at all and no one would have thought to complain about a thong. I never heard anyone accuse the European tourists of "displaying an erection" because they wore a speedo. Must not be any Germans at your pools since they seem to believe in swimming nude and find Miami to be conservative.

This is America. Not Miami. And not Europe.

We don’t like bare breasts and ball sacks on display at the community pool. We also don’t like public fornication or democratic socialism. We don’t like men going to the office without an undershirt so they’ve got visible nipples and chest hair.

We do enjoy a wholesome game of Marco Polo, fireworks in the summertime, deodorant, ice cubes, and winning wars.

Conduct yourself accordingly or I’m calling the cops (which we also enjoy).

What a bizarre troll. Why are you bringing your politics and war-mongering into a swim wear thread?

DP but it’s all related. What is acceptable and not acceptable is cultural.

Our local culture rejects using children’s pools for public sex.

Literally no one is talking about public sex. Stop trying to derail the thread by equating thongs with porn.

People expressed concern about thongs. All these weirdos insisted it was insane to worry about thongs, that there is literally nothing prurient about them - people pointed out young women making thirst trap videos, men displaying erections etc - CLEARLY overtly sexual behavior. And so the discussion became, what IS inappropriate? There must be a bottom, if it’s not thongs, what is it? Is it public sex?

Tell us what the line is if it’s not things…

You don't think there's a grey area a mile wide between thongs as a bikini bottom and public sex? Seriously what is wrong with you?

I think there's a line to be drawn somewhere, and I'd like to hear what it is, in your opinon.

In my opinion, as long as you are dressed within/following the law it's fine. If men and women are allowed to be topless, I'm fine with that. If men or women want to wear thongs, I'm fine with that. If people are having sex at the pool, that has nothing to do with what they are wearing, and would be illegal, and that's not ok.

This is such a cold heartless way to look at the world.

"You can't tell me what to do if it's not the law!"

Seriously, what motivates someone to live like that? We wouldn't NEED laws if people just were more thoughtful of the shared spaces we all use.

I don't think it's cold or heartless, it's simple and easy to understand. We already have laws, why not use their structure and framework while implementing other policies? It's a lot easier to just refer to the law than make up something entirely new and have to justify it to patrons. YMMV, but in general I'm a fan of clear and simple when it comes to "rules".

Don't you think life would be so much easier with arbitrary community standards wherever we went? I can't imagine how that would be abused. /s

I mean the concept of being respectful to people around is PRETTTTTY basic. I try to keep my kids from splashing and disrupting your quiet adult time, maybe you could keep your thirst trap videography to a minimum and not disrupt my quiet family time.

I think that's the most shocking thing—so much of this thread is based on the idea that if we were just a little more thoughtful to those around us while in shared public spaces, and people are VERY angry over it and seemingly try to insist that women can wear anything, do anything and men should be allowed to display their erections in front of children. WTAF.

Just be considerate and then we don't have to come up with rules about 35 percent of your ass cheek being covered. YEESH.

Not a single person said this. No one said women can wear "anything, no one said they can "do anything" and no one said men can "display erections in front of children".

You can't even defend your position without resorting to lies, doesn't sound like a very solid position at all.

Over and over again, we've asked, what are the limits that you can accept, and people just change the subject and try to argue that community pools are not for children.

So, heres your opportunity to straighten it all out—thongs are okay with you? What's not?

Just warning you, if you try to draw a line and say something like men shouldn't be flaunting erections, the anti-dress code brigade WILL accuse you of unfairly sexualizing everything and say they do it in Miami and it's fine.

Multiple people have replied to this? Why are you saying that no one is answering? More lies since you can't seem to figure out an argument that doesnt involve indecent exposure or public sex acts? No one said men flaunt erections in Miami. You lack some serious reading comprehension, but I know it's because you are a troll.

I, personally, me, myself, think thongs are fine. If that's all you're asking, it's been asked and answered many times over the course of this thread. What's not allowed? Anything that would legally not qualify. Topless? Ok with me. Bottomless? No.

