Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.
+1
I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs
They should. But not at children's pools.
It was a community pool, so not an issue.
That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.
Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.
So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?
Sorry, lady, that’s not right.
I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.
Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.
People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.
I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.
I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.
Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!
There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.
Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?
Basically, yes.
Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.
For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.
So no men with erections?
I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.
Kinda makes you question their motivations…
First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.
.
Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.
I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.
If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.
Agreed?
Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.
So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.
My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.
At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.
This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.
A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.
I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.
I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.
I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.
It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.
I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.
So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.
So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.
JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.
She was wearing a bikini, wasn't she? You just don't approve of the style. And she was filming a video of her squatting for 15 mins? Did you really let 15m of this ruin your entire day at the pool? That's really sad, you could still enjoy the rest of the pool. What does this have to do with her libido?
I was actually really intrigued. It wasn't appropriate, though.
Anyway, the simple way to end all this is think of something you wouldn't find appropriate to do in front of children—there's your line. Think how you'd feel if someone crossed it. Now, and this is the hard part, imagine other people have other lines. Do your best to respect them.
Problem solved, end-of-thread, no more need for trolling.
If she's wearing a swim suit she wasn't crossing any lines, since it's been noted that most pools don't have a dress code or that this would fall within the dress code of that particular pool. If you found her behavior objectionable, you should have brought it up to the manager. We can't possibly know the "lines" that every other person has, it's inappropriate to expect every other person to read your mind (and everyone elses).
Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.
+1
I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs
They should. But not at children's pools.
It was a community pool, so not an issue.
That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.
Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.
So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?
Sorry, lady, that’s not right.
I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.
Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.
People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.
I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.
I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.
Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!
There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.
Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?
Basically, yes.
Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.
For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.
So no men with erections?
I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.
Kinda makes you question their motivations…
First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.
.
Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.
I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.
If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.
Agreed?
Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.
So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.
My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.
At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.
This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.
A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.
I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.
I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.
I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.
It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.
I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.
So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.
So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.
JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.
She was wearing a bikini, wasn't she? You just don't approve of the style. And she was filming a video of her squatting for 15 mins? Did you really let 15m of this ruin your entire day at the pool? That's really sad, you could still enjoy the rest of the pool. What does this have to do with her libido?
I was actually really intrigued. It wasn't appropriate, though.
Anyway, the simple way to end all this is think of something you wouldn't find appropriate to do in front of children—there's your line. Think how you'd feel if someone crossed it. Now, and this is the hard part, imagine other people have other lines. Do your best to respect them.
Problem solved, end-of-thread, no more need for trolling.
If she's wearing a swim suit she wasn't crossing any lines, since it's been noted that most pools don't have a dress code or that this would fall within the dress code of that particular pool. If you found her behavior objectionable, you should have brought it up to the manager. We can't possibly know the "lines" that every other person has, it's inappropriate to expect every other person to read your mind (and everyone elses).
I'm not asking you for a legal reading of whether she broke the rules. I'm also not asking you whether I should've brought it up with the neighbors.
But, yes, unless you are a sociopath, you can be expected to know other people's norms. No one wants to see your genitals, a-hole or erection. It is inappropriate to show them to children in public. Don't do sex acts in front of children. This is not hard.
Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.
+1
I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs
They should. But not at children's pools.
It was a community pool, so not an issue.
That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.
Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.
So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?
Sorry, lady, that’s not right.
I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.
Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.
People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.
I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.
I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.
Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!
There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.
Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?
Basically, yes.
Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.
For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.
So no men with erections?
I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.
Kinda makes you question their motivations…
First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.
.
Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.
I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.
If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.
Agreed?
Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.
So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.
My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.
At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.
This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.
A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.
I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.
I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.
I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.
It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.
I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.
So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.
So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.
JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.
She was wearing a bikini, wasn't she? You just don't approve of the style. And she was filming a video of her squatting for 15 mins? Did you really let 15m of this ruin your entire day at the pool? That's really sad, you could still enjoy the rest of the pool. What does this have to do with her libido?
I was actually really intrigued. It wasn't appropriate, though.
Anyway, the simple way to end all this is think of something you wouldn't find appropriate to do in front of children—there's your line. Think how you'd feel if someone crossed it. Now, and this is the hard part, imagine other people have other lines. Do your best to respect them.
