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Does your community pool have a dress code?
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Anonymous
There needs to be an age/weight limit on thongs |
Anonymous
At my community pool this weekend a woman in early 40s, in a VERY small thong—not a slightly cheeky bikini, barely more than a g-string— stood next to the shallow-end of the pool and did deep squats and waist bends while her tattooed boyfriend took pictures and the two laughed hysterically. For like 15 minutes. I honestly have no idea what they were doing, but they didn't stop so that kids could walk through with their swimmies and pool noodles. It was bizarre and not appropriate, sexual or whatever it was. This weekend I also saw two brazilian women, in their early 20s, one with a cheeky bikini and one with a full-on thong. They sat at one end of the pool, chatted with each other and kept to themselves. They were clearly enjoying lounging by the pool in swimsuits they found comfortable. Their look was undeniably sexy and I defy anyone to say they were not thinking "Oh, I look sexy" when they chose their suits. But they also weren't bothering anyone, weren't getting in the way of the families and children who compose 70 percent of pool clientele, and were seeking their own space. Would I feel comfortable seeing my daughter, wife or mother in a public place that nearly naked? No. But they weren't bothering anyone. A thong clearly does not automatically make the situation inappropriate, but thongs (and speedos) do have an attractiveness component to their use. ANd don't pretend weird stuff, inappropriate stuff, intrusive stuff is not happening. I think a code of conduct more than a dress code would've solved the first situation, but I also think the best answer is for people to read the room. If you're going to a community pool where there are lots of families, don't use it as your space to do weird, partially nude theatrics or to attract sexual attention. There are tons of pools that cater to singles and couples who are there to party and look sexy—a lot of the downtown hotels have specifically themed pool events for it. If you are compelled to wear something really, really revealing, be respectful of the fact that not everyone else is on the same page or has the same interests, and you're in a shared space. I know people will freak out and say that I have no right to tell them what to do with their body, and while that's not entirely true (dress codes and codes of conduct are legit things), it would be best that when in a shared space, we all act considerately towards other. Problem solved. |
Anonymous
This is such a cold heartless way to look at the world. "You can't tell me what to do if it's not the law!" Seriously, what motivates someone to live like that? We wouldn't NEED laws if people just were more thoughtful of the shared spaces we all use. |
Anonymous
I have actually lived there, and while the government allows tourists to get away with all sorts of dress and behavior that are unacceptable for the locals (because they want the tourist revenue), it makes the actual citizens of Dubai extremely uncomfortable and it is, IMO, incredibly entitled and disrespectful behavior. Have YOU ever been? Other than as an entitled tourist literally showing your ass in public, that is? |
Anonymous
I've never seen a man in a thong at a community pool, though I'm sure there's some french dudes doing it somewhere around here. There are plenty of aggressive men in speedos who like to stand over young women trying to tan, blocking their light. Don't know what that's about, but I'm sure people here can rationalize it as normal and not at all sexual or threatening. |
Anonymous
I don't think it's cold or heartless, it's simple and easy to understand. We already have laws, why not use their structure and framework while implementing other policies? It's a lot easier to just refer to the law than make up something entirely new and have to justify it to patrons. YMMV, but in general I'm a fan of clear and simple when it comes to "rules". |
Anonymous
I’m the PP who said I’d never been offended at my local pool. I would have been very annoyed by your first situation! But I don’t think it has anything to do with what they were wearing and everything to do with being rude and in the way. If the woman had be doing obnoxious calisthenics in a burqini and not letting children play/using the pool for a weird photo op, that would be equally annoying. I don’t think this is the kind of thing a code of conduct (or a dress code) solves. My pools has as mentioned a minimalist dress code and similarly minimal code of conduct (nothing you’ve listed would violate it) and yet I’ve never had my swimming time disrupted like that. It’s about the people in the community not the rules. |
Anonymous
Don't you think life would be so much easier with arbitrary community standards wherever we went? I can't imagine how that would be abused. /s |
Anonymous
My aunt owns a condo there, and yes I've been. There is no issue with bikinis at beaches or hotel pools. If tourists are walking around in bikinis elsewhere, then yes, that is looked down upon. But at actual swimming areas? It's quite common and I've never heard complaints from locals. Just like during ramadan, they don't expect tourists to follow their religious customs. I've never heard a tourist called disrespectful because they drank a bottle of water while out during the day even if locals are abstaining. |
Anonymous
I'm not sure I follow, aren't laws basically arbitrary community standards? |
Anonymous
They are codified and written down, not "read the room." |
Anonymous
That only happens on beaches where the creep can run away or blend in with a crowd. I've never seen it happen at a community pool and doubt it would be tolerated. |
Anonymous
Are these children's beaches? |
Anonymous
They’re a polite people. They’re not going to lecture some random foreign stranger. But dressing that way there is 100% disrespectful. And I’m sure you realize that… you just.don’t.care |
Anonymous
Wearing swim suits at the beach or pool is not disrespectful. |