NP. Still seems arbitary -- what if someone is most comfortable bottomless? People have noted the Germans often swim nude, if you have German friends visiting would you require them to go out and purchase swimsuits? Utter nonsense.

Sure, maybe it's arbitrary, but it's also the law. If you want to break the law that's your decision, but anyone wearing a thong to the community pool isn't.

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Anonymous wrote:At least it’s not men in thongs

Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.

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I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs

They should. But not at children's pools.

It was a community pool, so not an issue.

That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.

Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.

So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?

Sorry, lady, that’s not right.

I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.

Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.

People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.

I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.

I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.

Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!

There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.

Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?

Basically, yes.

Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.

For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.

So no men with erections?

I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.

Kinda makes you question their motivations…

First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.

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Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.

I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.

If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.

Agreed?

Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.

So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.

My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.

At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.

This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.

A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.

I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.

I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.

I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.

It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.

I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.

So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.

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A butt cheek doesn't bother me. At all. I shouldn't see any holes and I shouldn't see any obvious outlines of penises. That's pretty much where my line is.

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Anonymous wrote:At least it’s not men in thongs

Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.

+1

I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs

They should. But not at children's pools.

It was a community pool, so not an issue.

That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.

Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.

So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?

Sorry, lady, that’s not right.

I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.

Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.

People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.

I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.

I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.

Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!

There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.

Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?

Basically, yes.

Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.

For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.

So no men with erections?

I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.

Kinda makes you question their motivations…

First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.

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Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.

I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.

If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.

Agreed?

Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.

So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.

My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.

At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.

This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.

A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.

I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.

I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.

I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.

It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.

I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.

So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.

So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.

JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.

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Anonymous wrote:A butt cheek doesn't bother me. At all. I shouldn't see any holes and I shouldn't see any obvious outlines of penises. That's pretty much where my line is.

A man who wears a Speedo or brief with even twice the material of a woman's thong is going to be showing obvious outlines of a penis. I think this is a double standard.

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Anonymous wrote:At least it’s not men in thongs

Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.

+1

I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs

They should. But not at children's pools.

It was a community pool, so not an issue.

That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.

Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.

So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?

Sorry, lady, that’s not right.

I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.

Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.

People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.

I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.

I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.

Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!

There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.

Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?

Basically, yes.

Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.

For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.

So no men with erections?

I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.

Kinda makes you question their motivations…

First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.

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Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.

I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.

If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.

Agreed?

Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.

So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.

My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.

At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.

This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.

A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.

I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.

I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.

I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.

It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.

I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.

So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.

So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.

JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.

She was wearing a bikini, wasn't she? You just don't approve of the style. And she was filming a video of her squatting for 15 mins? Did you really let 15m of this ruin your entire day at the pool? That's really sad, you could still enjoy the rest of the pool. What does this have to do with her libido?

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Anonymous wrote:At least it’s not men in thongs

Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.

+1

I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs

They should. But not at children's pools.

It was a community pool, so not an issue.

That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.

Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.

So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?

Sorry, lady, that’s not right.

I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.

Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.

People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.

I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.

I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.

Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!

There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.

Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?

Basically, yes.

Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.

For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.

So no men with erections?

I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.

Kinda makes you question their motivations…

First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.

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Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.

I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.

If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.

Agreed?

Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.

So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.

My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.

At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.

This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.

A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.

I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.

I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.

I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.

It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.

I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.

So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.

So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.

JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.

She was wearing a bikini, wasn't she? You just don't approve of the style. And she was filming a video of her squatting for 15 mins? Did you really let 15m of this ruin your entire day at the pool? That's really sad, you could still enjoy the rest of the pool. What does this have to do with her libido?

I was actually really intrigued. It wasn't appropriate, though.

Anyway, the simple way to end all this is think of something you wouldn't find appropriate to do in front of children—there's your line. Think how you'd feel if someone crossed it. Now, and this is the hard part, imagine other people have other lines. Do your best to respect them.

Problem solved, end-of-thread, no more need for trolling.