Problem solved, end-of-thread, no more need for trolling.
If she's wearing a swim suit she wasn't crossing any lines, since it's been noted that most pools don't have a dress code or that this would fall within the dress code of that particular pool. If you found her behavior objectionable, you should have brought it up to the manager. We can't possibly know the "lines" that every other person has, it's inappropriate to expect every other person to read your mind (and everyone elses).
I'm not asking you for a legal reading of whether she broke the rules. I'm also not asking you whether I should've brought it up with the neighbors.
But, yes, unless you are a sociopath, you can be expected to know other people's norms. No one wants to see your genitals, a-hole or erection. It is inappropriate to show them to children in public. Don't do sex acts in front of children. This is not hard.
You're right, it's not hard. And no one is doing any of that. Stop trolling, your continuing to make stuff is tiring.
Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.
+1
I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs
They should. But not at children's pools.
It was a community pool, so not an issue.
That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.
Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.
So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?
Sorry, lady, that’s not right.
I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.
Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.
People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.
I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.
I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.
Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!
There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.
Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?
Basically, yes.
Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.
For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.
So no men with erections?
I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.
Kinda makes you question their motivations…
First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.
.
Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.
I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.
If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.
Agreed?
Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.
So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.
My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.
At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.
This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.
A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.
I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.
I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.
I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.
It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.
I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.
So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.
So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.
JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.
She was wearing a bikini, wasn't she? You just don't approve of the style. And she was filming a video of her squatting for 15 mins? Did you really let 15m of this ruin your entire day at the pool? That's really sad, you could still enjoy the rest of the pool. What does this have to do with her libido?
I was actually really intrigued. It wasn't appropriate, though.
Anyway, the simple way to end all this is think of something you wouldn't find appropriate to do in front of children—there's your line. Think how you'd feel if someone crossed it. Now, and this is the hard part, imagine other people have other lines. Do your best to respect them.
Problem solved, end-of-thread, no more need for trolling.
If she's wearing a swim suit she wasn't crossing any lines, since it's been noted that most pools don't have a dress code or that this would fall within the dress code of that particular pool. If you found her behavior objectionable, you should have brought it up to the manager. We can't possibly know the "lines" that every other person has, it's inappropriate to expect every other person to read your mind (and everyone elses).
I'm not asking you for a legal reading of whether she broke the rules. I'm also not asking you whether I should've brought it up with the neighbors.
But, yes, unless you are a sociopath, you can be expected to know other people's norms. No one wants to see your genitals, a-hole or erection. It is inappropriate to show them to children in public. Don't do sex acts in front of children. This is not hard.
You're right, it's not hard. And no one is doing any of that. Stop trolling, your continuing to make stuff is tiring.
Well, they are, and that's what people are upset about. But if we agree it shouldn't be allowed, or if you'd give us SOME limits—and really there must be something that is TOO depraved for you to do in front of children—we can settle this.
Anonymous wrote:A butt cheek doesn't bother me. At all. I shouldn't see any holes and I shouldn't see any obvious outlines of penises. That's pretty much where my line is.
Penis are normal. From what I understand, 50% of the population has them? Maybe you just aren't very familiar with them *winks*
But, yes, unless you are a sociopath, you can be expected to know other people's norms. No one wants to see your genitals, a-hole or erection. It is inappropriate to show them to children in public. Don't do sex acts in front of children. This is not hard.
PP, you're really obsessed with men 'showing erections', aren't you? Enlighten me, is there a correlation between tendency to show erections and choice in swimwear? Are men who prefer Speedos more likely to show their erections? Are Europeans more likely than Americans to show their erections around kids? Is it acceptable for men in baggier swim shorts to parade around community pool with a hard-on, just as you can't see it as well?
But, yes, unless you are a sociopath, you can be expected to know other people's norms. No one wants to see your genitals, a-hole or erection. It is inappropriate to show them to children in public. Don't do sex acts in front of children. This is not hard.
PP, you're really obsessed with men 'showing erections', aren't you? Enlighten me, is there a correlation between tendency to show erections and choice in swimwear? Are men who prefer Speedos more likely to show their erections? Are Europeans more likely than Americans to show their erections around kids? Is it acceptable for men in baggier swim shorts to parade around community pool with a hard-on, just as you can't see it as well?
Here, I'll give you the Cliff Notes: Don't show your erection to children at pools or playgrounds.
But, yes, unless you are a sociopath, you can be expected to know other people's norms. No one wants to see your genitals, a-hole or erection. It is inappropriate to show them to children in public. Don't do sex acts in front of children. This is not hard.
PP, you're really obsessed with men 'showing erections', aren't you? Enlighten me, is there a correlation between tendency to show erections and choice in swimwear? Are men who prefer Speedos more likely to show their erections? Are Europeans more likely than Americans to show their erections around kids? Is it acceptable for men in baggier swim shorts to parade around community pool with a hard-on, just as you can't see it as well?
Here, I'll give you the Cliff Notes: Don't show your erection to children at pools or playgrounds.
Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.
I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.
Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.
Ugh. Gag. I have seen this in beaches (Key West) and also in other countries. I'm a straight woman, but I don't want to see other men like this. Frankly it's disgusting, particularly when there's zero trimming involved in the butt and the hair sticks out of the thong.
I too have seen thongs at our neighborhood pool on women. I wish I didn't have to see them, but I just look away. I'm not sure what the purpose is (tan lines? That was why I used to tan topless/partially topless as a teen). Yesterday I saw a long sleeve rash guard on top, thong on bottom of a mom chasing her toddler.
Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.
+1
I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs
They should. But not at children's pools.
It was a community pool, so not an issue.
That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.
Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.
So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?
Sorry, lady, that’s not right.
I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.
Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.
People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.
I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.
I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.
Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!
There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.
Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?
Basically, yes.
Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.
For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.
So no men with erections?
I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.
Kinda makes you question their motivations…
First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.
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Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.
I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.
If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.
Agreed?
Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.
So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.
My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.
At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.
This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.
A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.
I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.
I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.
I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.
It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.
I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.
So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.
So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.
JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.
She was wearing a bikini, wasn't she? You just don't approve of the style. And she was filming a video of her squatting for 15 mins? Did you really let 15m of this ruin your entire day at the pool? That's really sad, you could still enjoy the rest of the pool. What does this have to do with her libido?
I was actually really intrigued. It wasn't appropriate, though.
Anyway, the simple way to end all this is think of something you wouldn't find appropriate to do in front of children—there's your line. Think how you'd feel if someone crossed it. Now, and this is the hard part, imagine other people have other lines. Do your best to respect them.
Problem solved, end-of-thread, no more need for trolling.
If she's wearing a swim suit she wasn't crossing any lines, since it's been noted that most pools don't have a dress code or that this would fall within the dress code of that particular pool. If you found her behavior objectionable, you should have brought it up to the manager. We can't possibly know the "lines" that every other person has, it's inappropriate to expect every other person to read your mind (and everyone elses).
I'm not asking you for a legal reading of whether she broke the rules. I'm also not asking you whether I should've brought it up with the neighbors.
But, yes, unless you are a sociopath, you can be expected to know other people's norms. No one wants to see your genitals, a-hole or erection. It is inappropriate to show them to children in public. Don't do sex acts in front of children. This is not hard.
You're right, it's not hard. And no one is doing any of that. Stop trolling, your continuing to make stuff is tiring.
Well, they are, and that's what people are upset about. But if we agree it shouldn't be allowed, or if you'd give us SOME limits—and really there must be something that is TOO depraved for you to do in front of children—we can settle this.
DP. What’s your fixation on children? It’s not appropriate to expose your genitals or perform sex acts in front of anybody of any age in public. Twerking in a thong bikini at the community pool might be cringy and thirst trappy, but it’s not indecent exposure and it’s not a sex act. Look elsewhere and keep your kids at home if you think they’ll be scarred for life by the sight of a butt cheek.
Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.
+1
I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs
They should. But not at children's pools.
It was a community pool, so not an issue.
That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.
Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.
So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?
Sorry, lady, that’s not right.
I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.
Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.
People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.
I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.
I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.
Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!
There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.
Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?
Basically, yes.
Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.
For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.
So no men with erections?
I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.
Kinda makes you question their motivations…
First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.
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Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.
I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.
If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.
Agreed?
Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.
So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.
My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.
At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.
This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.
A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.
I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.
I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.
I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.
It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.
I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.
So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.
So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.
JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.
She was wearing a bikini, wasn't she? You just don't approve of the style. And she was filming a video of her squatting for 15 mins? Did you really let 15m of this ruin your entire day at the pool? That's really sad, you could still enjoy the rest of the pool. What does this have to do with her libido?
I was actually really intrigued. It wasn't appropriate, though.
Anyway, the simple way to end all this is think of something you wouldn't find appropriate to do in front of children—there's your line. Think how you'd feel if someone crossed it. Now, and this is the hard part, imagine other people have other lines. Do your best to respect them.
Problem solved, end-of-thread, no more need for trolling.
If she's wearing a swim suit she wasn't crossing any lines, since it's been noted that most pools don't have a dress code or that this would fall within the dress code of that particular pool. If you found her behavior objectionable, you should have brought it up to the manager. We can't possibly know the "lines" that every other person has, it's inappropriate to expect every other person to read your mind (and everyone elses).
I'm not asking you for a legal reading of whether she broke the rules. I'm also not asking you whether I should've brought it up with the neighbors.
But, yes, unless you are a sociopath, you can be expected to know other people's norms. No one wants to see your genitals, a-hole or erection. It is inappropriate to show them to children in public. Don't do sex acts in front of children. This is not hard.
You're right, it's not hard. And no one is doing any of that. Stop trolling, your continuing to make stuff is tiring.
Well, they are, and that's what people are upset about. But if we agree it shouldn't be allowed, or if you'd give us SOME limits—and really there must be something that is TOO depraved for you to do in front of children—we can settle this.
DP. What’s your fixation on children? It’s not appropriate to expose your genitals or perform sex acts in front of anybody of any age in public. Twerking in a thong bikini at the community pool might be cringy and thirst trappy, but it’s not indecent exposure and it’s not a sex act. Look elsewhere and keep your kids at home if you think they’ll be scarred for life by the sight of a butt cheek.
Why am I obsessed with children? Because I understand that the point of community pools is to give them a place to play and swim.
They’re not built for the handful of adults who use them to do laps and there are tons of adult themed pool and pool events for adults who like to use pools to arrange sexual encounters. Community pools are primarily for children and adults who use them as well should be mindful of that.
Shudder. No one wants to see that. I don't want to see anyone in a thong in public.
+1
I think there are a lot of folks who would like to see certain fit men in thongs
They should. But not at children's pools.
It was a community pool, so not an issue.
That's a children's pool. Keep adult activities in your private pools.
Is it a public pool? Adults are part of the public.
So? In your estimation, anywhere adults are allowed should be used for adults to perform sexual acts?
Sorry, lady, that’s not right.
I don't see anyone performing public sex acts at pools. In fact, public sex acts are illegal.
Right, there are laws against public sex and pools have dress codes.
People in this thread want to reverse that. Why? I don't know.
I tihnk you are confusing wearing a swimsuit with sex acts. You might want to examine your life.
I'm all for swimsuits, but I draw lines at people wearing things that are designed purely to draw sexual attention who perform theatrics at a pool filled with children, trying to get the attention of potential love interests, or filming instagram or OnlyFans videos.
Oh no, people flirting at pools! There ought to be a law!
There's flirting and then there's showing your erection and twerking in a thong.
Have you seen these activities or do you just suspect that they are happening?
Basically, yes.
Teens in thongs filming Instagram thirst trap content. It’s why we have dress codes and rules of conduct.
For some reason a lot of people believe that asking people to be courteous and wear something comfortable but not erotic so that children don’t have to be forced to watch some 19yo undress and try to achieve Instagram fame is a real burden.
So no men with erections?
I think it’s wrong to display an erection at a children’s pool but the anti dress code crowd seems to feel it’s VERY important they be allowed to display one to families in public.
Kinda makes you question their motivations…
First, you will need to find a children's pool. No, a pool with children in it doesn't make it children's pool. By that logic, every restaurant is a Chucky Cheese.
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Yes, but Chucky Cheesees are also notoriously anti-erection.
I haven't seen any inappropriately dressed people in Chucky Cheese so it seems like the general public knows how to dress and behave without the moral majority running around with their 35% rules.
If you wouldn’t do it in a chucky cheese don’t do it at your community pool.
Agreed?
Why would that standard apply? No one swims in a pool fully dressed. People are wearing appropriate clothing at both locations.
So there's a dress code at your community pool? Good to hear.
My community pool dress code is that you have to wear a swimsuit. No street clothes, can’t be naked. Babies have to wear swim diapers. No listed restrictions on the type of swimsuit so thongs would be fine. I’ve never been offended on my own or my children’s behalf by anything I’ve seen at the pool.
At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was.
This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone.
A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening.
I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space.
I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved.
I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules.
It sounds like the only thing that you would've been bothered by is the inconvenience of them taking up pool side real estate.
I mean, her a-hole was pretty much visible to the crowd of children and parents floating in the shallow end, and I don't know what was up with the video, suggestive squatting or videos, but it was SOMETHING that wasn't related to do with swimming or enjoying the sun. At a minimum, if she had been wearing a normal bikini we would have all been a lot less familiar with her digestive tract, and call me old fashioned, I think that would have been better.
So nothing was actually visible, you were just trying to catch an eyeful? So if nothing was actually visible, what's your problem? You can't say you are "familiar with her digestive tract" when you didn't even see anything. Stop trolling and making shit up.
So, to sum up, you're cool with women performing sexual videos in front of children. Got it.
JFC, if we want to talk about trolling we both know you and everyone who is not completely mentally ill do not want that kind of behavior at their pools. If she had put on a bikini and restrained her libido, everything would have been fine. Communities can't have nice things if we don't try to take care of them.
She was wearing a bikini, wasn't she? You just don't approve of the style. And she was filming a video of her squatting for 15 mins? Did you really let 15m of this ruin your entire day at the pool? That's really sad, you could still enjoy the rest of the pool. What does this have to do with her libido?
I was actually really intrigued. It wasn't appropriate, though.
Anyway, the simple way to end all this is think of something you wouldn't find appropriate to do in front of children—there's your line. Think how you'd feel if someone crossed it. Now, and this is the hard part, imagine other people have other lines. Do your best to respect them.
Problem solved, end-of-thread, no more need for trolling.
If she's wearing a swim suit she wasn't crossing any lines, since it's been noted that most pools don't have a dress code or that this would fall within the dress code of that particular pool. If you found her behavior objectionable, you should have brought it up to the manager. We can't possibly know the "lines" that every other person has, it's inappropriate to expect every other person to read your mind (and everyone elses).
I'm not asking you for a legal reading of whether she broke the rules. I'm also not asking you whether I should've brought it up with the neighbors.
But, yes, unless you are a sociopath, you can be expected to know other people's norms. No one wants to see your genitals, a-hole or erection. It is inappropriate to show them to children in public. Don't do sex acts in front of children. This is not hard.
You're right, it's not hard. And no one is doing any of that. Stop trolling, your continuing to make stuff is tiring.
Well, they are, and that's what people are upset about. But if we agree it shouldn't be allowed, or if you'd give us SOME limits—and really there must be something that is TOO depraved for you to do in front of children—we can settle this.
DP. What’s your fixation on children? It’s not appropriate to expose your genitals or perform sex acts in front of anybody of any age in public. Twerking in a thong bikini at the community pool might be cringy and thirst trappy, but it’s not indecent exposure and it’s not a sex act. Look elsewhere and keep your kids at home if you think they’ll be scarred for life by the sight of a butt cheek.
I'm pretty sure this is the poster from a few pages back that said they'd ogle a 16 year old girl wearing a thong and encourage their sons to as well. Maybe they now feel extreme guilt and shame over outing themselves as a pedophile and are trying to backtrack as much as possible.
Anonymous wrote:I work hard for my body, and until Sharia law is enacted in the US, I'm showing it of. #sorrynotsorry
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I work hard for mine too. But have no need to show it off to anyone. I’m not that desperate for attention.
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Wait for it, they’re going to invoke French people or Miami in a minute to explain, to you, a woman, why you insist on improperly sexualizing thongs. You know, the item of clothing that has just one purpose - to be sexually enticing!
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